
It Shouldn't Be This Way
Learning to Accept the Things You Just Can't Change
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Dr Janina Scarlet
About this listen
Every life-changing experience, be it the loss of a function, a job or a friendship or the death of a loved one, can be excruciating. Illness can forever alter our life and our abilities. And what makes it even more challenging is that many other people might fail to understand how challenging our adjustment to 'normalcy' might be. Because there is no 'normal' in these experiences. How can there be?
When people hear the word acceptance, they might assume that it means being OK with what happened in the past or with how things currently are. In fact, there is a difference between acceptance and 'feeling good' about what happened—acceptance means allowing yourself to feel whatever emotions naturally come up in response to what you are going through. It means acknowledging the reality of the pain, even though in an ideal world, it shouldn't be that way.
This therapeutic and comforting self-help guide will help you:
- Give yourself the permission to grieve or process events in the way that makes sense to you
- To fully experience and accept your feelings of anger, grief, frustration or anxiety
- To own your truth, even if it makes others uncomfortable
This essential book will teach you to understand and be able to accept the difficult moments and circumstances in your life and make room for how you feel about them. And with this kind of an acceptance, there can be healing.
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Critic reviews
"This extremely well written book grabs you from the first pages and walks you through the challenges of some of life's most painful moments. It addresses that core question that all of us fear, but may not even realise is there, looming over us, until life happens: what will we do when nothing we do will do. Here's the beginning of an answer: read this gentle, strong and very wise book." (Steven C. Hayes, PhD, originator of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and author of A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters)
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- 08-17-24
Has more than a few gut punching solutions
There were several parts of the book where I had to pause and reflect (as the author suggests) for days, as repressed thoughts and feelings were brought to light. I highly recommend this book to everyone, as we have all likely had endured some form of trauma or have overwhelming feelings or thoughts
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