
Self to Lose, Self to Find
Using the Enneagram to Uncover Your True, God-Gifted Self
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The Enneagram - a system of nine interconnected personality types - has been developed over many years to offer opportunities for personal development and provide a foundation for understanding others. Now a certified Enneagram coach shows how a scriptural perspective can lead us to a path of freedom.
In Self to Lose, Self to Find, Marilyn Vancil unpacks our human dilemma, sets the scriptural foundation, explores the nine Enneagram personalities, and shows us practical ways to have a more meaningful life and healthier relationships. At its best, the Enneagram doesn't merely describe who we are, but shows us why we do what we do. It invites us to see the innate gifts and inclinations of our original design-the person we were before trials and traumas began to shape us. It also reveals the strategies and false narratives that keep us from becoming who we're truly meant to be.
Vancil offers a compelling biblical case for the Enneagram by drawing from John 12:24, which describes how we, like seeds, construct a protective coat that helps us survive in a world where we encounter challenges and insecurities. But for us to truly live a fruitful life, we must allow the protective coat to soften and fall away in order to grow.
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- Kay Cee
- 06-06-22
Life-changing!
This book was introduced to the staff at my church and the writer did a workshop with us. I had only taken the test and read the first chapter at that time. I just listened to the entire book and it is life changing! If you take it seriously, you will truly learn about your gifts and strengths but also begin to allow yourself grace and forgiveness in the areas you struggle with.
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- Malyndi Shaffer
- 06-26-23
Many “Holy Ahas”
This was a great read with many moments that led to deep reflection. I’ve put a lot of work into myself over the past 6 years, so following the “OWN-UP” method felt familiar for me. This book can help people dig deeper into who they are and find ways to map out who they are becoming. I highly suggest reading it.
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- Jennifier
- 08-17-21
This book is LIFE-CHANGING ...
IF you allow it to. PLEASE read this book with a mind open to change. Thank you Marilyn Vancil.
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