Episodes

  • EP295: How to Rebuild Self Trust (Even if You’ve Betrayed Yourself Before)

    EP295: How to Rebuild Self Trust (Even if You’ve Betrayed Yourself Before)
    Jul 8 2025

    In this episode, we’re diving into what it really means to trust yourself—especially after years of self-doubt, people-pleasing, or putting everyone else’s needs ahead of your own. Self-trust isn’t about always having the answers or getting it right every time. It’s about knowing that you’ll show up for yourself, tell the truth about what you feel, and make choices that honor your inner knowing, even when it’s hard.

    You’ll hear about why so many of us learned to look outward instead of inward, how subtle self-betrayals can build up over time, and what it actually takes to come back to yourself. If you've been stuck in second-guessing, this episode will meet you with honesty, compassion, and a clear path toward repair.

    Three Takeaways:

    1. Rebuilding trust with yourself starts in small, often invisible moments.

    2. There's a big difference between keeping peace and keeping your truth.

    3. The way you respond to yourself in failure matters more than the failure itself.

    Approval feels nice

    in the moment. But true peace

    comes from trusting yourself.

    Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

    If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

    Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

    https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

    Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

    Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    Resources:

    Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

    Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    24 mins
  • EP294: Where Did You Go? The Moment You Started Leaving Yourself Behind

    EP294: Where Did You Go? The Moment You Started Leaving Yourself Behind
    Jul 1 2025
    In this episode, we take a deeper look at the slow, often unnoticed ways we begin to disconnect from ourselves—especially when survival, acceptance, or love seemed to depend on it. Whether it started in childhood or in a past relationship, the moment you began second-guessing your gut or hiding your truth was likely a moment of self-protection. But over time, those small choices can add up to a life that doesn’t quite feel like your own. We’ll explore how shame, emotional detachment, and a need for approval can pull us away from our true voice—and what it means to gently start coming home to yourself. You’ll be invited to reflect on your own turning points, not with judgment, but with curiosity and compassion. Because the goal isn’t to blame yourself for how you’ve coped—it’s to recognize that you now have the power to choose something different. Three Takeaways: 1. There are moments in your story that quietly shaped how you relate to yourself - and they’re worth revisiting with fresh eyes. 2. What feels like a personality trait might actually be a survival pattern you no longer need. 3. Reconnection doesn’t happen in a single breakthrough - it’s a series of tiny, loyal choices to stop leaving yourself behind. Coming back to yourself isn’t dramatic. It’s in the quiet choice to stop abandoning yourself - even in the small moments. Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/ Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143 Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    27 mins
  • EP293: Learning to Stay: Mindfulness, Healing, and Emotional Resilience with Derek Lakin

    EP293: Learning to Stay: Mindfulness, Healing, and Emotional Resilience with Derek Lakin
    Jun 24 2025
    In this episode, I sit down with Derek Lakin, a mindfulness teacher and Awareness Guide whose journey from deep depression to emotional resilience is nothing short of powerful. Derek opens up about the moment he nearly ended his life, and how a last-minute suggestion from his therapist led him to try ketamine therapy. But what truly transformed his life wasn’t just the treatment—it was the years of mindfulness practice that allowed him to receive its lessons, integrate emotional tools, and slowly rebuild a sense of self-worth, presence, and purpose. We explore what it really means to meet yourself where you are, especially when anxiety, shame, or disconnection make that feel nearly impossible. Derek shares how practical mindfulness practices helped him stay grounded, begin to trust life again, and ultimately teach others to do the same. If you’ve ever struggled to just “be” with your emotions, or you’re looking for tools that go deeper than surface-level advice, this conversation offers hope, honesty, and a way forward. Three Key Takeaways 1. The most powerful shifts often start with one uncomfortable moment of stillness. 2. Healing isn’t about striving—it’s about learning to listen differently to what’s already inside you. 3. There are tools that can help you feel grounded, even when life feels completely untethered. The moment we stop trying to escape discomfort is the moment we start accessing real power. To contact Derek: https://www.mindfulnesschangeslives.com/ Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/ Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143 Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    39 mins
  • EP292: Letting Go to Move Ahead: EMDR Coaching for Life Change Conversation with Coach Christine Roslund

    EP292: Letting Go to Move Ahead: EMDR Coaching for Life Change Conversation with Coach Christine Roslund
    Jun 17 2025

    In this episode, I’m joined by my friend Christine Roslund—an experienced coach, therapist, and EMDR practitioner. We explore how Christine blends years of EMDR therapy with life coaching to help her clients clear deep blocks and reconnect with their true selves. Christine shares insights on what real healing can look like, why getting unstuck doesn’t have to mean reliving old pain, and how she helps people move forward with clarity and purpose. This one’s for anyone who feels like they’ve been spinning their wheels and wants to understand what’s really in the way.

    Three Takeaways:

    1. You don’t always have to talk something to death to heal it.

    2. Feeling stuck is often a sign that something deeper wants attention.

    3. The right support can help you move through what’s hard—without carrying it forever.

    Getting unstuck isn’t

    about trying harder -

    It’s about finding what’s

    really in the way.

    -Christine Roslund

    To contact Christine:

    https://beingtrue2you.substack.com/

    Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

    If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

    Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

    https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

    Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

    Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    Resources:

    Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

    Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    42 mins
  • EP291: Staying With Yourself When You Want to Run

    EP291: Staying With Yourself When You Want to Run
    Jun 10 2025

    In this episode, we explore how emotional avoidance and self-abandonment often disguise themselves as being “helpful,” “productive,” or “strong.” Whether it's saying yes too quickly, fixing others’ emotions, or numbing out with distractions, these patterns are not bad habits - they’re survival strategies we picked up when it wasn’t safe to feel or express ourselves. We look at where these behaviors come from, why they served a purpose, and what they’re costing us now.

    We discuss gentle, practical ways to begin recognizing and shifting these patterns. You’ll walk away with a deeper understanding of why it’s hard to stay with yourself emotionally and how beginning to do so—even for a few seconds at a time—is a powerful act of healing.

    We don’t always notice

    when we’re

    abandoning ourselves –

    it can look like overdoing,

    over giving, or overcommitting.

    Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here!

    If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap!

    Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice:

    https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words

    Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out:

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/

    Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey!

    https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour

    Resources:

    Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143

    Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    25 mins
  • EP290: Why We Struggle to Feel Safe in Our Own Minds and Bodies

    EP290: Why We Struggle to Feel Safe in Our Own Minds and Bodies
    Jun 3 2025
    Today, we kick off the month’s theme of Reclaiming Inner Safety by unpacking why so many of us live in a constant state of disconnection. From racing thoughts and emotional numbing to people-pleasing and overfunctioning, we explore how early life experiences—like trauma, chronic stress, or invalidation—teach us that it’s not safe to feel, need, or be fully present. These patterns of self-protection may have once helped us survive, but now they’re keeping us from living a grounded, authentic life. You’ll learn how disconnection often hides behind busyness, anxiety, or over-responsibility, and how the journey back to yourself starts with small, intentional moments of presence. We also talk about how this month, we will be talking about practices like EMDR and mindfulness can support this healing process by helping us gently return to our bodies, emotions, and inner truth—without shame or overwhelm. Three Takeaways 1. Disconnection is a survival response—not a personal failure. Many of us learned to tune out from our emotions and bodies because it didn’t feel safe to stay connected. 2. Busyness, people-pleasing, and overthinking are often symptoms of deeper emotional avoidance. These patterns are how we manage discomfort—but they keep us from our truth. 3. The path back to yourself starts with presence. A single breath, a named feeling, or a brief moment of stillness can begin to rebuild trust with your inner world. When stillness feels unsafe, we don’t slow down – we stay busy, reactive, or numb. Not because we want to – but because it feels safer than what we’d have to feel. Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/ Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143 Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    29 mins
  • EP289 How Emotional Safety Makes Space for the Real You

    EP289 How Emotional Safety Makes Space for the Real You
    May 27 2025
    If you've ever found yourself holding back in conversation, choosing your words carefully, scanning the other person's face, or thinking three steps ahead just to avoid conflict, you’re not alone. Emotional honesty isn’t something we magically access. It’s something that grows in the presence of safety. In this episode, we're exploring how emotional safety impacts your ability to be authentic in real time—and why you can’t build connection in relationships where conversations feel like landmines. We’ll talk about the difference between environments where your truth is welcomed, and the ones where it’s quietly shut down. You’ll learn what to look for when testing emotional safety, how to practice small moments of truth-telling without overwhelm, and why the healthiest people in your life don’t just put up with your emotions—they make space for them. This episode is for anyone who’s tired of performing and ready to start showing up more fully and honestly. Three Takeaways 1. You can’t be emotionally honest in relationships where you’re always bracing for impact. 2. Emotional safety isn’t about being coddled - it’s about knowing your truth won’t cost you connection. 3. Practicing honesty in safe relationships rewires your nervous system and helps you reclaim your voice. That’s what safe belonging does. When honesty feels like a risk, what you’re in isn’t connection— it’s survival mode. Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/ Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143 Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    19 mins
  • EP288: Feeling Safe Changes the Choices You Make

    EP288: Feeling Safe Changes the Choices You Make
    May 13 2025
    We’re often told that courage is about inner strength…that we have to dig deep and face the fear alone. But that’s not how it actually works. Courage is a relational experience. We’re more likely to take brave steps when we feel emotionally safe, supported, and connected. In this episode, we’re exploring how safe belonging, not just fitting in, but being truly accepted becomes the foundation for real change. We’ll dig into how the nervous system responds to connection, why we’re more likely to take risks when we feel emotionally secure, and what happens when that belonging is missing or conditional. You’ll also hear how to tell the difference between false belonging (where you shrink to fit in) and true belonging (where you expand to be yourself). If you’ve ever wondered why change feels impossible in certain relationships - or why you suddenly feel more capable in others - this episode is for you. Three Takeaways 1. The body needs to feel safe before the brain can take a risk. Belonging calms fear and unlocks courage. 2. You can’t be brave in environments where you’re trying to survive. Safety isn’t optional, it’s foundational. 3. True belonging allows you to make choices that reflect who you are, not just who others expect you to be. That’s what safe belonging does. It doesn’t just hold you-it helps you come back to yourself and move forward as the version of you who finally feels free to grow. Get your FREE Boundaries Ebook here! If you're ready to find your voice, set healthy boundaries, and create more fulfilling relationships, this guide is your roadmap! Need more? Check out the Masterclass on Reclaiming Your Voice: https://www.findyourvoicecourse.com/beyond-words Hey! My signature course is live! I am so excited to also offer a free upgrade to the group coaching program. Be sure to click here to check it out: https://findyourvoicecourse.com/ Need coaching? Sign up here for your Power Hour, where you and I can get you started on your confidence journey! https://findyourvoicecourse.com/power-hour Resources: Join the private Facebook group! It’s a great group of people working on themselves…and supporting each other. https://www.facebook.com/groups/1212485642262143 Thank you for tuning in to this podcast. Please remember to leave a positive review on your podcast platform and let us know how this episode has been helpful. Also don’t forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcasts, Google Play or Spotify so you don’t miss a thing!
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    18 mins