
Training in Tenderness
Buddhist Teachings on Tsewa, the Radical Openness of Heart That Can Change the World
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Jessica Kaye
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Dzigar Kongtrul
About this listen
A little guide to cultivating tsewa: the loving warmth of heart from which the awakened mind arises - from the popular Buddhist teacher and author of The Intelligent Heart.
This is a call to a revolution of heart. In Tibetan Buddhism, it is taught that one of the most essential qualities of enlightenment is tsewa, a form of warm energy and openness of heart. It is the warmth we express and receive through empathy with others, especially those closest to us. In this compact gem of an audiobook, Dzigar Kongtrul opens the door to this life-changing energy and shows us how to transform our attitude toward ourselves and those around us through its practice. And through its practice, we can actually heal our fractured world.
This is a guide to the building blocks of compassion and the purest and deepest form of happiness. And with these tools, we can awaken the most powerful force in the world - a tender, open heart.
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- Kmkeeney
- 09-12-19
lovely open hearted book on Buddhism
Loved listening to this book such a gentle straightforward look at the tenants of Buddhism. Practical ways that you can live as a Buddhist and change yourself and the world around you
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- Erin Caselman
- 11-25-18
so insightful
Such an excellent and beneficial perspective on living life to its fullest potential. I will be listening to this repeatedly
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- JEK
- 08-04-24
An Absolutely Wonderful Book
One of the most beautiful and inspiring books I’ve ever read and one I will return to again and again
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- Anonymous User
- 05-08-23
Yes. Yes, please.
I have listened 3 times. Rinpoche offers important reminders for keeping our hearts open again and again.
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- Frank
- 06-05-21
Wonderful transmission of the dharma
Wow, Dzigar Kongtrul has a wonderfully poetic, simple, and relatable way of teaching the Dharma. I have learned so much about my path listening to his books, and this one is no different. The narrator does a wonderful job as well, very well spoken and good pronunciation.
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- Oliver
- 11-18-19
Relaxing, relevant and helpful
Very nice book with relevant topics. The narrator has a relaxing voice as well. Highly recommend.
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