
Platonic
How Understanding Your Attachment Style Can Help You Make and Keep Friends
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Marisa G. Franco PhD
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The instant New York Times Bestseller
In Platonic, psychologist and friendship expert Dr Marisa G. Franco unpacks why undervaluing friendship in our culture has led to an epidemic of isolation, and what we can do about it.
When was the last time you put yourself out there to make a new friend?
How do we keep friends in an era of distraction, burnout, and chaos, especially in a society that often prizes romantic love at the expense of other relationships?
This book offers a clear and actionable blueprint for forging strong and lasting connections with others – and becoming our happiest selves in the process.
Using the groundbreaking framework behind attachment theory, this book teaches us to identify and understand our individual style – secure, anxious or avoidant – and recognize that how we behave in relationships is the key to unlocking what we’re doing right (and what we could do better) in our friendships.
Weaving together cutting-edge research in psychology with interviews, personal stories and practical advice, this book gives us the tools we need to be better friends, and better humans.
©2022 Marisa G. Franco, PhD (P)2022 Macmillan Publishers International LimitedListeners also enjoyed...
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Critic reviews
"Platonic is a fantastic guide not just for making and keeping friends—it’s also a manifesto for how to more effectively invest in the stuff that really matters in life." (Dr Laurie Santos, Professor of Psychology at Yale University and host of The Happiness Lab podcast)
"A timely, unique guide to approaching friendship, often the profoundest source of connection in your life, with the love (and self-reflection) it deserves.'" (Francesca Specter, author of Alonement)
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- 04-09-23
Important theme but a bit boring
I am 1/3 of the way through this audiobook and it is feeling like a long 7 hours left. The narrator/author is amazing though and I really do value her work and her themes. But I’m not sure this topic needs a 10 hour book. It feels like repeating themes again and again and again and I’m not sure I can bring myself to finish it! Wouldn’t buy it again if I had the choice
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