In this episode of Sex & Bacon, I sit down with the always unfiltered Darby for a rollercoaster ride through dating disasters, sexual awakenings, and the spiritual side of swearing off men—temporarily.

We talk throuples, field apps, hat-fishing, giant dicks (that miss the G-spot), and the kind of kissing that makes you question if you even like the person. And then—curveball—Sarah shares her very real journey of trying celibacy… for six months. Kind of. Maybe. We’ll check back in 30 days.

Get ready for big laughs, bigger truths, and the kind of late-night convo you’d only have with your best friend and a half-empty glass of wine.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

Too Much Dick, Not Enough Spark
Why bigger isn’t always better and why chemistry matters more than checkboxes (even if the checkbox is “deep radio voice”).

Sensuality > Shits & Giggles
Sarah shares her first real experience with a couple—and what it taught her about connection, boundaries, and how much is too much pleasure in one night.

When Your Gut Says “No,” but Your Hormones Say “Let’s Go”
Why we sometimes ignore our instincts when someone checks all the right boxes—except the emotional availability one.

Six Months of Celibacy (Allegedly)
Sarah swears off dating and sex for six months to heal, set boundaries, and get clear… but can she make it past day 30 without sexting someone in a cowboy hat?

Red Flags & Witches
From “build-a-boy” fantasies to sending money to witches (yep, that happened), we go there—and back again. Plus, what dating app culture really says about where we are emotionally.

Sisterhood Over Situationships
Through the mess and the magic, Sarah proves one thing: real friendship is what holds you when the bed’s cold and the heart’s hurting.

We get into:

• 00:00 Intro

• 00:25 Dating Woes and Celibacy Challenge

• 01:14 The Cowboy Chronicles

• 02:29 Exploring Throuples and New Dating Adventures

• 04:17 The Throuple Experience

• 08:49 New Connections and Insecurities

• 14:05 Navigating Relationship Red Flags

• 20:04 Warnings and Red Flags

• 21:04 Realization and Self-Reflection

• 23:32 Intimacy and Relationship Benchmarks

• 27:22 Commitment to a Dating Hiatus

• 31:51 Challenges and Support

• 40:36 Final Thoughts and Cheers

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode of Sex & Bacon, I’m joined by the vibrant and soulfully wise Shay Moore—a licensed marriage and family therapist with a love for all things messy, magical, and real when it comes to relationships. Together, we dive deep into the labyrinth of modern love, friendships, dating dilemmas, and the wild ride of being a woman who’s trying to figure it all out without losing herself in the process.

Shay brings raw honesty and therapeutic insight as we unpack the complexities of love, the importance of female friendships, and why your girlfriends really are your soulmates (even if they cook you dinner instead of sending flowers).

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

Love in Shambles – From Studying It to Living It
Shay shares her journey from being single and skeptical to becoming a therapist helping others navigate love—even when her own heart was still learning.

Hyper-Independent Women & The Vulnerability Conundrum
Why opening up feels like peeling your own skin off—and how we can soften without falling apart.

Dating in the Digital Age – Why Is This So F*cking Hard?
We talk about ghosting, texting anxiety, and whether being a "pen pal" counts as connection. Spoiler: it doesn’t.

Friends Who Love Us Too Hard
How our besties can sometimes project their own pain into our dating lives—and how to tell when it’s advice or overprotection talking.

Sisterhood is Sacred
Shay opens up about her own heartbreaks, the friends who walked beside her, and why adult female friendships are the real love story of your life.

Healing Through Sisterhood, Honesty, & Hugs
From seven-second hugs to "rotting on the couch" dates, we explore the power of being seen, held, and loved by other women—no filter, no judgment.

We get into:

• 00:00 Intro

• 02:16 The Struggles of Modern Relationships

• 04:33 Navigating Dating Expectations

• 09:30 The Role of Friends in Relationship Advice

• 16:43 Mental Health and Relationship Breakdowns

• 18:03 Red Flags and Emotional Availability

• 23:14 The Tall Man Dilemma

• 23:37 Emotional Availability in Relationships

• 24:41 The Importance of Open Communication

• 28:16 Supporting Friends Through Breakups

• 31:49 Love Languages in Friendships

• 33:36 The Value of Female Friendships

• 42:15 Unapologetically You

• 48:19 Final Thoughts and Advice

Connect with Shay

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shifthappenswithshay/

• Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2413290/episodes/16781737-the-power-of-vulnerability-how-being-real-strengthens-relationships

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/explicitlyspeakingsarah

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode of Sex&Bacon, I’m joined by the incredibly brave Katey Rickert for a raw, unfiltered conversation about healing after sexual assault, reclaiming power, and the long, winding road of recovery. Katey opens up about her personal story—one that is heart-wrenching, courageous, and deeply human. Together, we unpack the dark aftermath of trauma, the complexities of consent, and how writing, movement, and connection helped her return home to herself.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

Surviving the Unthinkable – The Story Behind the Blog
Katey shares how her blog was born from a place of pain, resilience, and healing—writing her way through trauma, shame, and the reclamation of her body and voice.

Disassociation, PTSD & the Aftermath of Assault
What really happens to the body and mind during and after sexual trauma—and why it’s not as simple as “fight or flight.”

Why Survivors Stay Silent – And Why That Needs to Change
From shame to broken systems, Katey breaks down the reasons behind the silence of so many survivors—and what happened when she finally reported her assault 8 years later.

The Broken Justice System – One Call, No Justice
Despite a recorded confession, her rapist walked free. Katey details the gut-wrenching failures of the legal system and why so many survivors don’t come forward.

The Road to Recovery – Yoga, Therapy & Radical Reconnection
Katey dives into how years of therapy, recovery, and somatic healing helped her finally feel safe again—in her body, in relationships, and in her truth.

From Trauma to Empowerment – Reclaiming Sexuality on Her Own Terms
How she transformed her pain into power, explored her sensuality through photography and writing, and ultimately found healing in conscious, connected love.

We get into:

• 00:00 Intro

• 01:37 The Impact of Sexual Assault

• 03:35 Exploring Sexuality and OF

• 07:15 The Lifestyle Lounge Experience

• 10:11 The Assault Incident

• 19:41 Aftermath and Reporting

• 26:36 Travis County's Sexual Assault Case Backlog

• 27:55 Dissociation During Assault

• 32:44 Struggles with Intimacy

• 33:42 Seeking Help and Recovery

• 40:24 The Importance of Support Systems

• 44:35 The Broken System and Reporting Challenges

• 47:31 Empowerment Through Sharing

• 49:36 Final Thoughts and Resources

Connect with Katey

• https://www.lamalaloba.com/ (password is kateybea)

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/explicitlyspeakingsarah

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com