Dr. Rob and Dr. Erika Schwartz continue their discussion about the connection between intimacy and sex. She highlights the role of hormones in sex addiction and betrayal, addresses the myths of monogamy, and counters the dangerous statement that too many betraying partners tell themselves, because what you don’t know actually will hurt you, will hurt your partner, and will hurt everyone around you.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:22] Coming to peace with the trauma that happens in betrayal.

[4:25] Who were you before you came into this relationship?

[6:02] The power of opening up when overcoming betrayal trauma.

[9:08] The role of hormones in sex addiction and betrayal.

[11:10] What does monogamy look like in humans?

[14:28] The deeper hurt that comes when love appears while cheating.

[19:15] What you don’t know won’t hurt you, or will it?

[21:20] Connect with Dr. Erika Schwartz.

RESOURCES:

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101

Seeking Integrity

Dr. Geoff Goodman

Free Sexual Addiction Screening Assessment

Partner Sexuality Survey

Dr. Erika Schwartz

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES:

• “If humans are monogamous, why are we all having affairs? It’s because monogamy is a choice.”
• “Sexuality and intimacy are not the same. That’s when we start behaving differently.”
• “Love is the core of everything. If it’s love, move out of the way.”
• “What you don’t know will hurt me, will hurt you, and will hurt everyone around you.”