
The Entitlement Trap
How to Rescue Your Child with a New Family System of Choosing, Earning, and Ownership
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Number-one New York Times–bestselling authors Richard and Linda Eyre have spent the last twenty-five years helping parents nurture strong, healthy families. Now they’ve synthesized their vast experience into an essential blueprint for instilling children with a sense of ownership, responsibility, and self-sufficiency.
At the heart of their plan is a “Family Economy”, complete with a family bank, checkbooks for the kids, and a system of initiative-building responsibilities that teaches children to earn money for the things they want. The motivation carries over to ownership of their own decisions, goals, and grades in school. The Eyres’ guiding principles set a pattern for helping kids to proactively pursue their potential and internalize values that will stay with them forever.
With The Entitlement Trap in hand, parents can:
- Teach children how to work for what they want
- Spur enthusiasm about responsibility in unmotivated children
- Cultivate values of discipline, integrity, and self-reliance in their families
- Foster smart, economically savvy children
Anecdotal, time-tested, and gently humorous, The Entitlement Trap has been called “the thinking parent’s answer to the Tiger Mother.” It challenges some of the sacred cows of parenting and replaces them with solid principles and practices.
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- RV
- 08-07-19
This book seems to have it all! But in one word..
Ownership. They do a great job explaining how this one concept has the potential to change everything in our parenting, home & helping our children become the responsible & caring adults we all strive for. It seems like a great place to start family life or a wonderful re-start for those of us who didn't have such great tools in the earlier years. I'm motivated to action to make improvements in our family life. Thank you, Eyre's!
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- Greg
- 03-11-19
Very impressed
I was very impressed with this book. I listened at first to learn about their family economy. But then they seemed to address all aspects of parenting. I thought they had great ideas for how to develop a home that parents and children can all enjoy living in. Some new ideas and some good reminders.
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- John Neff
- 02-16-13
Best parenting book I have ever read.
Would you consider the audio edition of The Entitlement Trap to be better than the print version?
I purchased the book after listening so I can take notes.
This is a great book.
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- Brian J.
- 02-20-17
Great resource for setting up family system
What about Sandra Burr’s performance did you like?
Nice voice! However, MUST listen at 1.25x speed, otherwise its too slow.
What insight do you think you’ll apply from The Entitlement Trap?
I especially liked the economic system where children earn their money instead of getting a handout (allowance). I can see how this will be beneficial, so children won't always expect a handout their entire life (aka welfare & food stamps).
Any additional comments?
I did notice several "plugs" for other products the authors have put out. While this book is a great tool to get started, there is still more info to be learned from these authors. For example, their preschool program and several of their other books.
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- Paul
- 07-11-15
Best Parenting Book Ever!
I loved this book. I finished it in three days (no road trip). I expected it to only focus on materialism, but it went so far beyond that. I didn't have any "this doesn't sit right with me" moments like I have with every other book I've read.
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- Amy P.
- 03-16-14
Great content but narrator was preachy
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The best parenting book so far
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What didn’t you like about Sandra Burr’s performance?
To preachy. Sounded like I was getting a lecture from my mother at times.
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- Amazon Customer
- 06-11-20
Most comprehensive GOOD parenting book
Great examples of parenting from a lifetime of application and case studies. I’ve listened to it 4 times and still get more from each listen. Additional book on values is a great resource for establishing morales in the home. Can’t recommend enough.
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- Jerry Curl
- 10-31-22
Must listen to!!
She gives so many great ideas to run a better household and give your kids the tools they need to be a successful person once they become adults.
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- Stephanie LeBeauf
- 09-14-23
Must have parenting tool! The earlier,the better.
This book offers way more than its title conveys. Will be a classic. Can't wait to implement some of the systems and approaches learned.
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- Adam Winter
- 02-27-16
Required Reading for ALL Parents!!
This book was invaluable! I can't wait to go back through it and mark up my hard copy to get started on some of the ideas included. Very thoughtful, well- written and inclusive of any person from any walk of life.
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