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Sohaila Abdulali
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Sohaila Abdulali
About this listen
After surviving gang rape at 17 in Mumbai, Sohaila Abdulali was indignant about the deafening silence that followed and wrote a fiery piece about the perception of rape - and rape victims - for a women's magazine. Thirty years later, with no notice, her article reappeared and went viral in the wake of the 2012 fatal gang rape in New Delhi, prompting her to write a New York Times op-ed about healing from rape that was widely circulated.
Now, Abdulali has written What We Talk About When We Talk About Rape - a thoughtful, generous, unflinching look at rape and rape culture.
Drawing on her own experience and her work with hundreds of survivors as the head of a rape crisis center in Boston, Abdulali tackles some of our thorniest questions about rape, articulating the confounding way we account for who gets raped and why.
In interviews with survivors from around the world, we hear moving personal accounts of hard-earned strength, humor, and wisdom that collectively tell the larger story of what rape means and how healing can occur. Abdulali also points to the questions we don't talk about: Is rape always a life-defining event? Is one rape worse than another? Is a world without rape possible?
What We Talk About When We Talk About Rape is an audiobook for this #MeToo and #TimesUp age that will stay with listeners - men and women alike - for a long, long time.
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- Laina
- 08-16-24
Must Read for Sexual Assault Victims/Survivors
I loved this book! I have never felt so heard and seen before. Sohaila brings such a richness, laughter, no holds back, and care to her reading. The material in the book can be so hard to listen to but her writing made it possible to make it through the book.
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- Jona Schropp
- 03-03-20
One of the best books I've ever read!
Anyone that knows someone that has been raped, this is a must read! So enlightening!
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