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Jessica Graham
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Jessica Graham
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A fun, straightforward, and informative guide that shows you how to bring mindfulness into sex for a bigger, richer, and more present life
A deep spiritual life and an extraordinary sex life are not mutually exclusive. In this keenly personal and unflinchingly frank guide, Jessica Graham teaches listeners how to find mindfulness in sex - without losing the fun and adventure.
As Graham offers simple mindfulness tools and techniques for improving your sex life and romantic relationships, she also shares her own powerful personal journey. Once checked out and sexually traumatized, Graham was able to find recovery, joy, and peace in the present moment through mindfulness practices. She weaves together her story with meditations, down-to-earth suggestions, and advice on everything from orgasms to threesomes to dealing with a low sex drive.
Not only a tool kit for creating a rich and deeply satisfying sex life, this fun, explicit, and inclusive book conveys the deeper message of how combining meditation with sex can bring about profound spiritual awakenings.
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- Jeffrey Ringer
- 03-12-18
Great perspective on Mindfulness and Alex
Thank you for your amazing work you are doing. This book should be read by all couples. It is an experiential journey worth taking!
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- 07-17-21
Good way for connecting mindfulness to relationshi
I have to start by clearing some things up. For starters, this is NOT a christian book. Anybody who thinks it is is living proof that cousins shouldn't marry. Some have questioned the title as well. When you know what mindfulness actually is, there's no problem with the title.
Mindfulness in it's most basic form is essentially obedience school for your brain. At this level, I think it's something every person on the face of the planet should study. After that, there are a lot of optional aspects that are all positive and all positively OPTIONAL. Your lungs breathe when you aren't trying to do it consciously. Your heart pumps blood even when you aren't trying to do it consciously. Your brain thinks even when you aren't trying to do it consciously. The process of becoming more aware of this is mindfulness in as basic a description as I can give. It has many health benefits and there are many health problems associated with just letting your brain think out of control without paying attention to it. A lot of women have a problem with their brain being elsewhere during sex for a variety of reasons. This book helps you break that habit, hence the "getting off without checking out" part making perfect sense.
Two other books that I'll recommend fans of this book listening to or to fans of those books are "Come as you are" by Emily Nagoski and "Better Sex Through Mindfulness How Women Can Cultivate Desire" by Lori A. Brotto. You can almost view the second one as an unofficial sequel to the first one only by a different author. The author of the first book actually does the foreward in the second one. This book is very similar and yet different enough to the second mentioned.
There's definitely stuff in here we found interesting and will get something out of. If you listen to a lot of these types of boks, there's a lot of overlap. There's a lot in here you won't find overlapped elsewhere.
This book did lose a lot of points for us when it comes to stories that are told along the way. We both very seriously question the truthfulness of some of them and they involve things you don't lie about. Editors and publishers are constantly pushing writers to sensationalize things because it's good for sales. I've never agreed with that and agree with it even less in this instance.
If you're into mindfulness and are looking to bring it into your bedroom, this is a good option for outgoing personality types. You don't have to be outgoing to like or enjoy it, but if you're more reserved, then the book mentioned above might be a better option. If you're new or interested in this mindfulness stuff, then "The mindful way through depression" is a great place to start and teaches you the basics in as good a way as an audio book can. If you decide that it's for you, and I personally hope you do, then this book is a good choice for one of those optional next steps.
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- Jeremy H.
- 10-16-19
Book needs a different title
I usually don't write reviews but I feel I need to warn others about this book. This book is not what one would assume it is about with the title. it should be called meditation suggestions or ways to know yourself through meditation because that's all that was talked about through this book. I'm sure this book may help some people but the title is "click bait" to grab attention.
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