
You Don't Owe Anyone
Free Yourself from the Weight of Expectations
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Caroline Garnet McGraw
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Sharing her experiences as a life coach and recovering perfectionist, Caroline Garnet McGraw shows us how we can free ourselves from the weight of expectations and encourages us to move our lives forward without apology.
Inspired by her viral essay "You Don't Owe Anyone an Interaction", this book invites us to make surprising choices that can help us get unstuck. Rather than offering more ways to effect change through sheer effort, these personal stories serve as a compassionate witness, a reflection of our own perfectionistic tendencies. They also are a wake-up call jolting us out of our martyr mentality and inspiring us to move in new, positive directions.
Through simple, accessible coaching practices, You Don't Owe Anyone shows us what it looks like to refuse to over-function in the old ways. It invites us to make the same surprising choices that have helped McGraw and her clients move past perfectionism, empowering us to quiet our fears and heal our hearts.
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- Linda Miller
- 03-18-24
I am important
I liked how each chapter was about putting yourself first and being honest with your feelings.
I focus on time management and this book will help my clients prioritize themselves doing what makes them happy.
This book will help me and others get to the heart of our issues.
I like how you incorporated the story about your brother and howvyour life was based on how he was operating. It was relatable, because I've been a caretaker and it's hard to own your feelings, when you are looking after someone else. This is a strory that will be in rotation. Thank you.
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- Dinalynn Rosenbush
- 10-23-23
Amazing and Really Helpful!
I’ve learned so much. I’ve grown so much from listening to Carolines wisdom. Thank you so much, Caroline.
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