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LOVERS by shan

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 Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right.

Past guest include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away.

When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.All Rights Reserved Hygiene & Healthy Living Relationships Social Sciences
Episodes
  • S2 Ep125: Kama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know ft. Seema Anand

    S2 Ep125: Kama Sutra Secrets Every Woman Deserves to Know ft. Seema Anand
    Jun 24 2025
    What if the key to better sex isn’t new, but rooted in ancestral knowledge?

    In this episode, Shan sits down with storyteller, mythologist, and ancient erotica expert Seema Anand to explore the rich, and yes, deeply sexy, history of sexual liberation, and why it's never really been a modern idea.

    Together, they unpack what it means to reconnect with your desire through ancestry, ritual, and unapologetic self-expression. We talk sex positions (yes, the Kama Sutra makes an appearance), the role of storytelling in the bedroom, and how wearing your desire, literally, can be one of the boldest, most freeing things you do.

    This conversation even inspired a whole jewelry line. The Kama Collection is a tribute to sensuality, intention, and the art of not hiding your hunger.

    👑 Follow Seema Anand on Instagram: @seemaanandstorytelling

    🔥 Shop the Kama Collection: surmeyi.com/kama
    The waist chain designed for being on top
    The anklet designed for when your legs are in the air
    The necklace designed for yab yum
    The earrings designed for riding
    The choker designed for lotus position
    The spine chain designed for doggystyle

    👥 Join the community: loversbyshan.com/community
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    54 mins
  • S2 Ep124: He Was Never Going To Commit And Here's Why ft. Duckwrth

    S2 Ep124: He Was Never Going To Commit And Here's Why ft. Duckwrth
    Jun 18 2025
    Why do fuckboys… fuckboy? In this episode, we dig into the root of it.

    Just ahead of the release of his new single Permanent Vacation (dropping June 18), genre-bending artist Duckwrth joins Shan for a raw and revealing conversation on why some men detach, ghost, and repeat the cycle. Together, they unpack how fear of commitment, cultural conditioning, and childhood wounds can all contribute to the “Certified Loverboy” identity.

    Duckwrth opens up about his own evolution—from polyamory and emotional avoidance to developing a deeper sense of self-awareness and desire for real connection.

    If you’ve ever dated a fuckboy, been affected by one, or are reflecting on your own relationship patterns, this one’s for you.

    🎧 Watch the video for Permanent Vacation
     💫 Follow Duckwrth on Instagram: @duckwrth
    👥 Join the community at: loversbyshan.com/community
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    57 mins
  • S2 Ep123: I Wanted My Man, Not the Sex: Tamsen Fadal on Losing Her Libido At the Worst Possible Time

    S2 Ep123: I Wanted My Man, Not the Sex: Tamsen Fadal on Losing Her Libido At the Worst Possible Time
    Jun 11 2025
    Have you ever wondered where your libido went? In this episode we do a deep dive on sexual slumps, low libido and lack of sexual desire that is frustrating (lack of desire that is not frustrating is not a problem!). We get to have this conversation first from the lens of Emmy-winning journalist Tamsen Fadal whose journey with low libido started in perimenopause and peaked on her honeymoon! From hot flashes and brain fog in the newsroom to bedroom low sex drive, Tamsen has become treasured for pulling back the curtain on midlife like never before. In this honest and empowering episode, menopause advocate Tamsen joins Shan for a conversation about menopause, sex drive and embracing life’s shifts.

    Tamsen shares how a one-word note from her doctor "menopause...?" set off a journey she wasn’t prepared for, and how that diagnosis impacted her body, her identity, and her intimacy. From tough talks with her husband to the quiet shame so many women carry through midlife transitions, Tamsen reminds us that getting older isn’t the end of our sensual selves, it can actually be the beginning.

    In part two of this episode we are giving you a MasterClass on low libido led by three doctors: OBGYN Dr. Mickey, lifestyle medical physician Dr Lean AND Pelvic Floor expert Dr. Janelle Frederick aka the Vagina Rehab Doctor.

    This is a highlight of our hour and fifteen convo if you’d like to listen to the rest go to
    Loversbyshan.com/community

    Follow Tamsen on Instagram
    https://www.instagram.com/tamsenfadal

    Get her book How to Menopause
    Listen to her podcast The Tamsen Show
    Checkout her website https://www.tamsenfadal.com/
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    54 mins
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I love this conversation. John Gotham says after 15 minutes of interacting with a couple, he is able to predict within 90% certainty whether the couple will 1. Stay together 2. Dissolve 3. Stay together HAPPILY. I feel like I am in a relationship similar to that of your parents. It is often "tumultuous" but we are utterly committed. I would love to hear more discussion around this topic. Is commitment enough when there's so much grief along the way, or is it possible for two opposites to transcend from commitment to... mutual balance? I am a long-time follower since early YouTube days, and I talk about your work all the time. Thank you for the thoughtful conversations and research you bring to my life. I love what you do and who you choose to be- often through public and vulnerable example. #respect
P.S. Thank you Bryan and Olivia for your openness and candor!

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I LOVED this episode ! It spoke to me directly as a woman who is learning about CNM and what I personally identify with. This episode (like All episodes in the Lovers and Friends podcast) are EXTREMELY knowledgeable Funny down to earth and MOST importantly to me, a SAFE SPACE. Please anyone who’s interested in sexuality Listen to this Podcast you won’t be disappointed!

CNM or Poly people

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Thank you for this podcast! I love your podcasts soo much. This helped me have a different perspective of the guys I’ve been dating, especially because I’m in my late 20’s and it feels like no guy wants to commit yet won’t leave me alone and I’m like whyyy me lol. makes me realize that sometimes it’s not that deep and it is what it is dating in your 20’s 😂😅

Different Perspective

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Lovers and friends only got on my radar after following Mr/MrsKevOnStage but I am all in!!

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You can tell the team who help make this podcast really enjoy working together. Shan Boodram has put together a unique format and dives into very intriguing conversations with her guests.

5-star

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loved it I listened to it twice. I love learning from shan and appreciate how she makes me feel like I should be talking about everything with my partner.

absolutely amazing

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Everyone of your episodes are so put together, and so thought out well, I don’t know how anyone could beat that!

Love you SHAN

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