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Mary E. DeMuth
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Mary DeMuth
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Are you suffering the effects of sexual abuse? There is a way out. In Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing After Sexual Abuse, Mary DeMuth illuminates the way to go from shame-filled to joy-filled, from traumatized to finding enduring peace. This isn't theory. Mary has lived it. She's traveled this path and offers a uniquely qualified, insider's view of the healing process.
Then Mary goes deeper - because often you're not the only one who has suffered. Her husband Patrick comes alongside her and offers insights into how spouses can love a sexual abuse victim toward wholeness, and how this will bring your relationship a whole new level of strength.
Not Marked will help you:
- Find the courage to share your story - maybe for the first time
- Stop comparing your brokenness to others' wholeness
- Understand the specific way God designed you to heal
- Identify safe people to entrust your healing journey to
- Embrace utter honestly about your abuse, even if that means anger toward God
- Discover how prayer helps you move from angst to alleluia
- Find the powerful antidote to bitterness
- Let go of accusatory thought patterns and grasp God's affection for you
- Uncover an ancient pathway to healing
- Live the effervescent life you've longed for but could never quite grasp
You do not have to be forever marked by sexual abuse.
You are resilient even if you believe all your strength is gone. You are worthy of being made whole - even if you can't believe it's possible. And you are as stunning work of amazingness - even though your heart can't even start to grasp that. Yet.
This is your time: the moment to start the journey of the unmarked life!
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- Lynn A. D.
- 08-21-15
honest story of personal struggle,faith & healing
If you could sum up Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing After Sexual Abuse in three words, what would they be?
survival, hope, healing
What does Mary E. DeMuth bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?
Mary and her husband reading the book adds the personal side of their story.
Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?
no; some parts were hard to listen to because of the awfulness of the abuse, so I had to take a break and go back to it later.
Any additional comments?
This book is well worth listening to for the encouragement Mary brings to abuse sufferers and survivors.
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- Janet Morris Grimes
- 09-30-14
Must Have for any victim of sexual abuse
Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?
Yes, especially for a victim or his or her spouse.
What was one of the most memorable moments of Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing After Sexual Abuse?
Mary's own voice listing a bevy of possible ways abuse could affect an adult victim of sexual abuse, especially where intimacy is concerned. "I've struggled with many of these myself," she says. That is not easy to admit, and the only reason for doing so is to help others.
What insight do you think you’ll apply from Not Marked: Finding Hope and Healing After Sexual Abuse?
The book is a great starting point for any friend that has faced this. It opens the door to letting the light shine on a very dark subject. Thankfully, this is not my story to tell, but it sure will make me a better listener for those that I love.
Any additional comments?
This is my first experience with an audio book. I enjoyed the different viewpoints as read by Mary and Patrick. I liked that I could set the pace of reading, or I could repeat a section if needed.
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- Amy
- 08-17-24
This is very helpful.
This book is very helpful to deal with sexual trauma. It gives hope if you are willing to work at it. it is also good for spouses and partners.
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- ZoraL
- 10-13-17
Way too Christian!
Not helpful for me, triggering my ptsd. Couldn’t deal with the flashbacks of abuse.
Maybe good for some people but not necessarily someone abused by religious leaders
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- Kent
- 05-22-17
A Christian Book- not for everyone
This book wasn’t for you, but who do you think might enjoy it more?
As with another very well known book on the same subject, this book is very religious in nature. In reading the description again, maybe it's clear that it's strictly Christian. I am looking for a book that is not- I can't relate to the bible, Jesus and born again references. As a very spiritual (but not religious) person, this is a turn off for me . For some reason, I keep coming up against this in trying to find a book for help with childhood sexual abuse issues. My search continues and I am frustrated.
What could Mary DeMuth have done to make this a more enjoyable book for you?
Perhaps it should just be made clearer how religious in nature this book is.
What about Mary E. DeMuth’s performance did you like?
Performance was fine- well read & nice voice to listen to
What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?
Disappointment; Frustration.
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