
Mad Wife
A Memoir
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Kate Hamilton
About this listen
Submitting to unwanted sex destroyed Kate’s love for her husband
But she considered killing herself before she could imagine leaving
In this electrifying literary memoir, Kate Hamilton deftly traces her complicated journey from loving wife to gaslit victim to furious feminist with an urgent goal: to expose how women are pressured to uphold the institutions of marriage and family, no matter the cost.
In the tradition of Know My Name and The Argonauts, Hamilton braids her own story with cultural criticism to argue that we must face the misogyny lurking in the shadows of marriage in the 21st century. She examines the beliefs and conditioning that held her in an increasingly destructive marriage and unflinchingly documents what she did to keep her family together—therapy, unwanted sex with her husband, swinging, affairs, an abortion—without always knowing what she freely chose. And she considers the damage that was done, to herself and others, until she could acknowledge that to save herself and her sons, she had to destroy her marriage.
Emotionally intense and timely, Mad Wife interrogates how marriage and the institutions that support it provide the perfect ecosystem for abuse of women and children, endangering their lives and denying them autonomy—all in the service of men’s desires.
©2024 Kate Hamilton (P)2024 Beacon Press AudioListeners also enjoyed...
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Critic reviews
"How does the patriarchy uphold standards that support and normalize abuse like this? Hamilton both asks and answers that question in her honest and eye-opening story.”
—Kirkus Reviews
“Harrowing, fierce, intimate, and ultimately empowering, Mad Wife is a brilliant memoir for our moment. A feminist must-read.”
—Kate Manne, author of Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny
“Kate Hamilton has written a memoir that I’m dying to talk about with every woman I know. Beautifully written, unbelievably brave, unflinchingly honest, Mad Wife is an indictment of heterosexual marriage and, specifically, sex within marriage. Hamilton’s is a story of how patriarchy has designed marriage to gaslight a woman for the entirety of a relationship, to distort her understanding of consent and her own desires, and to entitle a husband to his wife’s body. This memoir will have women readers reassessing every sexual encounter they’ve ever had with a partner and wondering why it has taken so long for a book like this to exist.”
—Donna Freitas, author of Consent: A Memoir of Unwanted Attention
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- NemGevalt
- 01-11-25
Puzzling plaint, left me cold
This voice actor’s cool, impersonal narration may be a better match for academic content than for this first person memoir, which sounds oddly detached and impersonal, more a lecture than a cri de coeur.
I’m 75% through the 3rd chapter, Betrayal. Only curiosity drives me to continue.
Whatever the psychological or neurological reasons for the husband’s lack of ability or interest in connecting with the author in the specific manner she prefers, the author’s portrayal of her reaction to her own choices as martyrdom on the altar of misogyny is truly puzzling.
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- Amazon Customer
- 11-12-24
An academic dissertation on misogyny and feminism
Not a personal telling of her story. A college lecture and a portrayal of herself as a victim
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- christine &
- 01-03-25
It made me want to cringe to listen to this story.
Not only was the narrator rather arrogant sounding and annoying, but the story somehow didn't feel right. I felt myself becoming extremely uncomfortable and had to fast forward through a good portion.
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