
Who the F*ck Am I?
The People Pleaser's Guide to Self-Love
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Jennifer Layer
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Jennifer Layer
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Are you trying your hardest to be a better you, but still feel like it’s not enough? Looking for fulfillment, but stuck with an empty cup? Struggling to communicate and connect with others? Do you question who you are?
Constantly contorting yourself into prescribed molds of who you think you are supposed to be is an exhausting reality with which author Jennifer Layer is deeply familiar.
In this audiobook, she untangles the sticky web of people-pleasing patterns she'd cultivated throughout her life - patterns she thought kept her safe and loved, only to find that they silently tore her apart and left her empty.
Whether you’re a textbook people-pleaser or just struggle with filling your own cup, this listen provides companionship and tools to help you manage your emotions, actions, and thoughts, so you can create a more peaceful and balanced relationship with yourself and the world around you.
You’re not as alone as you think. Let’s grow together, shall we?
©2021 Jennifer Layer (P)2021 Jennifer LayerListeners also enjoyed...
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- PearlGirl
- 05-14-24
Amazing
I absolutely love this book The Way She read it and told her story it was so close to home for me it was as if she was almost telling my story through her. she also gave some great advice on things that I also need to work on and I'm going to start working on because it was almost as if she was talking to me as well so yes I would highly highly recommend this book
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- Michael J Roberts
- 11-20-23
Very helpful!
Learning to love yourself is difficult and the author really simplifies the process. I’ve grown as a result of listening to this book.
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- 09-18-22
Helped me take a look at traits I have denied
I felt like I was looking into a mirror, I am currently going through a divorce from a loveless marriage and what the author described was me to a t. I always thought I loved myself but now I realized that I have sought validation from others to justify my self worth. This book is eye opening for any people pleasers.
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- Jen
- 10-25-21
Heart warming
Feels like she’s sitting right next to me on the couch, talking to me as a friend. No shame, no demands. Only love. And God knows I now have more tools to love myself better.
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