
Prodependence
Moving Beyond Codependency
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Robert Weiss
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Human beings are meant to work together, not to go it alone. We enter the world reliant on others for shelter, nutrition, and emotional support, and these core requirements to do not change as we grow older. Yet somehow, as we move into adulthood, our intrinsic need for emotional connection (i.e., love) gets discounted. This despite the fact that people who spend their lives "apart from" rather than "a part of" do not function as well as those who feel emotionally connected.
Nowhere is this more apparent than when dealing with addiction. Nevertheless, loved ones of addicts, instead of being encouraged to care for themselves as well as their addicted loved one, are often encouraged to care for themselves instead of their addicted loved one.
Prodependence, a new psychological term created by Robert Weiss to describe healthy interdependence in the modern world, turns this around. Rather that preaching detachment and distance over continued bonding and assistance, as so many therapists, self-help books, and 12-step groups currently do, prodependence celebrates the human need for and pursuit of intimate connection, viewing this as a positive force for change. Simply stated, prodependence occurs when attachment relationships are mutually beneficial - with one person's strengths filling in the weak points of the other, and vice versa. And this can occur even when an addiction is present.
In Prodependence, Weiss presents a research-based social and psychological understanding of human interdependence, accepting and even celebrating human interdependency in ways that are healthy and life-affirming for each person. This groundbreaking work presents a new paradigm for useful and healthy support, offering both the lay person and professional an evolved prism through which he or she can examine, evaluate, and improve not just relationships affected by addiction (though that's the primary focus of this audiobook), but relationships in general.
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- Dutchie in Seattle
- 03-03-20
Keep an Open Mind
Having been introduced by my mother to the books Co-dependent No More and Women Who Love Too Much as a child, it always felt a little shaming and wrong to support those we loved who were addicts or whose behaviour was not healthy. This book sheds a more positive light on that love and offers hope and support that it is in fact not wrong, but courageous and admirable.
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- Anonymous User
- 10-31-18
No such thing as loving too much!!
I love how Rob compares it to someone being diagnosed with cancer...
No one would bat an eye if we continued to care for our loved one in that situation yet when we care for the addict, we are Codependent?!?! I think not! Thank you for such a great book Rob!
#prodependentforlife
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- Shea
- 09-22-19
Brilliant and long overdue
It’s time to stop shaming and blaming and pathologizing those close to the addict. I encourage everyone who has love an addict to read this book
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- Julia
- 11-10-18
Caring for the Support Community -- finally.
A real, and respectful support model for those who love people with issues. I'm sending this book everywhere and bringing it to my church.
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- Violet B.
- 12-18-18
Preatty innovating
Very insightful in to how the other half lives and perceives
Life with an addict.
Its about time this idea took off.
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- Deanne Nguyen
- 12-28-21
Just what I needed but wish there was more
As the spouse of an addict, I felt deeply heard and seen for my efforts to keep our marriage together. This book was just what I needed to break free of the constant negative “codependency” idea. I just wish I had more tools that I could apply to my own situation, but perhaps that has to be done in therapy.
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- Kim Garrett
- 07-10-21
A game-changer.
As a psychotherapist for over 30 years, I found this book to be incredibly helpful in reframing what I have seen in my office. Kudos to Dr. Weiss!
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- lianne clifford
- 02-09-23
Very helpful book
Thank you for writing this book. I appreciate the concepts and support in this book.
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- Amazon Customer
- 05-19-19
Life changing for addict and caregiver
I am the addict and my husband the caregiver and for 7 months following disclosure of addiction, we have gone through 30+ books trying to help us through this most difficult time of our life. My husband first started listening to it and recommended it to me. I reluctantly started listening since so many books have failed my expectation and need for recovery. On the other hand, this book has changed me and my caregiving husband. It sheds such a different light on what and why addicts become addicts and why caregivers shouldn’t be blamed for the attempts to help the addict. PLEASE, before purchasing another audio book on addiction and co dependence, listen to this book!!!!! I can’t express my love for it enough.
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- Dan Cook
- 11-03-22
Advancing our understanding of our selves
I appreciate this exploration of the importance of our connection and emotional support of one another. He helps me better understand the need to move beyond indepedence to interdependence
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