David & Sherie talk about some very basic principles every couple should use, and can solve 95% of your relationship issues. From John Gottman, these skills include:

1. Express feelings using “I” statements

2. Use a softened start up

3. Stay Calm and Regulate Emotions

4. Turn Towards and Make and Keep Bids for Connection

5. Practice Repair Attempts

6. Accept Influence

David & Sherie finish talking about desires and our role in changing desires to better match the life we want to live. We want to move from knowing a thing to wanting a thing to loving a thing, and we talk about the final steps to do this. Here are all the steps in the process and the bold ones are covered in this episode:

1. Understand what virtue really is
2. Strengthen Your Why & Define your Purpose
3. Genuinely pursue loving virtue with energy, vigor, and effort!
4. Create experiences of loving virtue in triggering situations through visualizing
5. See Others as Souls, Not Objects
6. Shift from Suppression or avoidance to Acceptance and Substitution
7. Expect Struggles, But Keep Going
8. Spiritual Practices

David & Sherie continue talking about desires and our role in changing desires to better match the life we want to live. We want to move from knowing a thing to wanting a thing to loving a thing, and we talk about additional steps to do this. Here are the steps in the process and the bold ones are covered in this episode:

1. Understand what virtue really is
2. Strengthen Your Why & Define your Purpose
3. Genuinely pursue loving virtue with energy, vigor, and effort!
4. Create experiences of loving virtue in triggering situations through visualizing
5. See Others as Souls, Not Objects
6. Shift from Suppression or avoidance to Acceptance and Substitution
7. Expect Struggles, But Keep Going
8. Spiritual Practices