
The Selfish Romantic
How to Date Without Feeling Bad About Yourself
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Narrated by:
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Michelle Elman
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By:
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Michelle Elman
About this listen
• How many people are walking through the world convinced that they have to settle?
• How many people are being treated badly because they think they don't tick desirable boxes?
• What would happen if you didn't limit yourself by seeing yourself as a bunch of labels, and instead saw yourself as a catch?
• How fun would it be to be single without questioning your loveability, to date without taking rejection personally, and to have sex without hating your body?
Nearly every question life coach and queen of boundaries Michelle Elman is asked relates to one subject: dating.
Including unravelling myths about single life, changing your dating mindset, dealing with ghosting, text etiquette and taking relationships offline, The Selfish Romantic will teach you how to empower your love life like never before.
Combining Michelle's expertise in boundaries and body positivity, this is your guide to navigating the modern dating landscape.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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Critic reviews
"This is the relationship guide you won't get from a one-line Instagram post, and that you absolutely need if you want to date without losing yourself." (Megan Jayne Crabbe)
"In a world where dating advice seems to come either too late, too confusing or too strict, The Selfish Romantic makes dating fun again by reminding you that you are the one to prioritize and fall in love with. I wish I had this book when I was younger and dating! A book for any age trying to enter into partnership." (Kenzie Brenna)
"If you've ever had questions about dating and if it was about you, The Selfish Romantic is here to walk you through those tough times to remind you of your worth and give you answers to questions you sometimes long to get from the partner involved. It's okay to feel lost at times in the dating world although it's not okay to blame yourself. Michelle allows you to identify what means something to you and how to lift your worth up by finding the love for oneself first." (Hayley Hasselhoff)