🎙️ Welcome to the "Don't Pick the Scab" Podcast, hosted by David. Today’s episode features an unforgettable conversation with Alan Salas, a man whose journey redefines resilience, reinvention, and purpose. Alan's life is a testament to the power of transformation, and his story will leave you inspired to take control of your own life.

Alan’s incredible journey began on the open seas, living on a sailboat while managing a thriving boat rental business in the South of France. Seeking deeper meaning, he sold everything, moved to the U.S., and pursued his dream of becoming a chiropractic physician. 🇺🇸 But life threw Alan some major curveballs: bankruptcy, divorce, and a colon cancer diagnosis. Instead of giving up, Alan turned his struggles into stepping stones, creating a revolutionary 3-step mind-clearing system designed to help others overcome limiting beliefs and live fulfilling lives. 💡

In this episode, Alan shares: 👉 The symbolism of freedom and how it shaped his life 🌊 👉 How divorce and illness forced him to redefine priorities 🔄 👉 The power of the subconscious mind and how it controls 95% of our thoughts 🤯 👉 His groundbreaking 3-step mind-clearing system to remove limiting beliefs and embrace success 🧠 👉 Essential advice for men over 40 navigating divorce, co-parenting, and self-care 💪 👉 Why self-care is the key to being a better father, partner, and man 🌟

Alan’s story will empower you to take charge of your mindset, reframe your challenges, and create the life you’ve always wanted. Whether you’re recovering from divorce or just looking for a fresh start, this episode is for you. Don't miss it! 🚀

💬 What part of Alan’s story resonated most with you? Share your thoughts in the comments below! Remember to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell 🔔 to stay updated with our latest episodes. Let's build a supportive community together. 💙

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Welcome to the Don't Pick the Scab Podcast! 🎙️ I'm your host, David, and today we have an enlightening conversation with Ives T. Mukanya, a remarkable mental health counselor and transformational coach. Originally from the Democratic Republic of Congo, Ive brings a wealth of experience from the pharmaceutical industry and a deep commitment to helping men navigate the emotional challenges that often accompany divorce.

In this episode, we delve into the often-overlooked struggles that men face after divorce, including stress, depression, and low self-esteem. 💔 Many men suffer in silence, internalizing their pain instead of seeking the support they need. But it doesn’t have to be this way! Join us as we explore practical strategies for healing, embracing self-discovery, and reclaiming your identity after a life-altering event.

Ive shares his personal journey and insights on the importance of forgiveness, self-care, and building a supportive community. He emphasizes that seeking help is not a sign of weakness but a courageous step towards recovery. We discuss how men can break free from the stigma of suffering in silence and learn to express their emotions in healthy ways.

Throughout our conversation, we touch on the significance of reconnecting with one’s passions and interests, which can often be lost during marriage. 🌟 Whether it’s picking up a new hobby, engaging in physical fitness, or simply rediscovering what brings joy, these steps are crucial for rebuilding self-esteem and identity.

Ive also addresses the critical role of forgiveness—not just for others, but for oneself. He explains how letting go of past grievances can liberate you from emotional burdens and allow you to move forward with a renewed sense of purpose.

As we navigate the complexities of co-parenting, we discuss how to maintain a healthy relationship with your ex-partner, even when tensions run high. Communication strategies and emotional regulation are key themes, as we explore how to prioritize your well-being while being the best father you can be.

👉 Call to Action: If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment below! Share your thoughts or experiences, and let’s support each other on this journey of recovery. Don’t forget to like and subscribe for more empowering content!

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💬 Welcome to the "Don't Pick the Scab" Podcast, where host David helps men over 40 heal, thrive, and conquer life after divorce! In this episode, we're joined by financial expert Steve Schleupner, a seasoned planner with over 20 years of experience specializing in divorce transitions. 💼

Steve dives deep into the unique challenges men face when managing their finances post-divorce, from housing transitions to understanding retirement accounts and tax implications. He shares actionable advice to help you navigate the storm and rebuild your wealth with clarity and confidence. 🌟

💡 Topics we cover in this episode:

• The #1 financial mistake men make during divorce (and how to avoid it) 🚨

• How to master housing transitions in today’s high-interest market 🏡

• Understanding the hidden costs of dividing assets 💵

• Why legacy planning is crucial for your post-divorce peace of mind 📜

• Developing a positive financial mindset after divorce 💪

🔥 Steve also shares his personal story of overcoming financial fears after his own divorce and how he uses his expertise to empower other men to regain control of their lives. Whether you're dealing with alimony, child support, or simply figuring out how to start over, this episode is packed with insights you don’t want to miss.

👂 Tune in now to transform your financial future after divorce!

💬 Got questions about finances or divorce recovery? Share your thoughts in the comments below—we’d love to hear your story and tips for others! 👇

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In this heartfelt episode of the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast," David interviews Shawn Richardson, a fitness trainer, audiobook narrator, and former Ninja Warrior finalist, about his journey through resilience, healing, and self-improvement. The podcast starts with a different flavor - the importance of flossing your teeth. Really? But eventually, Shawn shares his experiences with overcoming the challenges of divorce, including coping with depression, rebuilding his life after a house fire, and navigating the complexities of fatherhood. He emphasizes the importance of discipline, humor, and faith while discussing his fitness philosophy, therapeutic endeavors, and the role forgiveness plays in personal growth. Shawn also opens up about mental health, the power of community, and how small, consistent efforts can lead to significant transformations. This episode is an inspiring conversation full of vulnerability, hope, and actionable insights for anyone striving to overcome life's obstacles.

Top 10 Topics Mentioned by Shawn:

1. The importance of consistency and discipline in fitness and life.

2. Coping with divorce and the emotional toll of separation.

3. The role of community and church in personal healing.

4. The impact of therapy, including accelerated resolution therapy and neuroplasticity training.

5. Overcoming self-doubt and negative self-talk.

6. The value of small wins and gradual progress in personal growth.

7. The trauma of rebuilding after a house fire.

8. Struggling with suicidal ideation and prioritizing mental health.

9. Fatherhood and maintaining a strong relationship with his children.

10. Forgiveness and self-reflection as key components of healing.

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Welcome back to the 'Don't Pick the Scab Podcast,' where we delve deep into the emotional journey of divorce recovery for men over 40. In our latest episode, I had the pleasure of chatting with Suzan Peltikian, a passionate peak performance coach and global speaker. Suzan is dedicated to helping individuals transform their mindsets and manifest their dreams—a truly positive force for change.

In our conversation, we explored several key topics including the challenges of co-parenting, the importance of self-care during recovery, and what true healing looks like for men navigating life after divorce. Here are some powerful insights and practical tools to support your journey toward a brighter future.

Co-Parenting: The Power of Perspective

Co-parenting can be one of the most challenging aspects of post-divorce life. Suzan emphasized that our situations often come as lessons, presenting opportunities for growth and transformation. “Be the change you wish to see in the world,” she recited, echoing Mahatma Gandhi’s wisdom. This means that in co-parenting, the way we show up—regardless of how our ex-partners behave—determines the quality of our relationships and our overall well-being.

Suzan reminded us that we're not just bodies; we are limitless souls. By focusing on self-transformation, we can break generational patterns and evolve into better versions of ourselves. The emotions we carry can either hold us back or propel us forward, and it's our responsibility to choose wisely.

Self-Care: The Foundation of Recovery

When discussing self-care, Suzan challenged the notion that men must always take care of others first. She encouraged men to prioritize themselves, stating, “You are number one of one.” In a world where society has often taught men to suppress their emotions, it's vital to recognize the importance of nurturing one’s mind, body, and soul.

Finding what sparks joy and makes you happy is crucial. Engaging in self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential for your healing process. As Suzan put it, “We cannot pour from an empty cup.” So, take time for yourself—whether it’s through exercise, hobbies, or simply enjoying quiet moments.

Reclaiming Identity After Divorce

Divorce can leave men feeling lost, grappling with a sense of identity. Suzan offered a straightforward solution: start by crafting a vision for your life. Writing down what you want and who you aspire to be is a powerful step toward redefining your identity.

Suzanne emphasized that “we don’t get what we want; we get who we are being.” By focusing on self-affirming “I am” statements, you reinforce your new identity and begin to attract the life you desire. Visualizing positive outcomes, especially in co-parenting, is crucial to manifesting a harmonious future.

The Importance of Language

Words matter—both what we say to ourselves and how we speak about others. Suzan pointed out that negative self-talk can perpetuate a cycle of victimhood. Instead of giving power to external circumstances, it’s essential to reclaim that power by changing our internal dialogue.

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In Episode #88 of Don't Pick the Scab Podcast, host David welcomes guest Jack Kammer, a seasoned advocate for male gender issues with over 40 years of experience. Together, they tackle the complex landscape of divorce recovery, fatherhood, and co-parenting for men over 40. Jack shares his unique perspective as a social worker and former Executive Director of the National Congress for Men, shedding light on the societal pressures and evolving roles of fathers in the aftermath of divorce. Despite not being a father himself, Jack passionately discusses the importance of fatherhood and the societal challenges men face, such as the stigma of being secondary parents and the struggles of shared custody arrangements.

The conversation delves into emotional recovery, with Jack highlighting how anger often masks deeper emotions like sadness and grief. He recounts transformative moments from his career, including workshops that helped angry fathers confront their pain and rebuild their emotional health. David and Jack also explore the challenges of co-parenting, the backlash against shared parenting initiatives, and societal shifts in gender roles over time. Jack advocates for the rebuttable presumption of shared parenting, emphasizing its benefits for children and the importance of fathers in their development.

This episode is a powerful mix of personal anecdotes, professional insights, and actionable advice for navigating the emotional and practical hurdles of divorce recovery. Whether you're a divorced dad or an ally, this episode offers hope, healing, and a fresh perspective on fatherhood’s evolving role in modern society.

Top 10 Topics Discussed

1. The concept of "Don't Pick the Scab" as a metaphor for men's emotional healing post-divorce.

2. The importance of moving past anger and confronting deeper emotions like sadness and grief.

3. Challenges of co-parenting and the prevalence of "shit show" dynamics.

4. The benefits of shared parenting and the case for rebuttable presumption laws.

5. The societal undervaluing of fathers and its long-term impact on families.

6. Personal anecdotes about navigating co-parenting challenges, including financial disputes.

7. Cultural perceptions of masculinity and their influence on divorce recovery.

8. The backlash against fathers seeking equal parenting roles post-divorce.

9. Historical shifts in fatherhood roles, from pre-industrial times to the modern era.

10. The emotional toll of divorce and tools for rebuilding a positive future for men and their children.

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In this insightful episode of the Don’t Pick the Scab Podcast, host David interviews Victor Giusfredi—a certified life and wellness coach with over 20 years of experience in mindset and behavioral psychology. Victor, also an internationally certified neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) practitioner, shares his transformative journey from emotional struggles to becoming an expert in sustainable change. As the author of No Grail Without Dragons and the upcoming Marriage by Design, Victor dives deep into the challenges men face during divorce recovery and personal growth.

During the conversation, Victor explores the subconscious patterns of men dealing with divorce, such as anger and defensiveness, and emphasizes the importance of rewiring thought processes to break negative cycles. He candidly discusses his own life experiences, including overcoming two divorces, co-parenting struggles, and rebuilding self-worth. Victor shares actionable advice on how men can cultivate sustainable change by shifting their mindset, embracing vulnerability, and finding meaningful lessons in suffering.

Key topics include managing anger as a coping mechanism, redefining identity after divorce, and fostering forgiveness to release emotional weight. Victor’s thoughtful insights provide men over 40 with a roadmap to healing, personal transformation, and creating fulfilling relationships. Whether it’s navigating co-parenting challenges or rediscovering self-worth, this episode is packed with wisdom, practical tools, and inspirational stories.

Listeners can connect with Victor via his website, victorgiusfredi.com, or follow him on social media for more resources on navigating life after divorce. Keywords: divorce recovery, men over 40, mindset, co-parenting, forgiveness, self-worth, personal growth.

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The podcast episode from Don't Pick the Scab Podcast hosted by David M. Webb features guest Michael Read, a men's coach specializing in healthy masculinity, mental health, and co-parenting. The discussion centers on helping men over 40 recover from divorce, navigate co-parenting challenges, and embrace healthier masculinity. Michael shares insights from his personal journey, including his exploration of attachment theory and the patterns that shape relationships. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and building supportive male communities.

The conversation also delves into the psychological impact of being a second-generation divorcee, the challenges of co-parenting without effective communication with an ex-partner, and the emotional toll of not being able to control what happens in the other parent's household. Michael provides practical advice for men, such as setting boundaries, seeking therapy or coaching, and finding support groups to navigate these challenges.

The episode concludes with a discussion on dating after divorce, highlighting the importance of self-healing before entering new relationships. Michael stresses the need for open communication, self-awareness, and the value of male bonding in the healing process. The podcast offers actionable advice and relatable anecdotes to help men rebuild their lives post-divorce.

Top 10 Most Important Points

1. Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns: Michael Read explains how attachment theory helps men understand recurring patterns in their relationships and how these patterns often stem from childhood experiences.

2. Second-Generation Divorce Impact: David and Michael discuss the psychological effects of being a child of divorce and how it influences one's own relationships and masculinity.

3. Co-Parenting Challenges: The podcast addresses the difficulties of co-parenting, especially when communication with an ex-partner is strained or non-existent.

4. Emotional Regulation: Michael emphasizes the importance of setting "rules of engagement" in relationships to avoid destructive behaviors like name-calling and character attacks during conflicts.

5. Support Systems for Men: Both David and Michael highlight the necessity of male bonding and support groups to help men navigate the emotional challenges of divorce and co-parenting.

6. Therapy and Coaching: The episode discusses the pros and cons of therapy for men, noting that traditional therapy may not always align with how men process emotions. Coaching and male-specific support groups are presented as alternatives.

7. Dating After Divorce: Michael advises men to focus on self-healing before jumping into new relationships and to be transparent about their emotional state when dating.

8. Healthy Masculinity: The podcast explores the concept of healthy masculinity, emphasizing science-backed approaches to understanding and embracing it.

9. Parenting Through Example: Michael advises divorced fathers to focus on being consistent role models for their children, demonstrating integrity and stability despite challenges with their ex-partners.

10. The Importance of Self-Awareness: Both hosts stress the need for men to reflect on their behaviors, recognize patterns, and take responsibility for their emotional growth.

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