“Why do we keep doing this?”
That question might be the key to unlocking a whole new season in your marriage.

In this month’s episode, we dive deep into the unseen cycles that shape our relationships—many of which we inherited, others we’ve accidentally created. From generational trauma and addiction to criticism, over-scheduling, and emotional disconnection, we unpack the spiritual and practical steps it takes to recognize and break these toxic patterns.

💬 Drawing from personal stories, biblical truth, and hard-earned lessons from nearly 30 years of marriage, we explore how couples can rewrite their story—together.

📖 Key Scripture:
Romans 12:2 — “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”

💡 Discover:

• How to recognize patterns that are holding your marriage back
• Breaking generational cycles of addiction, dysfunction, and trauma
• The link between emotional safety and long-term satisfaction
• Practical tools for spiritual connection and mental renewal
• The power of one bold step toward change
• King Josiah’s legacy of transformation and how it applies today

🎯 Key Takeaways:

• Every couple inherits patterns—some helpful, some harmful
• Defining your vision for your marriage is the first step
• Breaking a cycle takes awareness, agreement, and aligned action
• Community and spiritual connection are essential in the process
• One decision can start a ripple of healing for future generations

🙋‍♂️ Question for you:
What’s one cycle in your marriage or family history that needs to end—and what’s one small step you can take this week?

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Will our marriage really last? That’s the question most couples ask—whether they say it out loud or not. In this powerful episode, we unpack the top predictor of marital success based on brand-new research shared by Les Parrott at a recent marriage conference: perceived partner commitment. What does that mean, and how do you build it?

We break down the difference between commitment busters and commitment builders—everything from separate bank accounts and secrets to road trips and red lipstick moments. We share insights from 30 years of marriage, including personal stories, scriptures, and the hard lessons we’ve learned the long way. Whether you’re just starting out or decades in, this episode will encourage you to build the kind of marriage that lasts—one built on intentional, everyday commitment.

💡 Discover:

• What “perceived partner commitment” actually means
• The marriage triangle: passion, intimacy, and commitment
• 6 commitment busters to watch out for
• 8 commitment builders that create lasting love
• How to protect your marriage from separation, secrets, and criticism
• How shared memories, empathy, and sacrifice keep couples close

📖 Bible Verses Mentioned:
Mark 10:7–9 – “Let no one split them apart.”
Philippians 2:3–5 – “Be humble…have the same attitude as Christ.”

💭 Question for You:
What’s one way you can show your spouse your commitment this week?

❤️ Call to Action:
Leave a comment and let us know how you’re building commitment in your marriage. Like & subscribe for more episodes to help your marriage grow strong!

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In this episode, we’re joined by our friends, Steve and Lori Barker, to talk about the challenges of balancing a busy marriage and life filled with parenting, careers, and everything in between. From juggling schedules, prioritizing each other, to how they make time for their dreams and personal growth, Steve and Lori share their insights and experiences on maintaining a strong relationship through life’s busiest seasons. We also dive into how they integrate their faith and stay connected through it all, offering practical advice on how to stay grounded and emotionally healthy while managing a hectic life. Whether you’re parenting, in a busy season, or just trying to figure out how to prioritize your spouse while managing the chaos, this episode is packed with wisdom and relatable stories.

Key Points:

• Strategies for balancing marriage, kids, and busy careers
• How to keep your marriage strong in the midst of life’s demands
• The importance of being a cheerleader for your spouse’s dreams
• How setting boundaries, like family schedules and tech-free time, can bring peace
• Practical ways to stay emotionally connected while parenting and working
• The value of prayer and supporting each other through challenges

#MarriageGoals #Parenting #BusyLifeBalance #StrongMarriage #FamilyTime #FaithInMarriage #MarriageTips #ParentingInTheBusySeasons #CoupleGoals #LoveAndSupport #ParentingBalance

Join us as we recap our powerful marriage retreat! We dive deep into the four essential habits for a thriving marriage, inspired by Ted Lowe's book, 'Your Best Us.' Discover practical tips on having 'serious fun,' prioritizing God in your relationship, cultivating love and respect, and practicing your promises. Learn how to overcome common marriage barriers like busyness, seriousness, and the challenges of raising children. We also discuss the importance of date nights, intimacy, and open communication. Whether you're a newlywed or have been married for decades, this episode offers valuable insights to strengthen your bond and build a God-centered marriage.

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Key Points:

• Recap of the marriage retreat and key takeaways from 'Your Best Us'
• The importance of having 'serious fun' and overcoming fun barriers
• Putting God first in your marriage and the power of faith
• Cultivating love and respect through effective communication
• Practicing your promises and building a lasting commitment
• Practical tips for date nights, intimacy, and shared goals

Resources Mentioned:

• 'Your Best Us' by Ted Lowe
• 'Love and Respect' by Emerson Eggerich
• Proverbs 5
• Mark 12:30
• Ephesians 4:29

#ChristianMarriage #MarriagePodcast #RelationshipAdvice #MarriageRetreat #YourBestUs #GodCenteredMarriage #LoveAndRespect #MarriageTips #StrongMarriage #ChristianCouples

Comment your answer! Questions:

• What are some 'fun barriers' you've faced in your marriage, and how did you overcome them?
• How do you prioritize God in your relationship?
• What are some ways you and your spouse practice your promises to one another?
• What are your favorite ways to have fun with your spouse?

Happy Valentine’s! Whether you’re all about the romance or you think it’s just another day, we’re here to give you 14 creative ways to show love to your spouse—not just on Valentine’s Day, but all year round!

There are so many things in life that can distract us from prioritizing our spouse, so we’re sharing practical, fun, and flirty ways to keep the love alive in your marriage. From love notes and surprise treats to sexy texts and spontaneous date nights, these simple yet powerful gestures can help deepen your connection and bring you closer together.

💬 Key Points Discussed:
✅ Why saying “I love you” and showing it matters
✅ 14 creative ways to keep the spark alive
✅ How small gestures (like sticky notes & long kisses) make a big impact
✅ The power of intentional touch, flirtation, and planned dates
✅ How to prioritize your spouse daily—even in a busy life

📖 Bible Verses Mentioned:

• 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 – Love is patient, love is kind…
• Ephesians 5:25 – Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church…
• Proverbs 5:18-19 – Rejoice in the wife of your youth…

💬 Question:
Which of these 14 ways do you already practice? Which one do you want to try next? Let us know in the comments!

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Are you or your spouse navigating a difficult season? Whether it’s financial pressure, health challenges, or emotional struggles, this episode of Marriage Monthly dives deep into how to support a struggling spouse with care, empathy, and intention. 💛

Join Gabe and Melissa as they share 10 practical and faith-driven strategies to strengthen your marriage during tough times. From understanding their pace to encouraging their passions, each tip is rooted in Biblical wisdom and real-life experiences. You’ll also learn:

• How to truly listen and provide a safe space for your spouse.
• Why consistent encouragement and small wins matter.
• The importance of self-care when your spouse is struggling.
• How to embrace their pace and celebrate progress.
• Why prayer and faith are essential for breakthrough moments.

🔑 Scripture References:

• Ephesians 4:2: “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”
• Philippians 4:6-7: “Don’t be anxious about anything…”

This episode is packed with actionable advice to help you navigate hard seasons together, with God at the center. Don’t miss it! 🙌

💬 What’s one way you’ll apply these tips this week? Let us know in the comments!

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Drama can feel unavoidable, especially during high-pressure seasons like the holidays, but it doesn’t have to define your marriage. In this episode of Marriage Monthly, Gabe and Melissa Kolstad dive into the unique challenges couples face when drama creeps in and share their proven five-step P.E.A.C.E. Plan for navigating conflict and restoring harmony in your relationship.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The root causes of marital drama and why it often doubles in December.
• How to approach disagreements with intentionality and prayer.
• The P.E.A.C.E. Plan:

Key Bible Verses:

• Matthew 5:9 – “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.”
• Romans 12:18 – “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
• Philippians 4:6-7 – “Do not be anxious about anything… And the peace of God… will guard your hearts and your minds.”

Discussion Questions:

• What unresolved drama is currently stealing your peace in marriage?
• Which step of the P.E.A.C.E. Plan can you implement this week?

With practical advice, scriptural wisdom, and real-life examples, this episode equips you with tools to build a stronger, more peaceful marriage, even when life feels chaotic.

Welcome to another enriching episode of Marriage Monthly, where Gabe and Melissa Kolstad dive into the joys and intricacies of vacationing together. This episode is not just about the relaxation and escape vacations offer, but about deepening bonds and creating lasting memories. Whether it’s exploring the cultural tapestry of Copenhagen, experiencing the heritage-rich scenes of Scandinavia, or simply enjoying the thrill of new destinations, Gabe and Melissa share their insights on how vacations can significantly enrich relationships.

Key Points Covered:

•Strategic Vacationing: Learn the art of planning and executing memorable vacations that rejuvenate your relationship.

•Economic Travel Tips: Discover how to enjoy lavish trips without the lavish price tag, including tips on using travel points effectively.

•Making Memories: Understand why creating shared memories is foundational to a strong relationship and how to make the most out of every trip.

•Balancing Relaxation with Adventure: Explore the dynamics of different vacationing styles and find what best suits your relationship.

Resources Mentioned:

•Expedia for booking and managing travel plans to maximize points.

•Groupon for affordable travel deals.

•Specific travel credit cards for earning points towards free trips.

#TravelTogether #MarriageGoals #AdventureCouples #VacationPlanning #MemoryMaking