
Yes Means Yes!
Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape
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This groundbreaking feminist classic dismantles the way we view rape in our culture and replaces it with a genuine understanding and respect for female sexual pleasure.
In the original edition, feminist, political, and activist writers alike presented their ideas for a paradigm shift from the "No Means No" model - and the result was the groundbreaking shift to today's affirmative consent model ("Yes Means Yes", as coined by this work).
With a timely new introduction, refreshed cover, and the timeless contributions of authors from Kate Harding to Jill Filipovic, Yes Means Yes brings to the table a dazzling variety of perspectives and experiences focused on the theory that educating all people to value female sexuality and pleasure leads to viewing women differently and ending rape. Yes Means Yes has radical and far-reaching effects: from teaching men to treat women as collaborators and not conquests, encouraging men and women that women can enjoy sex instead of being shamed for it, and ultimately, that our children can inherit a world where rape is rare and swiftly punished.
©2019 Jaclyn Friedman and Jessica Valenti (P)2019 Hachette AudioListeners also enjoyed...
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- 01-29-24
Wide-ranging collection, a few essays need updates
I was recommended this book for us to read for a feminist book club, and I appreciated the wide range of viewpoints on the topics covered. My only issue has to do with use of the term 'asexual' in the essay "Queering Black Female Heterosexuality" By Kimberly Springer.
It leads me to wonder if she was aware that it is indeed classified as a queer sexual orientation included in the LGBTQIA+ community (the A stands for Asexual) and not just a descriptor of someone who is not actively sexualized in the media?
Asexual or Ace refers someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction to people of either gender, and not someone who is celibate or is simply being portrayed as sexually unappealing/undesirable. I wish she could revise her essay to clarify that, as it could potentially lead to further confusion concerning understanding of that sexual orientation and people who identify with it.
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