Jan - June 2025 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:

• Do men enjoy cunnilingus after ejaculation?
• Should I feel bad for refusing oral after anal?
• My spouse says I should accept substitutes for sex
• Feeling unloved due to lack of physical affection
• Guilt over sexual desires shaped by past porn use
• When one spouse wants BDSM and the other doesn't
• Sex is loving but not exciting—can it be fixed?
• Why not have kids in your 40s?
• Survey requests on mutual masturbation and handjobs

Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:

• Have a Question (submit form)
• Sexploration List
• Talking Dirty (ebook)
• Responsive vs Spontaneous Desire (post)
• Desire vs Willingness (post)
• Sexual Frequency (post)
• SWM 125 - Rethinking Duty Sex
• BDSM Forum
• BDSM Survey Results
• Mutual Masturbation Survey Results
• Cunnilingus (glossary)
• Your Definition of Gross Changes (post)
• SWM 147 - Sexual Compatibility
• SWM 150 - Control, Sex, and Marriage
• Becoming More Sexually Engaged (course)
• MarriedDance.com (store)
• CouplesMassageCourses.com (course)
• Marriage Coaching (service)

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SWM 150 - Control, sex and marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.

Last month, I watched a great video by Gary Thomas and his wife Lisa on how a controlling spirit can harm a marriage. It got me thinking: In Christian circles, we often struggle to define the difference between healthy leadership and damaging control—both in marriage and in our relationship with God.

Why is it that surrendering to God is seen as good, but demanding control from a spouse is harmful? The key, I believe, is consent and love. When surrender is freely given and motivated by love, it can bring freedom and joy. But when control is forced, it leads to resentment and broken trust.

In this post, I’m sharing some personal stories and lessons we’ve learned about navigating these tricky dynamics in marriage.

Links in this podcast episode:

• Gary Thomas - Substack - A controlling spirit can devestate a marriage
• SWM 108 - What does the Bible say about hell?
• Sexual Frequency - Why I don't worry anymore
• Becoming More Sexually Engaged Course - For Christian Wives
• Sexy Photos Course - For Christian Wives
• Becoming More Sexually Engaged Course - For Christian Wives

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