Episodes

  • Do Old Thoughts Die?

    Do Old Thoughts Die?
    Jul 8 2025
    Do old negative thoughts ever really go away? In today’s episode of The Mindset Architect Podcast, Tony Caliendo dives deep into this powerful question. Discover why your old thoughts keep coming back, how they impact your success, and what you can do to manage them effectively.

    Here’s what you’ll learn:
    ✔️ Why old thoughts never completely disappear
    ✔️ How to reframe negative thinking using the Byron Katie model
    ✔️ The surprising statistic about how many of your thoughts are negative
    ✔️ How to label your thought loops and reclaim your power
    ✔️ Practical strategies to anchor yourself to positivity daily
    ✔️ Why your brain defaults to negativity and how to flip the script

    If you’re ready to take control of your mindset and stop being hijacked by old limiting beliefs, this episode is a must-listen.

    👉 Listen now to unlock tools that will transform your thinking and your results.

    💡 Remember: If you found value in this episode, leave us a 5-star review on your favorite podcast platform. It helps others discover The Mindset Architect Podcast and fuels our mission to empower more lives.

    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Welcome to The Mindset Architect Podcast
    00:35 Do old thoughts ever really die?
    02:00 Review of Thoughts Drive All Results (Episode 70)
    03:00 Why old thoughts keep coming back
    04:15 The reality: Old thoughts never disappear
    05:15 Understanding your 60,000 daily thoughts
    06:20 80% of thoughts are negative – why that matters
    07:30 Old thoughts aren’t facts, just familiar patterns
    09:00 The Byron Katie four-question model explained
    12:00 Labeling the loop vs. living in the loop
    13:30 Installing a thought filter – choosing what deserves attention
    15:30 Flipping the script – reframing negative thoughts
    17:20 Anchoring to the good instead of chasing it
    19:00 Visualizing an upgrade, not an escape
    21:00 Flooding your mind intentionally with positivity
    23:30 Final thoughts – old thoughts never die but you can manage them
    24:40 Free one-hour strategy session with Tony
    25:10 Join the Mindset Architect Group Coaching Program
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    26 mins
  • Resist The Drift

    Resist The Drift
    Jul 1 2025
    Are you feeling off track lately? Losing focus mid-year is common – but it doesn’t mean you’re lazy or unmotivated. In this powerful episode of the Mindset Architect Podcast, Tony Caliendo reveals the silent danger of drift and why it sneaks up on even the most driven entrepreneurs and leaders.

    🔥 Here’s what you’ll learn:
    • What “drift” really is and why it destroys momentum
    • 7 ways drift shows up in your business and life
    • How comfort sabotages clarity without you knowing
    • Why your recent wins might kill future hunger
    • The real difference between pivoting and progress
    • How to embrace your new identity to achieve bigger goals

    Don’t let drift rob you of your purpose and progress. These insights will help you reconnect, realign, and reset so you finish this year strong and intentional.

    👉 Enjoyed this episode? Leave us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify to help others discover the Mindset Architect Podcast. Your support keeps us creating content to help you build the life and business you truly want.

    📞 Book a free coaching call: https://calendly.com/tony-rethinkcoaching/30min?month=2023-10

    🔗 To get more information about Tony and reTHINK Coaching - http://www.rethinkcoaching.com/

    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Introduction – What is Drift?
    01:00 Why Drift Happens Mid-Year
    02:00 The Quiet Danger of Drift Explained
    03:00 1. Subtle Sabotage: Comfort vs. Clarity
    06:00 Identifying Your Comfort Rituals
    08:00 2. Achievement Amnesia: Wins Killing Future Hunger
    10:00 Creating Post-Win Rituals
    12:00 3. Invisible Exhaustion: Overstimulation & Overwhelm
    14:00 Practical Tips to Reset Overstimulation
    16:00 4. Vision Gets Vague, Actions Become Random
    18:00 Living in Your Future Vision Daily
    20:00 5. Mistaking Pivoting for Progress
    23:00 Avoiding Shiny Object Syndrome
    25:00 6. Feedback Starvation: The Power of External Mirrors
    27:00 Hiring a Coach to Overcome Drift
    28:00 7. Identity Lag: Your Goals vs. Your Self-Image
    31:00 Embracing Your New Identity to Accelerate Success
    34:00 Final Thoughts – Drift is Not Brokenness
    36:00 Free Strategy Session Invitation
    37:00 Join the Mindset Architect Group Coaching Program
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    27 mins
  • Just Me and My Shadow

    Just Me and My Shadow
    Jun 24 2025
    In Episode 95 of the Mindset Architect Podcast, host Tony Caliendo takes a powerful solo walk—literally and metaphorically—into the topic of shadow work. What started as a sunny walk in Santa Fe turns into a profound exploration of the unseen forces that silently shape our decisions, leadership style, pricing, self-worth, and relationships.

    In this episode, Tony reveals:
    ✅ What your shadow actually is—and how it follows you everywhere (even if you can’t see it).
    ✅ The surprising signs your shadow is running the show: triggers, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and undercharging.
    ✅ How childhood stories create adult patterns that limit your growth.
    ✅ Actionable tools to bring your shadow into the light—journaling prompts, mirror work, inner visualization, and shadow dialogue.
    ✅ Why doing this work increases productivity, eliminates self-doubt, and leads to peace and purpose.

    Whether you’re a business owner, leader, or someone on a journey of personal development, this episode offers deep insights into how shadow work can unlock real transformation—if you’re willing to look inward.

    👉 Like what you hear? Leave a 5-star review and share this episode with someone who needs it.

    📞 Book a free coaching call: https://calendly.com/tony-rethinkcoaching/30min?month=2023-10

    🔗 To get more information about Tony and reTHINK Coaching - http://www.rethinkcoaching.com/

    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Welcome to Episode 95 – A Walk With Insight
    01:05 Realization: Seeing My Shadow for the First Time in a While
    02:15 What Is Shadow Work—and Why It Matters
    03:30 How Hidden Patterns Sabotage Your Business and Leadership
    05:00 Signs Your Shadow Is Impacting Your Success
    07:00 Triggers and Projection – What They Reveal
    09:00 Tracing the Shadow Back to Childhood Roots
    10:30 Personal Story: Growing Up and Learning Silence
    12:00 Modesty, Marketing, and Shadow Beliefs
    13:00 Journaling Prompt: When Did You Start Hiding Parts of Yourself?
    14:00 Reclaiming Your Shadow as a Source of Power
    15:00 How Shadow Traits Become Superpowers (Empathy, Structure, etc.)
    16:00 Tools for Shadow Work – Journaling, Mirror Work, Visualization
    17:30 Shadow Dialogue: Letting the Shadow Speak
    18:30 Working With a Coach or Therapist for Shadow Integration
    19:15 The Promise: Productivity and Peace After Shadow Work
    20:00 Why Overthinking, Perfectionism, and Self-Doubt Persist
    21:00 Productivity Becomes Purpose-Driven, Not Pressure-Driven
    22:00 Summary: Recognizing, Tracing, and Reclaiming Your Shadow
    24:00 Final Thoughts and Free Strategy Session Invitation
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    26 mins
  • Midyear With a Twist

    Midyear With a Twist
    Jun 17 2025
    In Episode 94 of The Mindset Architect Podcast, Master Coach Tony Caliendo delivers a timely and powerful midyear mindset reset. As we hit the halfway mark of 2025, it’s time to get honest, intentional, and strategic.

    Tony walks you through seven high-impact reflection points designed to help entrepreneurs, leaders, and high performers take control of their second half. Whether you’re on track, a bit behind, or feel completely off course, this episode offers actionable tools to shift your trajectory without shame—and with renewed focus.

    Key Takeaways
    • Why midyear isn’t just a check-in—it’s a pivot point
    • How to evaluate your progress without beating yourself up
    • The danger of “reacting” vs. intentionally directing your business
    • The power of small wins and why you must celebrate them
    • How redirection is not failure—it’s wisdom
    • Why high performers pause smarter, not push harder
    • A blueprint to reclaim your mindset, energy, and purpose

    📈 If you’re feeling overwhelmed, off track, or simply ready to elevate—this episode is your turning point.

    👇 Drop a comment below—What’s ONE thing you’re going to pivot in the second half of 2025?

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    🔗 To get more information about Tony and reTHINK Coaching - http://www.rethinkcoaching.com/

    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Welcome to Episode 94: Midyear With a Twist
    01:25 The Power of the Midyear Check-In
    02:55 On Track, Behind, or Way Off? What Now?
    04:10 The Case for a Powerful Pivot
    05:15 Are You Reacting—or Intentionally Directing?
    06:00 Celebrating the Wins (Yes, Even the Small Ones)
    07:00 Redirection Is Not Failure—It’s Wisdom
    09:20 Why Strategy Tweaks Are Necessary
    10:00 The Power of a Strategic Pause
    12:30 Working *On* vs. Working *In* Your Business
    14:05 Reclaiming Your Intentionality
    16:15 Overcoming the Busywork Trap
    18:00 Who Did You Become This Year?
    20:15 Handling External Noise and Division
    21:50 Rebuilding Your Blueprint for the Rest of 2025
    23:10 Core Values, Mindset, and Vision Alignment
    25:00 Train Your Brain to Celebrate Progress
    26:30 Stacking Small Wins for Big Results
    27:15 Final Recap: 7 Keys to Reclaim Midyear Momentum
    28:20 Free Coaching Call Invite
    29:00 Outro: Make It a Great Week!
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    30 mins
  • The Answer is Always No if you Don't Ask

    The Answer is Always No if you Don't Ask
    Jun 10 2025
    Ever wondered why you aren't closing more sales or getting referrals consistently? The answer might be simpler than you think: you're not asking! In this powerful episode of the Mindset Architect Podcast, host Tony Caliendo breaks down one of the most fundamental yet overlooked truths in sales and life: "The Answer is Always No if You Don't Ask."

    Tony explores how to confidently ask for what you want without feeling pushy or fearing rejection. You'll learn to differentiate between pushiness and confidence, understand the importance of clarity in your requests, and discover why permission-based selling and effective follow-up can skyrocket your success. Plus, Tony provides practical tips on how to seamlessly integrate referral requests into your daily interactions.Key takeaways include:
    • Why hearing 'no' is valuable feedback, not personal rejection.
    • How clear and direct communication boosts sales effectiveness.
    • The difference between confident selling and being pushy.
    • Proven strategies for permission-based selling and successful follow-ups.
    • Simple techniques to normalize asking for referrals.
    Don't miss this episode packed with actionable strategies to increase your sales, referrals, and overall business confidence.

    🎧 Enjoyed the episode? Please leave us a 5-star review on your favorite podcast platform!

    📞 Book a free coaching call: https://calendly.com/tony-rethinkcoaching/30min?month=2023-10

    🔗 To get more information about Tony and reTHINK Coaching - http://www.rethinkcoaching.com/

    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Introduction: The Importance of Asking
    01:00 Rejection is Data, Not Personal
    03:00 You Can't Get What You Don't Ask For
    05:30 Clarity Sells: Be Direct and Clear
    07:45 Confidence vs. Pushiness
    10:00 Permission-Based Selling Opportunities
    12:00 Fortune in the Follow-Up
    15:00 How Effective Follow-Up Wins Sales
    18:00 Asking for Referrals Naturally
    21:00 Real-Life Examples of Asking Effectively
    22:00 Recap of the Seven Key Points
    23:00 Final Thoughts & How to Connect
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    25 mins
  • Focus can be Distracting

    Focus can be Distracting
    Jun 3 2025
    Can Focus Actually Hold You Back? Here’s Why It Might Be Sabotaging Your Success

    In this eye-opening episode of The Mindset Architect Podcast, Master Coach Tony Caliendo explores a counterintuitive truth: your hyper-focus might be limiting your growth. Drawing from real-life coaching experiences, NLP strategies, and even early morning yoga drives, Tony reveals how singular focus can blind you to opportunities, feedback, and creative solutions.
    You’ll discover:
    • Why tunnel vision leads to missed data and wasted effort.
    • How to balance task-driven goals with a broader, results-focused mindset.
    • The difference between action goals and result goals—and why it matters.
    • How to leverage feedback and reflection to optimize your performance.
    • Simple mindset shifts that improve clarity, creativity, and connection.

    Tony shares tactical ways to expand your “peripheral vision” in both business and life, helping you stay productive without becoming blind to the bigger picture.

    📩 Interested in a free 1-on-1 strategy session? Reach out at rethinkcoaching.com or email Tony directly at tony@rethinkcoaching.com.

    ✅ Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more actionable coaching insights.

    💬 If this episode shifted your perspective, leave us a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Your support helps others find this show!

    CHAPTERS
    00:00 Welcome & Episode Intro
    01:12 The Hidden Problem with Hyper-Focus
    02:28 Yoga Story: Missing the Journey
    04:07 How Business Focus Mirrors Life Patterns
    05:42 Action Goals vs. Result Goals
    06:50 The 100 Conversations Mistake
    08:20 Are You Really Listening During Calls?
    09:15 The Cost of Ignoring Feedback
    10:45 Finding a Better Route in Business
    12:05 Shift from Task Completion to Vision Alignment
    13:28 Live Into the Vision—Daily
    15:01 Why Broader Focus Drives Better Results
    16:22 Peripheral Awareness Improves Performance
    17:30 The Role of Reflection and Gratitude
    18:30 Final Challenge: Expand Your Field of View
    19:30 Free Strategy Session Invite
    20:00 Group Coaching Program Promo
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    20 mins
  • You Teach People How To Treat You

    You Teach People How To Treat You
    May 27 2025
    In this powerful episode, master coach Tony Caliendo breaks down one of the most transformational principles for business and life: You teach people how to treat you. If you’ve ever felt undervalued, disrespected, or taken for granted—in your career, your personal life, or with clients—this episode is a game-changer.

    Tony shares how setting boundaries, developing self-respect, communicating clearly, and recognizing patterns can radically shift how others treat you. He also dives into the real consequences of tolerating poor behavior and how to finally stop the cycle by owning your worth.

    Key Takeaways:
    ✅ Why people treat you the way they do—and how you’re teaching them
    ✅ The role of boundaries and standards in earning respect
    ✅ How self-worth influences every relationship
    ✅ Clear communication tips to reinforce your expectations
    ✅ Recognizing behavioral patterns (good or bad) and correcting course
    ✅ How this principle completely changed Tony’s coaching and real estate careers

    Whether you’re a business owner, leader, entrepreneur, or just ready to upgrade your relationships, this episode will help you reset the standard for how others interact with you.

    👇 If this episode resonates with you, don’t forget to:
    ✅ Like, comment, and subscribe to the channel.
    ⭐ Leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.

    CHAPTERS
    00:00 – Intro: Why Time Is Our Greatest Asset
    01:12 – The Universal Law: You Teach People How to Treat You
    02:30 – Tony’s Personal Story: Marriott, Real Estate & Respect
    04:05 – The Power of Alignment in Relationships
    05:00 – The Role of Boundaries in Earning Respect
    06:30 – Early Real Estate Mistakes & Availability Trap
    08:15 – Why Self-Respect Sets the Tone
    09:45 – Confidence, Self-Worth, and First Impressions
    10:50 – Clear Communication: Say It or Suffer It
    12:00 – Asking Clients What They Need Too
    13:10 – Recognizing Patterns in Poor Treatment
    14:30 – Insecurity, Imposter Syndrome & Letting Boundaries Slip
    15:50 – Consequences of Tolerating Bad Behavior
    17:00 – How One Harsh Client Interaction Shifted Everything
    18:15 – Respect Starts with YOU
    19:00 – Tony’s Coaching Client Standards & Why They Work
    20:15 – The Hidden Cost of Burnout and Resentment
    21:20 – Final Words: Reflect, Reclaim, Reset
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    23 mins
  • Managing the "Noise"

    Managing the "Noise"
    May 20 2025
    Feeling overwhelmed by constant distractions? 🚨 In Episode 90 of the Mindset Architect Podcast, Tony Caliendo dives deep into practical strategies for managing the "noise" in our daily lives. From setting clear intentions and mindfulness techniques to mastering time management and creating productive environments, Tony reveals actionable steps to boost your focus, productivity, and overall success. Whether you're an entrepreneur, a busy professional, or anyone feeling pulled in too many directions, this episode provides the roadmap you need to regain control and achieve your goals.🔥 Key Takeaways:
    • How to set effective "signals" to guide your brain.
    • Simple mindfulness exercises to combat daily chaos.
    • Essential digital detox practices to protect your mental clarity.
    • The critical importance of clear, revisited daily goals.
    • Creating environments designed for productivity.
    • Mastering time management to avoid distractions.
    • The powerful art of saying "No" without guilt.
    🎧 Don't forget to leave a 5-star review on your favorite podcast platform if you enjoyed this episode!

    📞 Book a free coaching call: https://calendly.com/tony-rethinkcoaching/30min?month=2023-10

    🔗 To get more information about Tony and reTHINK Coaching - http://www.rethinkcoaching.com/


    CHAPTERS
    0:00 Introduction to Managing the Noise
    1:00 What is "Noise" and Why It Matters
    2:40 The Brain’s Need for Direction
    4:20 Sending Clear Signals to Your Brain
    5:00 The Power of Mindfulness
    6:20 Simple Mindfulness Practices
    7:00 Tony’s Personal Mindfulness Routine (Hot Yoga)
    9:00 Digital Detox and Setting Boundaries
    10:00 Establishing Clear and Frequent Goals
    11:50 Creating a Productive Environment
    13:00 Effective Time Management
    14:20 The Essential Art of Saying "No"
    16:30 Recap of 7 Strategies to Manage Noise
    18:00 How to Implement These Strategies
    19:30 Final Thoughts and Personal Invitation
    21:00 Closing and How to Connect
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    22 mins