
Why Do We Stay?
How My Toxic Relationship Can Help You Find Freedom
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Narrated by:
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Stephanie Quayle
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W. Keith Campbell
About this listen
Read by the authors.
Change your life when you learn how to spot a toxic relationship, how to get out, and how to heal.
You or someone you love may be in a toxic relationship, but it doesn't have to stay that way. In this compassionate and practical resource, Stephanie Quayle shares her powerful story alongside psychologist Dr. W. Keith Campbell's professional insights to give you the help and hope you need—and remind you that you are not alone.
When Stephanie lost her boyfriend in a plane crash, she faced intense grief and pain. Nothing compared, though, to the shock of discovering she had not been the only woman in his life. As her world unraveled around her, Stephanie realized that it had actually been unraveling from the start of their relationship—back when he promised her everything.
In Why Do We Stay? Stephanie draws on her story to explain how to spot a toxic relationship, how to get out, and how to heal. Mental health expert Dr. W. Keith Campbell joins her in helping you see that:
- You can make a change in your life
- There are warning signs to look for and ways to spot an unhealthy relationship
- You don’t have to be a victim to narcissism or gaslighting or lose years of your life
- Whether you stay in or leave your relationship, healing and freedom are possible
Why Do We Stay? is ideal for:
- Those who feel trapped in an unhealthy relationship
- Those who are recovering from a toxic relationship
- Listeners searching for a resource—for themselves or for a friend—on narcissism, gaslighting, compulsive lying, and other destructive behaviors
With a powerful blend of clinical research, gripping storytelling, and unvarnished hope, Why Do We Stay? empowers you to make changes in your life. You are not alone.
Discover a way forward.
The glossary can be found in the audiobook companion PDF download.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
©2024 Stephanie Quayle and W. Keith Campbell (P)2024 Harper CelebrateListeners also enjoyed...
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- Miss Tonya Queen
- 05-03-24
Moving on...
Narration was awesome!
Details easy to follow and my emotions became rigid with memories of my own relationships.
Gave me confidence to take another step towards becoming fully healed.
Thank you Miss Steph!
You are a real credit to the female society!
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- Robin Young
- 06-20-24
Raw honest amazing!
Thank you for bravely sharing your story of loving a narcissist, and your path to recovery.
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- Lovely Looks
- 06-01-24
amazing book with relatable content
this book really helped me understand myself more and hopefully give myself a better future at love. it can feel lonely being in a toxic relationship
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- Red Haired Cowgirl
- 04-30-24
Mini therapy session!
I love Stephanie! I learned of her from her country music career but have gotten to know her and she is the most real and authentic person. I have experienced a toxic relationship too, though my story is much much less dramatic but listening to this made me feel seen and helped in the process of my healing! Thank you!!
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- KC Ranch
- 05-15-24
You are not alone.
It was as if she was reading my mind. She cast a light into my life. her story sparked that flame inside me and she truly extends her courage to you. I am forever grateful for her courage to tell this story. I am in awe of her heart and true desire to help heal those of us living through the nightmare. Better days are coming...
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- Hannah Anderson
- 05-09-24
So personable…
Thank you Stephanie for sharing your story even after all of this time. I feel like I was hearing bits of my own story through yours and am encouraged by the blossoming life you now have.
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- Roberta
- 02-20-25
Validation
Walking through a separation with a narcissistic after 29 yrs made me feel validated. Thank you for sharing your story. I can’t wait to share mine with the world.
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