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Claire Bidwell Smith
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A resonant memoir of the ways untimely good-byes echo through the years, by a writer who has considered every nuance of grief.
At age 14, Claire Bidwell Smith - an only child - learned that both of her parents had cancer. The fear of becoming a family of one before she came of age compels Claire to make a series of fraught choices, set against the glittering backdrop of New York and Los Angeles - and the pall of regret. When the inevitable happens, and Claire is alone in the world, she is inconsolable at the revelation that suddenly she is no one's special person. It is only when Claire eventually falls in love, marries, and becomes a mother that she emerges from the fog of grief.
Defying a conventional framework, this story is told using the five stages of grief as a window into Smith's experience. As in the very best memoirs, the author's powerful and exquisite writing transforms personal events into universal experience.
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- J. v. Kirchbach
- 01-13-22
Grief memoir
Rules of Inheritance by Claire Bidwell Smith was the January bookclub pick for #zibbysvirtualbookclub and it is an extraordinary memoir. The author’s writing style and honesty make this book so very special. Her portrayal of grief will speak to anyone who has dealt with any form of grief. None of us will be immune to loss in this life, and the author's story and honesty in her own journey with loss is heartbreaking and healing all at once. I felt inspired by it. The author chat yesterday was very special and I was excited to learn that this older book (first published 2012) has been picked up for production.
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- Rebecca
- 03-31-23
As an parentless adult child at age 29 i felt validated
Claire shares her experience in this riveting book. Her experiences have been almost verbatim with mine! I am a big fan of her books and grief counciling.
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- Brooke Myles
- 04-09-19
An honest view of the wild ride of grief
After having recently lost my mother at a relatively young age of 63, grief hit me like a ton of bricks. The Rules of Inheritance was recommended by a friend knowing I was searching for all coping mechanisms I could get my hands on. This book was a nighty help. It made my responses feel “normal” and my process shared. It helped me feel less alone. Moments were brought forth in the hospice experience that aided in putting words to the same emotions I felt in that time. Plus it gives hope that, one day, the grief will lift and only the scar will remain.
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- 07-26-16
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- Katie Bauer
- 06-23-20
Hard and beautiful
As a grown woman who lost both of my parents at a young age, I crave an honest, vulnerable reflection of how tough the loss of both your parents can be. Claire captured her own struggle of life and grief in this book beautifully— and in such a raw, real way that I could nearly relate to all of it. It’s cathartic to read such words and I am grateful! Thank you, Claire!
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- Megan M. Romer
- 11-17-20
A memoir of grief, coping and life.
So many good parts...Explaining the different ways her parents died and sharing with the audience that there might be a better way to die if given the choice. sharing of her parents' lives --- her mom's food designing and her father's wartime memories all add depth to the story.
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- zonfan
- 01-29-19
Amazing
I loved this book so very much and it will stay with me forever. Thank you for sharing your story, Claire.
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- A. Campero
- 01-13-13
Excellent Book
Would you consider the audio edition of The Rules of Inheritance to be better than the print version?
I loved having the author as the narrator.
What was one of the most memorable moments of The Rules of Inheritance?
The entire book was full of memorable moments.
Any additional comments?
This was one of the best memoirs I have ever read. I couldn't wait to listen to more and thought the book was beautiful. I loved it.
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- David
- 05-27-22
Excellent writer
A little hard to follow along as author jumps around time wise, but overall a nice listen
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- James Aebersold
- 02-20-22
Excellent
Loved it!
I lover her voice, so soothing.
Claire and I have a lot in common. It was nice to listen to a book from someone who gets it.
My mother's death inspired me to work in home health care, get my CNA/GNA cert and work with elders for the past decade.
I already provide Hospice care within my care scope and Claire inspires me to look into grief counseling now. Hopefully, this was the sign I asked for.
Thank you Claire!
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