
Controlling People
How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal with People Who Try to Control You
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Patricia Evans
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Does this sound like someone you know?
- Always needs to be right. Tells you who you are and what you think.
- Implies that you're wrong or inadequate when you don't agree.
- Is threatened by people who are "different".
- Feels attacked when questioned.
- Doesn't seem to really hear or see you.
If any of the above traits sounds familiar, help is on the way! In Controlling People, best-selling author Patricia Evans tackles the "controlling personality" and reveals how and why these people try to run other people's lives. She also explains the compulsion that makes them continue this behavior - even as they alienate others and often lose those they love.
Controlling People helps you unravel the senseless behavior that plagues both the controller and the victim. Can the pattern, or spell, be broken? Yes! says the author. By understanding the compelling force involved, you can be a catalyst for change and actually become a spell-breaker. Once the spell is broken and the controller sees others as they really are, a genuine connection can be forged and healing can occur.
Should you ever find yourself in the thrall of someone close to you, Controlling People is here to give you the wisdom, power, and comfort you need to be a stronger, happier, and more independent person.
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He says he loves you. So...why does he do that? You've asked yourself this question again and again. Now you have the chance to see inside the minds of angry and controlling men---and to change your life. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men shows you how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship.
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I needed this.
- By james p weiss on 09-07-17
By: Lundy Bancroft
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Narcissistic Ex
- How to Get Over a Toxic Relationship, Deal With an Abusive Ex and Become Free of the Controlling Sociopath
- By: Lauren Kozlowski
- Narrated by: Stephanie Murphy
- Length: 2 hrs and 21 mins
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Narcissistic abuse is a form of abuse that ensures victims are left emotionally drained, mentally exhausted, and devoid of any self-worth or self-esteem...ending a relationship with a narcissist isn’t that easy. In this audiobook, I want to offer you some guidance on this rarely-talked about aspect of an abusive relationship: how to deal with a narcissist when they’re your ex.
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thank you so much!!
- By jeff gipson on 12-30-19
By: Lauren Kozlowski
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Escaping Emotional Abuse
- Healing from the Shame You Don’t Deserve
- By: Beverly Engel
- Narrated by: Stephanie Richardson
- Length: 11 hrs and 13 mins
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In The Emotionally Abused Woman, therapist Beverly Engel introduced the concept of emotional abuse, one of the most subtle yet devastating forms of abuse within a relationship. Now Engel exposes the most destructive technique the abuser uses to break our spirit and gain control - and guides listeners on how to free themselves from the shame that can keep them from the life (and the love) they deserve.
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Excellent Audiobook - Suitable for Anyone
- By Anonymous for Privacy on 10-26-24
By: Beverly Engel
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Should I Stay or Should I Go?
- A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can - and Should - Be Saved
- By: Lundy Bancroft, JAC Patrissi
- Narrated by: Stephen R. Thorne
- Length: 13 hrs and 51 mins
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In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward, with or without their partners.
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Paradigm Shift
- By Sydnee Adams-Hancock on 04-08-16
By: Lundy Bancroft, and others
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If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad?
- Recognizing and Overcoming Subtle Abuse
- By: Avery Neal
- Narrated by: Virginia Wolf
- Length: 7 hrs and 42 mins
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In this groundbreaking audiobook, Avery Neal, founder of the Women's Therapy Clinic, helps you recognize the warning signs of subtle abuse. As you are able to identify patterns that have never made sense before, you are better equipped to make changes. An expert in the field, Neal has guided countless individuals to regain their self-esteem, their joy, and their lives. From letting go of fear to setting boundaries, If He's So Great, Why Do I Feel So Bad? will help you enjoy a happy, healthy, fulfilling life, free of shame or blame.
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Please keep politics out of a Self Help book.
- By Laureen K on 09-18-20
By: Avery Neal
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The Gaslight Effect
- How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life
- By: Dr. Robin Stern
- Narrated by: Nan McNamara
- Length: 9 hrs and 34 mins
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Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from. That’s because it plays into one of our worst fears — of being abandoned — and many of our deepest needs: to be understood, appreciated, and loved. In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works and tells you how to turn up your Gaslight Radar, so you know when a relationship is headed for trouble.
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Political stuff... really?
- By K on 03-28-18
By: Dr. Robin Stern
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If Only I'd Known!
- How to Outsmart Narcissists, Set Guilt-Free Boundaries, and Create Unshakeable Self-Worth
- By: Chelsey Brooke Cole
- Narrated by: Chelsey Brooke Cole
- Length: 6 hrs and 20 mins
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Narcissistic abuse creates a tidal wave of confusion, hypervigilance, and overthinking. You have trouble thinking clearly, remembering things, or taking in new information. And because these changes are happening to you, you begin to wonder: What's wrong with me? Why can't I make this relationship work? Am I fundamentally broken? And that's exactly how narcissistic abuse works—it happens so subtly that you believe the insecurities you're experiencing are "you" instead of "what's happening" to you. This audiobook covers unique information related to narcissistic abuse.
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This book is amazing.
- By Juan Servin on 01-03-24
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In Sheep's Clothing
- Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People
- By: George K. Simon
- Narrated by: Kevin Foley
- Length: 4 hrs and 43 mins
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Dr. George K. Simon knows how people push your buttons: your children---especially teens---are experts at it, as is your mate. A coworker may quietly undermine your efforts while professing to be helpful, or your boss may prey on your weaknesses. Manipulative people have two goals: to win and to look good doing it.
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Don't Be A Sucker
- By constructivefeedback on 02-07-12
By: George K. Simon
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Out of the Fog
- Moving from Confusion to Clarity After Narcissistic Abuse
- By: Dana Morningstar
- Narrated by: Dana Morningstar
- Length: 8 hrs and 59 mins
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The FOG is an acronym that stands for "Fear, Obligation, and Guilt". These three emotions are often how narcissists, sociopaths, and other types of emotional manipulators go about controlling others.
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THE best book I’ve ever read on the subject
- By Alexandria Filipowski on 10-23-19
By: Dana Morningstar
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The Covert Passive-Aggressive Narcissist
- Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse
- By: Debbie Mirza
- Narrated by: Debbie Mirza
- Length: 6 hrs and 42 mins
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The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse is the most comprehensive and helpful audiobook on the topic of covert narcissism. This type of narcissism is one of the most damaging forms because the abuse is so hidden and so insidious. You can be in a relationship that can last for decades and not realize you are being psychologically and emotionally controlled, manipulated, and abused.
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This book CHANGED MY LIFE!
- By Mojo on 12-19-18
By: Debbie Mirza
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Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare
- How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
- By: Shahida Arabi
- Narrated by: Julie McKay
- Length: 19 hrs and 53 mins
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Although clinical research has been conducted on narcissism as a disorder, less is known about its effects on victims who are in toxic relationships with partners with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Individuals with this disorder engage in chronic devaluation and manipulation of their partners, a psychological and emotional phenomenon known as "narcissistic abuse". Unfortunately, the full extent of what narcissistic abuse entails is not taught in any psychology class or diagnostic manual.
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Finally
- By zero on 12-08-16
By: Shahida Arabi
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Healing from Hidden Abuse
- A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse
- By: Shannon Thomas LCSW
- Narrated by: Wendy Tremont King
- Length: 6 hrs and 26 mins
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Within every community, toxic people can be found hiding in families, couples, companies, and places of worship. The cryptic nature of psychological abuse involves repetitious mind games played by one individual or a group of people. Psychological abuse leaves no bruises. There are no broken bones. There are no holes in the walls. The bruises, brokenness, and holes are held tightly within the target of the abuse.
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Proceed with caution
- By Kamel on 10-17-18
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- D K R
- 04-05-17
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Wish there was more information about controlling women. But the information on controlling in general was good. Hopefully "What?" will work. And I am thankful to know that I am not alone.
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- Active Catholic & Life-Long Learner
- 08-10-21
Eyes are opened!
And I’m so grateful. The answer I had prayed for. This book has wisdom that everyone needs to hear. The truth has set me free.
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- Kim H.
- 10-25-22
A must read if you think you are: a controller, or are being victimized by a controlling person or group!
I am a witness who initially read Patricia Evans book, verbally abusive relationships in May 2020 after being demeaning and humiliated to the point of complete and total distraught… That book helped me tremendously and my verbal abuser did not change, though I learn to respond… The roller coaster continued, although because of the book, I did not become depressed. Finally, in September of this year I decided I had enough, that he wouldn’t change and I would need to leave. As a last ditch effort, I turned back to Patricia Evans writings and read the verbally abusive man can he change. Because of references to the controlling people book, I read this as a follow up… Knowing what’s going on, the likelihood of change, and what is involved in the change has helped me tremendously and making my decision… Most importantly, I’ve taken back my self-esteem! Thank you to Patricia Evans. To those of you who are wondering if you are in the situation, read this book! I cannot emphasize enough how important it is to understand what is going on with your situation… You are absolutely not alone, and this book will help you see that!
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- Sandra
- 01-22-15
Insightful
I am going to listen to this book again. It was very eye opening and helped me to grow in understanding of people that control others.
The book offers me information that I need so as to be able to make hard decisions of divorce.
I listened to "verbal abusers, can he change" and I gave my spouse "The Agreement" 3 days ago. I appreciate the strength that comes with the lessons learned in listening to Patricia Evan's audiobooks.
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- Kindle Customer
- 02-27-18
Eye opening
Narrator was excellent. Kept me interested throughout. This is my second time listening to it with a totally different attitude and it came alive in my mind the need to break the spell of being in control. Thoroughly worth the money to purchase this book.
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- RL Bear
- 11-07-17
ABSOLUTE "MUST READ"
This information needs to be implemented as a Freshman Orientation Program.
Everyone should have this knowledge, before beginning to establish adult relationships.
Patricia presents how & why people control others at a personal level.
She reveals how to recognize controlling people, control techniques, the motives that drive the control and how to overcome this control.
Patricia presents this in a manner that is empathetic toward the controller, as well as the controllee.
If you recognize yourself as a controller, you too will find a way out of this destructive behavior.
Group control is touched on toward the end.
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- OWL
- 08-06-18
The info is great, the narrator needs some coffee
I have been dealing with controlling people all my life. This book really helped me understand why/what/how was happening in them, as opposed to feeling like I was part of the problem.
I highly recommend the book.
That said, I had to fight to listen to it to the end because the narrator is a bit bland.
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- Ohoud Muhammed
- 07-25-17
good book
the surprise that came with this book is the realization that I have been a controller myself treating my kids as my teddies. for that I give the book 5 stars as I came to learn how to deal with controllers not noticing I was one.
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- Hannah Lee
- 04-15-15
This book changed my entire perspective.
I now see the world through a different lens, the lens described in Controlling People that allows one to see nonsensical controlling behavior in myself and others. With Patricia Evans' guidance in this book, I believe I will be able to break the spell of controlling behavior of those who are unconsciously abusing me. I highly recommend this audio book, as it may just change your life.
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- Susanadelaide
- 09-12-19
Truth-Teller
This book does an amazing job of defining controlling relationships within the full spectrum - from offhand comments to verbal abuse to domestic violence to genocide. It’s an important read for anyone looking to escape the cycle of being controlled or trying to control others.
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