
Duct Tape Parenting
A Less-Is-More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Kids
Failed to add items
Add to Cart failed.
Add to Wish List failed.
Remove from wishlist failed.
Adding to library failed
Follow podcast failed
Unfollow podcast failed
$0.99/mo for the first 3 months

Buy for $18.03
No default payment method selected.
We are sorry. We are not allowed to sell this product with the selected payment method
-
Narrated by:
-
Vicki Hoefle
About this listen
There's a new set of 3Rs for our kids - respect, responsibility, and resilience - to better prepare them for life in the real world. Once developed, these skills let kids take charge, and let parents step back, to the benefit of all.
Casting hover mothers and helicopter parents aside, Vicki Hoefle encourages a different, counterintuitive, yet much more effective, approach to parenting: for parents to sit on their hands, stay on the sidelines - even if duct tape is required!
Witty and straight-shooting, Duct Tape Parenting entertains as it informs parents how to do less in order to raise more confident, capable children.
Includes a foreword by Alex Kajitani, the 2009 California Teacher of the Year and Finalist National Teacher of the Year.
©2012 Vicki Hoefle. Recorded by arrangement with Bibliomotion, Inc. (P)2013 HighBridge CompanyListeners also enjoyed...
-
The Straight Talk on Parenting
- A No-Nonsense Approach on How to Grow a Grown-Up
- By: Vicki Hoefle
- Narrated by: Vicki Hoefle
- Length: 7 hrs and 43 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Parents these days are under a great deal of pressure to be "perfect". From psychologists to social scientists, journalists to weekend bloggers, everyone has an opinion about the do's and don'ts for raising healthy, well-adjusted - and let's not forget polite - children in today's fast-paced world. Where does this leave parents? Too often lacking in confidence, ill equipped, and overwhelmed. Parenting expert Vicki Hoefle makes the bold claim that it's time for parents to get off the perfection path and get back to the real job of parenting: to grow a grown-up.
-
-
Great
- By Jessica R. on 03-09-24
By: Vicki Hoefle
-
How to Raise an Adult
- Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success
- By: Julie Lythcott-Haims
- Narrated by: Julie Lythcott-Haims
- Length: 12 hrs and 31 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research; on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers; and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large.
-
-
Target Audience- Upper-Middle Class
- By Savy shopper on 06-02-16
-
The Explosive Child
- A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children
- By: Dr. Ross W. Greene
- Narrated by: Dr. Ross W. Greene
- Length: 2 hrs and 38 mins
- Abridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Dr. Ross Greene, a distinguished clinician and pioneer in the treatment of kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren't attentionseeking, manipulative, or unmotivated, and their parents aren't passive, permissive disciplinarians. Rather, explosive kids are lacking some crucial skills in the domains of flexibility/adaptability, frustration tolerance, and problem solving, and they require a different approach.
-
-
I started to cry....and this Dad doesn't do that
- By Jj on 02-26-15
-
How to Raise Successful People
- Simple Lessons for Radical Results
- By: Esther Wojcicki
- Narrated by: Andrea Gallo
- Length: 10 hrs and 51 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
The godmother of Silicon Valley, legendary teacher, and mother of a super family shares her tried-and-tested methods for raising happy, healthy, successful children using trust, respect, independence, collaboration, and kindness: TRICK. How to Raise Successful People offers essential lessons for raising, educating, and managing people to their highest potential. Change your parenting, change the world.
-
-
Rushed, no depth, very disappointed
- By Bobby Canedy on 05-16-19
By: Esther Wojcicki
-
Good Inside
- A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be
- By: Becky Kennedy
- Narrated by: Becky Kennedy
- Length: 9 hrs and 55 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Over the past several years, Dr. Becky Kennedy—known to her followers as “Dr. Becky”—has been sparking a parenting revolution. Millions of parents, tired of following advice that either doesn’t work or simply doesn’t feel good, have embraced Dr. Becky’s empowering and effective approach, a model that prioritizes connecting with our kids over correcting them. Parents have long been sold a model of childrearing that simply doesn’t work. From reward charts to time outs, many popular parenting approaches are based on shaping behavior, not raising humans.
-
-
Sounds Wonderful, Does Not Work
- By R. Humphrey on 01-08-23
By: Becky Kennedy
-
Hunt, Gather, Parent
- What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans
- By: Michaeleen Doucleff
- Narrated by: Michaeleen Doucleff
- Length: 11 hrs and 11 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In Hunt, Gather, Parent, Doucleff sets out with her three-year-old daughter in tow to learn and practice parenting strategies from families in three of the world’s most venerable communities: Maya families in Mexico, Inuit families above the Arctic Circle, and Hadzabe families in Tanzania. She sees that these cultures don’t have the same problems with children that Western parents do.
-
-
I wish they had a professional narrator
- By Anonymous User on 03-26-21
-
The Straight Talk on Parenting
- A No-Nonsense Approach on How to Grow a Grown-Up
- By: Vicki Hoefle
- Narrated by: Vicki Hoefle
- Length: 7 hrs and 43 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Parents these days are under a great deal of pressure to be "perfect". From psychologists to social scientists, journalists to weekend bloggers, everyone has an opinion about the do's and don'ts for raising healthy, well-adjusted - and let's not forget polite - children in today's fast-paced world. Where does this leave parents? Too often lacking in confidence, ill equipped, and overwhelmed. Parenting expert Vicki Hoefle makes the bold claim that it's time for parents to get off the perfection path and get back to the real job of parenting: to grow a grown-up.
-
-
Great
- By Jessica R. on 03-09-24
By: Vicki Hoefle
-
How to Raise an Adult
- Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success
- By: Julie Lythcott-Haims
- Narrated by: Julie Lythcott-Haims
- Length: 12 hrs and 31 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In How to Raise an Adult, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research; on conversations with admissions officers, educators, and employers; and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressed-out parents, and society at large.
-
-
Target Audience- Upper-Middle Class
- By Savy shopper on 06-02-16
-
The Explosive Child
- A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children
- By: Dr. Ross W. Greene
- Narrated by: Dr. Ross W. Greene
- Length: 2 hrs and 38 mins
- Abridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Dr. Ross Greene, a distinguished clinician and pioneer in the treatment of kids with social, emotional, and behavioral challenges, has worked with thousands of explosive children, and he has good news: these kids aren't attentionseeking, manipulative, or unmotivated, and their parents aren't passive, permissive disciplinarians. Rather, explosive kids are lacking some crucial skills in the domains of flexibility/adaptability, frustration tolerance, and problem solving, and they require a different approach.
-
-
I started to cry....and this Dad doesn't do that
- By Jj on 02-26-15
-
How to Raise Successful People
- Simple Lessons for Radical Results
- By: Esther Wojcicki
- Narrated by: Andrea Gallo
- Length: 10 hrs and 51 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
The godmother of Silicon Valley, legendary teacher, and mother of a super family shares her tried-and-tested methods for raising happy, healthy, successful children using trust, respect, independence, collaboration, and kindness: TRICK. How to Raise Successful People offers essential lessons for raising, educating, and managing people to their highest potential. Change your parenting, change the world.
-
-
Rushed, no depth, very disappointed
- By Bobby Canedy on 05-16-19
By: Esther Wojcicki
-
Good Inside
- A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be
- By: Becky Kennedy
- Narrated by: Becky Kennedy
- Length: 9 hrs and 55 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Over the past several years, Dr. Becky Kennedy—known to her followers as “Dr. Becky”—has been sparking a parenting revolution. Millions of parents, tired of following advice that either doesn’t work or simply doesn’t feel good, have embraced Dr. Becky’s empowering and effective approach, a model that prioritizes connecting with our kids over correcting them. Parents have long been sold a model of childrearing that simply doesn’t work. From reward charts to time outs, many popular parenting approaches are based on shaping behavior, not raising humans.
-
-
Sounds Wonderful, Does Not Work
- By R. Humphrey on 01-08-23
By: Becky Kennedy
-
Hunt, Gather, Parent
- What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans
- By: Michaeleen Doucleff
- Narrated by: Michaeleen Doucleff
- Length: 11 hrs and 11 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In Hunt, Gather, Parent, Doucleff sets out with her three-year-old daughter in tow to learn and practice parenting strategies from families in three of the world’s most venerable communities: Maya families in Mexico, Inuit families above the Arctic Circle, and Hadzabe families in Tanzania. She sees that these cultures don’t have the same problems with children that Western parents do.
-
-
I wish they had a professional narrator
- By Anonymous User on 03-26-21
-
1-2-3 Magic
- Effective Discipline for Children 2-12 (6th edition)
- By: Thomas W. Phelan PhD
- Narrated by: Paul Costanzo
- Length: 7 hrs and 1 min
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Being a parent is one of the most rewarding experiences in life, but every family faces challenges that can be frustrating and overwhelming. For more than 25 years, internationally renowned clinical psychologist Thomas W. Phelan's 1-2-3 Magic has helped millions of parents, teachers, and caregivers raise independent, emotionally intelligent children and build happier, healthier families - all through an easy to understand program that you'll swear "works like magic".
-
-
Not for kids with Trauma
- By Amy K. on 12-17-19
-
If I Have to Tell You One More Time
- The Revolutionary Program That Gets Your Kids to Listen Without Nagging, Reminding, or Yelling
- By: Amy McCready
- Narrated by: Coleen Marlo
- Length: 7 hrs and 51 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In this invaluable audiobook, Amy McCready, founder of the popular online parenting course Positive Parenting Solutions, presents a nag-and-scream-free program for compassionately yet effectively, correcting your children's bad behavior. McCready draws on Adlerian psychology and Positive Discipline, which focuses on the central idea that every human being has a basic need to feel connected and empowered - children being no exception to the rule.
-
-
Great book, will test
- By Jared on 05-21-15
By: Amy McCready
-
Fourteen Talks by Age Fourteen
- The Essential Conversations You Need to Have with Your Kids Before They Start High School
- By: Michelle Icard
- Narrated by: Michelle Icard
- Length: 10 hrs and 5 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
The 14 essential conversations to have with your tween and early teenager to prepare them for the emotional, physical, and social challenges ahead, including scripts and advice to keep the communication going and stay connected during this critical developmental window.
-
-
Critical race theory teachings
- By Mitch got ripped off on 06-10-21
By: Michelle Icard
-
A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD
- Embrace Neurodiversity, Live Boldly, and Break Through Barriers
- By: Sari Solden MS, Michelle Frank PsyD, Ellen Littman PhD - foreword
- Narrated by: Marni Penning
- Length: 6 hrs and 42 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
A Radical Guide for Women with ADHD is the first guided workbook for women with ADHD designed to break the cycle of negative self-talk and shame-based narratives that stem from the common and limiting belief that brain differences are character flaws. In this unique guide, you'll find a groundbreaking approach that blends traditional ADHD treatment with contemporary treatment methods, such as acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), to help you untangle yourself from the beliefs that have kept you from reaching your potential in life.
-
-
No practical strategies
- By Dunlay Kobe on 07-05-21
By: Sari Solden MS, and others
-
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk
- By: Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish
- Narrated by: Susan Bennett
- Length: 8 hrs and 24 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
This best-selling classic by internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children includes fresh insights and suggestions, as well as the author’s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships.
-
-
Best. Parenting. Book. Ever.
- By John on 01-02-13
By: Adele Faber, and others
-
Alpha Parents
- Take Control over Your Teens Lead Them in the Right Direction for Success in the World
- By: Paul Simon
- Narrated by: Gary Appleton
- Length: 2 hrs and 56 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
This book, Alpha Parents, is a profound blend of some highly beneficial ideas that are essential for strong family relationships. It consists of some real-life stories that emphasize the role of Alpha parents and how their behaviors and norms can impact their children. Alpha parents are responsible for incorporating the sentiments of love, kindness, helpfulness, and empathy in their children by setting examples.
-
-
This book is wonderful.
- By Jean Roessler on 11-24-21
By: Paul Simon
-
Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids
- How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting
- By: Laura Markham
- Narrated by: Xe Sands
- Length: 6 hrs and 58 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Based on the latest research on brain development and extensive clinical experience with parents, Dr. Laura Markham's approach is as simple as it is effective. Her message: Fostering emotional connection with your child creates real and lasting change. When you have that vital connection, you don't need to threaten, nag, plead, bribe - or even punish. This remarkable guide will help parents better understand their own emotions - and get them in check - so they can parent with healthy limits, empathy, and clear communication.
-
-
Not for parents of elementary aged kids
- By Jennifer on 10-28-16
By: Laura Markham
-
ScreamFree Parenting, 10th Anniversary Revised Edition
- How to Raise Amazing Adults by Learning to Pause More and React Less
- By: Hal Runkel LMFT
- Narrated by: Hal Runkel LMFT
- Length: 7 hrs and 32 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Parenting is not about kids; it's about parents. If you're not in control, then you cannot be in charge. What every kid really needs are parents who are able to keep their cool no matter what. Easier said than done? Not anymore, thanks to ScreamFree Parenting, the principle-based approach that's inspiring parents everywhere to truly revolutionize their family dynamics.
-
-
Eye opening
- By Mark on 09-12-07
By: Hal Runkel LMFT
-
What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew
- Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life
- By: Dr. Sharon Saline, Dr. Laura Markham
- Narrated by: Dr. Sharon Saline, Cassandra Campbell
- Length: 7 hrs and 23 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Veteran psychologist Sharon Saline shares the words and inner struggles of children and teens living with ADHD - and a blueprint for achieving lasting success by working together. Based on more than 25 years of experience counseling young people and their families, Dr. Saline’s advice and real-world examples reveal how parents can shift the dynamic and truly help kids succeed.
-
-
Thoughtful and Practical
- By Sun-Sensitive on 04-28-19
By: Dr. Sharon Saline, and others
-
The Gift of Failure
- How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed
- By: Jessica Lahey
- Narrated by: Jessica Lahey
- Length: 7 hrs and 46 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In the tradition of Paul Tough's How Children Succeed and Wendy Mogel's The Blessing of a Skinned Knee, this groundbreaking manifesto focuses on the critical school years when parents must learn to allow their children to experience the disappointment and frustration that occur from life's inevitable problems so that they can grow up to be successful, resilient, and self-reliant adults.
-
-
Just Ok
- By MB34 on 12-18-19
By: Jessica Lahey
-
Raising Your Spirited Child, Third Edition
- A Guide for Parents Whose Child Is More Intense, Sensitive, Perceptive, Persistent, and Energetic
- By: Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
- Narrated by: Abby Craden
- Length: 13 hrs and 17 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
Including real-life stories, this newly revised third edition of the award-winning best seller - voted one of the top 20 parenting books - provides parents with the most up-to-date research, effective discipline tips, and practical strategies for raising spirited children. Do you ever wonder why your child acts the way he or she does? Are you at a loss regarding your child's emotional intelligence and how to prevent meltdowns? Do you find yourself getting frustrated and feeling like you're at the end of your rope?
-
-
Wrong narrator for this book!
- By Amazon Customer on 12-21-17
-
Raising Human Beings
- Creating a Collaborative Partnership with Your Child
- By: Ross W. Greene
- Narrated by: Jonathan Todd Ross
- Length: 7 hrs and 54 mins
- Unabridged
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
In Raising Human Beings, the renowned child psychologist and New York Times best-selling author of Lost at School and The Explosive Child explains how to cultivate a better parent-child relationship while also nurturing empathy, honesty, resilience, and independence.
-
-
Great parenting advice!
- By J. Reece on 05-09-17
By: Ross W. Greene
What listeners say about Duct Tape Parenting
Average customer ratingsReviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Kathi
- 03-04-13
Parenting for the long haul
Any additional comments?
Vicki Hoefle has written about her parenting philosophy, based on the work of psychologists Afred Adler and Rudolph Dreikurs. If you are seeking a book with "quick fix" ideas for parenting, this is not it. This book is written on the premise that parents contribute to the very negative behaviors they most do not want to see continue in their kids by what they respond and attend to.
Ms. Hoefle suggests that parents begin by trying to think farther into a child's future, to consider how they would like their kids to turn out as adults, how they will manage in society. Toward this end, she suggests that parents be careful to avoid responding to behaviors that could have long term consequences to a kid's future and be responsive instead to behaviors that will serve their child well as they are moving forward into maturity (respect, responsibility, etc.).
I think this is a useful book for parents, teachers, grandparents..anyone who loves and interacts with children.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
3 people found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Ashley Schaffer
- 06-03-16
Hard work but life changing
Powerful lessons. Leaves me wondering about ADHD kids and mixed families with different households. Something to figure out for ourselves. Advice would be appreciated though. Thanks!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Mom of three
- 04-12-14
Inspiring, thought-provoking, call to action
What did you love best about Duct Tape Parenting?
The author makes it clear why typical parenting approaches don't work and why hers is a better way to go in the long term. She inspired me to rethink and behave differently as a parent. I am a better mother for having listened to this book. More importantly, I can see that my children's lives will be far better served by this approach to parenting, A strong statement, yes, and I believe it because I could already see a difference before I'd even finished the book, and now even more so with a few weeks practice.
What does Vicki Hoefle bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?
Passion, commitment, experience.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- kayla solomon
- 02-10-16
This book saved our family!!
With duct tape all things are possible. This guide has changed the way our family lives and communicates! Vickis use of personal and professional experience is helpful and inspiring. Hoefle is a great narrator whos voice is enjoyable to listen to.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- ali
- 08-16-15
EVERY PARENT.. hear me now.. MUST READ THIS BOOK
Would you consider the audio edition of Duct Tape Parenting to be better than the print version?
YES- only because you can accomplish the same information by going for a walk- doing something nice for yourself!
Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?
Helicopter parenting is exhausting, overdone, and hinders children from learning real life consequences. Less is more- and everyone is happier. Let your children live their life for Pete's sake! Whoever Pete is...
Any additional comments?
I was the perfect parent, when I didn't have children. Now that I have 2 of them- understand that no one is perfect- and WE ALL learn from mistakes that we make. Why protect your children from making valuable contributions to their own life? BUY this book- give it as a gift- and help us all to rear our children as self sufficient adults that contribute to society in a positive way!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
1 person found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- caroline
- 09-27-16
super interesting
Would you listen to Duct Tape Parenting again? Why?
yes! i have listening to this many times. I wish i had had it when my kids were young. great guild lines to follow.
What does Vicki Hoefle bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?
simplicity
What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?
just to take a step back and watch and let your kids do it
Any additional comments?
super great book
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Fiona Taylor
- 12-24-18
Such a disappointment
Overall the premise is good - stand back and let your child learn through problem solving - build a relationship with your child and be a guide rather than an authoritarian. Yep, sounds good.
However it’s hard to get over the annoying voice and how this book is read - it’s possible that the material has some use, but the whining, infantile, sing-song tone of the reader made it almost impossible to listen to. I stuck at it to the end in the hope that there may be more substance, but in the end all that I heard was the author smugly congratulating herself on her outstanding parenting skills.
Maybe buy the actual book and not the audible book and then pick and choose the chapters you read. Or just give the whole thing a miss.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
1 person found this helpful
-
Overall
-
Performance
-
Story
- Arising Phoenix
- 07-06-16
Felt condescending
I've read a lot of parenting books and while being hands off has its place, this book will not apply to all family situations. There are much more supportive books available.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!