July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

Host: Tina White, The Trigger and The Truth

🎙️ Series Launch Intro: DARVO In Real Life – Mask Off

“Let me tell you how we got here…

A couple weeks ago, I received a text message from my beloved niece.

Someone I love like my own child.

A young girl who, in a different life, would've been sleeping peacefully in the guest room at my house again this summer.

She asked if she could come stay with me.

And my first instinct? Of course, yes.

That’s what love says. That’s what family says.

But here’s the problem...

She’s the daughter of the same sibling who violently assaulted me in February 2020.

The same sibling who pointed a gun at me.

The same sibling who launched a smear campaign against my name when I spoke the truth.

And suddenly, I found myself caught between the person I used to be—the fixer, the protector, the one who put everybody’s needs before her own.

And the woman I’ve fought like hell to become through therapy, boundaries, and healing.

Over two days, I spoke with both her parents.

Even after I told my niece’s mom not to give him my number, my sibling called me anyway.

And I answered. I let him speak. He asked if his daughter could stay with me.

At first, I said yes.

Out of habit. Out of love for that little girl.

But after sleeping on it... consulting with my circle... and sitting in my truth...

I realized:

I can’t go back.

I won’t go back.

So I sent the text that closed the door.

And just like that—the fake politeness, the pretend apology, it all evaporated.

His true colors showed, just like they did that day outside the real estate office.

The same rage. The same manipulation.

And in that moment, I realized something deeper:

This isn’t just family drama.

This is DARVO.

Deny. Attack. Reverse Victim and Offender.

A manipulation tactic where the person who harms you denies it ever happened, attacks your character, and then plays the victim when you protect yourself.

And I almost got caught in it again.

Almost.

But therapy showed me the trap.

Healing showed me the pattern.

And wisdom told me no.

Even when your heart is breaking…

Even when a child you love is caught in the crossfire…

Protecting your peace sometimes means saying no to the innocent because the guilty still refuse to change.

That’s the cost of healing.

And that’s why I’m launching this series.

Over the next four days, I’m going to walk you through how DARVO plays out in real life, far beyond the textbooks and TED Talks:

➡️ Day 1: The Betrayal Nobody Saw Coming – How it all began.

➡️ Day 2: When Silence Becomes Survival – What happens when your truth gets buried beneath their lies.

➡️ Day 3: Rebuilding from the Rubble – Therapy, boundaries, and reclaiming my business and my peace.

➡️ Day 4: The Power of Truth – Why your story matters, even if they never admit what they did.

This is DARVO in Real Life: Mask Off.

No more cover-ups. No more pretending.

Just the truth.

And if this is your story too

I want you to know:

You’re not alone.

🎧 Stream the full series wherever you get your podcasts.

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Host: Tina White

Podcast: The Trigger and The Truth

Series: July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

In today’s episode of The Trigger and The Truth, we’re pulling back the curtain on a reality many of us get caught in—the carefully curated facade of social media.

We live in a world where success is filtered, happiness is staged, and highlight reels have replaced honesty. But what’s the cost of chasing a life that looks good online but feels empty offline?

I’m breaking down the mental health toll of constantly comparing yourself to someone else’s performance. From anxiety and depression to disconnection and burnout, we’re diving into how this digital pressure impacts entrepreneurs, working moms, and women trying to build their business while holding onto their peace.

Most importantly, we’ll explore how to break free from this social media trap and build a life you don’t have to filter to love.

• The hidden dangers of selective sharing and staged success stories
• Why comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone’s highlight reel destroys your peace
• The emotional and mental health impact of the “social media hustle culture”
• How to set boundaries with social media to protect your emotional mastery
• Practical ways to detox from comparison and focus on what really matters
• How the Pick Up The Pieces: 21 Day Emotional Mastery Strategy for Black Women in Business can help you reclaim your peace in the digital age

✔️ Social media is curated content, not complete truth. Stop comparing your real life to someone’s filtered moments.

✔️ Protect your mental health by defining success on your terms, not Instagram’s.

✔️ Emotional mastery means knowing when to unplug and reconnect with your real life.

• Social Media Detox: Take 1 day off this week and reconnect with your real life.
• Reality Check Journal: Reflect when comparison creeps in—what’s real vs. what’s edited?
• Define Your Own Success: Write your personal definition of success and keep it visible.

📓 Pick Up The Pieces: 21 Day Emotional Mastery Strategy for Black Women in Business — Available now!

🎧 Listen to more episodes of The Trigger and The Truth on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Audible, and YouTube.

If this message spoke to your soul, share it with a friend who’s tired of performing and ready to start living.

Connect with Tina White:

Instagram: @thetriggerandthetruth

Podcast Hotline: 718-440-5538

Email: thetriggerandthetruth@gmail.com

Host: Tina White

Podcast: The Trigger and The Truth

Series: July Spotlight – Mental Health & Entrepreneurship

You’re not in bed all day. You’re not crying in a corner.

You’re working. You’re posting. You’re performing.

But inside? You’re unraveling.

In this episode of The Trigger and The Truth, Tina White unpacks the silent epidemic of functional burnout—a state where high performance masks emotional depletion. Especially common among Black women in business, functional burnout is often misdiagnosed as ambition when it’s actually survival on autopilot.

Tina gets real about how this type of burnout shows up:

• Smiling while secretly shutting down
• Overproducing out of fear, not alignment
• Feeling like you’re doing everything, yet going nowhere emotionally

You’ll also learn why emotional mastery—not another productivity hack—is the key to breaking free.

What You'll Walk Away With:

✔️ Clarity on how burnout can hide behind “success”

✔️ Tools to pause, regulate, and reset—without guilt

✔️ Why emotional intelligence is your true business strategy

✔️ A mindset shift to reclaim your peace while growing your brand

Resources Mentioned:

📘 Pick Up The Pieces: 21-Day Emotional Mastery Strategy for Black Women in Business

🎧 More episodes at: https://the-trigger-and-the.captivate.fm/listen

💬 Connect with Tina on Instagram: @triggerandtruthpod

Call to Action:

If this episode spoke to the storm behind your smile, share it with another woman who’s been grinding through burnout. And don’t forget—you don’t have to fall apart to rest.