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Hey White Women

Hey White Women

By: Daniella Mestyanek Young
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 In this insightful and candid conversation, Daniella Mestyanek Young, a scholar of cults, extreme groups, and extremely leadership, joins Rebecca, known as White Woman Whisperer on TikTok and Patreon, to delve into their experiences and revelations about cult dynamics, white supremacy, and systemic racism. Daniella, who grew up in the notorious Children of God cult and later served in the military, shares her journey of understanding and deconstructing white supremacy as a pervasive cult. Rebecca, a Black Jewish woman, discusses her own realizations about systemic racism and the similarities between white supremacy and cult behavior. Together, they explore the complexities of deprogramming from these ingrained systems, the importance of acknowledging privilege, and the power of vulnerability in fostering genuine understanding and change. This dialogue sheds light on the personal and societal challenges of breaking free from cult-like ideologies and the ongoing work required to dismantle oppressive systems.2024 Philosophy Social Sciences
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  • Episode 41 | George Washington Didn't Have Wooden Teeth

    Episode 41 | George Washington Didn't Have Wooden Teeth
    Jul 10 2025
    In this fiery, funny, and no-holds-barred conversation, Rebecca and Daniella go deep on why everything in America feels like a cult. From MLMs to marathons, publishing to patriotism, they expose the unspoken systems that keep us exhausted, competitive, and obedient. Together, they unpack the cult of white womanhood, the lie of the silver bullet of success, and the performance of exceptionalism that so many white institutions demand. Connect with Rebecca at: The White Woman Whisperer Website The White Woman Whisperer Patreon The White Woman Whisperer TikTok Connect with Daniella at: You can read all about that story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured For more info on me: Patreon: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Cult book Clubs (Advanced AND Memoirs) Annual Membership: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Get an autographed copy of my book, Uncultured: https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured Get my book, Uncultured, from Bookshop.org: https://bit.ly/4g1Ufw8 Daniella’s Tiktok: https://bit.ly/4bwvNC0 Instagram: https://bit.ly/4ePAOFK / daniellamyoung_ Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8 Fundraiser for Culting of America book publishing https://tr.ee/fldwYRFTJ 🔑 Key Takeaways America is a pyramid scheme: From capitalism to patriotism, our systems mimic MLM logic—someone always profits at the top. Publishing is a cult: Traditional publishing often demands creators shape their stories to fit white, marketable molds—or get rejected. The ‘silver bullet of success’ is a myth: Fame and visibility aren’t guarantees—they’re illusions sold as truth. We confuse control with safety: Especially for white women, compliance gets rewarded—but it also upholds harm. Modesty ≠ oppression: Wearing a headscarf can be beautiful and powerful; the colonial gaze strips that meaning away. Competition isn't community: Even solo hobbies like running get turned into contests of worth and status in American culture. The military is grown men in camouflage pajamas: And yes, they still think they’re “the good guys.” You are not special—and that’s the point: We all have unique experiences, but exceptionalism is a tool of supremacy. Build your own system: Platforms like Patreon and TikTok allow creators to bypass gatekeepers and speak directly to their people. Chapters 00:00 The Myth of George Washington's Teeth 06:30 The Illusion of Success and Fame 12:15 The Publishing Industry and Its Challenges 18:23 Direct Connections vs. Organizational Structures 26:04 The Cult of No Color: Capitalism and Competition 30:28 Community and Competition: The Cost of Connection 34:54 Running from Reality: The Perception of Danger 39:51 Enlightenment vs. Wokeness: A Cultural Examination 45:38 Friendly Fire: The Dangers of Internal Conflict 51:50 Cultural Sensitivity: Understanding Perspectives Beyond Oppression 54:14 Generational Perspectives on Feminism 55:00 Sexual Liberation Under Feminism 55:55 Misogyny and Relationship Dynamics 57:10 Navigating Privilege and Perception 59:03 Reinforcing Self-Worth and Identity 01:00:25 Challenging Traditional Gatekeeping 01:01:55 Breaking Free from Societal Norms 01:04:26 Building New Models and Systems 01:06:11 Motherhood and Personal Identity 01:07:46 The Role of Women in Cult Dynamics 01:09:51 Cultural Expectations and Gender Norms 01:11:28 Public Perception of Family Choices 01:18:02 The Impact of Medical Decisions on Family Dynamics 01:19:04 Questioning Authority in Medical Practices 01:20:16 Cultural Reflections on Body Image and Surgery 01:21:55 Navigating Cultural Spaces and Acceptance 01:22:57 The Complexity of Racial Identity and Performance 01:24:50 The Illusion of Picture-Perfect Lives 01:26:54 Unpacking Personal Narratives and Pain 01:28:50 Rediscovering Self and Authenticity 01:30:39 The Journey of Self-Acceptance and Enjoyment 01:32:33 Embracing Individuality and Personal Growth Produced by Haley Phillips
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    1 hr and 35 mins
  • Episode 40 | Is Whinnie the Pooh A WS Cult?

    Episode 40 | Is Whinnie the Pooh A WS Cult?
    Jul 3 2025
    In this candid and wide-ranging conversation, Daniella Mestyanek Young unpacks how cult dynamics shape everyday life—from the military to motherhood, from corporate jargon to childhood punishments over “scowling at the Word of God.” She and Rebecca dig into the subtle and overt ways white supremacy trains white women into compliance and calls it safety. Daniella also breaks down the coded messages in American media—including her darkly hilarious theory that Winnie the Pooh is a cult. Through stories of her upbringing, military career, and anti-racism work, Daniella helps listeners understand how deeply entrenched programming operates—and how to begin deconstructing it. The episode invites white women to stop waiting for a dramatic “battle vs. brunch” moment and instead get honest about the slow erosion of freedom already underway. Haley, the show’s producer, also jumps in to share a disturbing moment that made them stop letting their son watch Winnie the Pooh, connecting racism in children’s media to the broader themes of the episode. Connect with Rebecca at: The White Woman Whisperer Website The White Woman Whisperer Patreon The White Woman Whisperer TikTok Connect with Daniella at: You can read all about that story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured For more info on me: Patreon: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Cult book Clubs (Advanced AND Memoirs) Annual Membership: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Get an autographed copy of my book, Uncultured: https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured Get my book, Uncultured, from Bookshop.org: https://bit.ly/4g1Ufw8 Daniella’s Tiktok: https://bit.ly/4bwvNC0 Instagram: https://bit.ly/4ePAOFK / daniellamyoung_ Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8 Fundraiser for Culting of America book publishing https://tr.ee/fldwYRFTJ 🔑 Key Takeaways Privilege is most clearly understood when it’s about something like eyesight—something not politicized but deeply unequal in terms of access. “Winnie the Pooh is a cult”: Each character in the Hundred Acre Wood mirrors a role in coercive systems—Tigger as cult leader, Rabbit as enabler, Eeyore as the depressed second-gen scapegoat. White women are often trained to wait for either 'brunch' or 'battle'—but this binary thinking ignores how authoritarianism creeps in quietly. “Cotton-picking” language still shows up in kids’ media—revealing how embedded racist ideologies are in even the most innocent-seeming content. Resting bitch face, attitude policing, and productivity metrics are all part of controlling systems—whether in cults, corporations, or culture. The military is not a monolith: Daniella challenges assumptions about who serves, who gets platformed, and who gets believed. Accountability means being wrong out loud—and using your own moments of unlearning as tools for others. The goal isn’t just to de-center men or whiteness—it’s to center something better. Chapters 0:00 The Privilege of Vision 07:10 Cultural Reflections on Perception and Behavior 10:08 Media, Representation, and Racial Dynamics 12:44 The Impact of Language and Cultural Narratives 15:46 The Role of Authority and Leadership in Communities 18:50 Brunch Culture and Social Activism 21:22 Navigating White Privilege and Social Responsibility 24:21 The Dynamics of Protest and Representation 27:12 Emergent Strategies in Social Movements 33:35 Awakening to Systemic Issues 34:59 Preparing for Difficult Conversations 37:18 The Military and Representation 39:54 Understanding Power Dynamics 41:46 The Role of Women in Patriarchy 44:57 The Impact of Leadership on Perception 46:39 Recognizing Patterns of Abuse 49:14 The Importance of Acknowledging Mistakes 52:25 Navigating Conversations on Identity 55:19 Empathy and Understanding in Activism 01:02:18 Understanding Neurodivergence and Personal Growth 01:04:48 The Dynamics of Tough Love and Communication 01:08:41 Attention as Currency in Social Dynamics 01:11:44 Building Unique Markets and Personal Branding 01:16:18 Navigating Identity and Societal Expectations 01:19:31 Skills Acquired from Cult Experiences 01:23:37 Resistance and Survival Skills in Adversity 01:30:14 The Legacy of Cults and Historical Figures 01:32:54 Patriarchy and Hierarchical Structures 01:35:17 Surviving Trauma and the Importance of Community 01:38:06 Understanding Human Experiences Across Cultures 01:40:43 Navigating Power Dynamics in Conversations 01:43:41 The Role of Privilege and Proof of Purpose Produced by Haley Phillips
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    1 hr and 54 mins
  • Episode 39 | Living Rooms are for LIVING

    Episode 39 | Living Rooms are for LIVING
    Jun 26 2025
    In this episode, Daniella and Rebecca unpack what happens when white belief in institutional fairness collides with the lived reality of systemic injustice. Daniella reflects on a moment of betrayal in traffic court and how it cracked open her assumptions about justice, privilege, and whiteness. The conversation weaves through topics like the myth of rule-following as protection, the military's blending of cultural vernaculars, and the unique disorientation white women face when systems stop working for them. They also explore how white women’s fear of “doing it wrong”—especially around cultural appropriation—can become a form of self-centered paralysis that stalls genuine connection and accountability. From craft-covered couches to the politics of "fancy" china, the episode moves fluidly between the personal and political, ultimately calling for white women to stop asking for permission and start listening, intervening, and acting with intention. Connect with Rebecca at: The White Woman Whisperer Website The White Woman Whisperer Patreon The White Woman Whisperer TikTok Connect with Daniella at: You can read all about that story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured For more info on me: Patreon: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Cult book Clubs (Advanced AND Memoirs) Annual Membership: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Get an autographed copy of my book, Uncultured: https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured Get my book, Uncultured, from Bookshop.org: https://bit.ly/4g1Ufw8 Daniella’s Tiktok: https://bit.ly/4bwvNC0 Instagram: https://bit.ly/4ePAOFK / daniellamyoung_ Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8 Fundraiser for Culting of America book publishing https://tr.ee/fldwYRFTJ Takeaways Daniella reflects on her upbringing in Mexico and the differing perceptions of law enforcement compared to the U.S.The conversation highlights the systemic issues faced by Black individuals in America, drawing parallels to Daniella's experiences.Daniella shares a personal story about a court case that illustrates biases in the legal system.The discussion touches on the concept of privilege and how it affects perceptions of justice.Daniella expresses frustration over the entitlement some feel in the justice system based on their background.The conversation explores the complexities of cultural appropriation versus appreciation.Daniella emphasizes the importance of understanding cultural influences in a respectful manner.The role of white women in discussions about race and privilege is examined, highlighting the need for allyship.The impact of social media on amplifying diverse voices and narratives is acknowledged.The conversation concludes with a call for more authentic storytelling that includes diverse perspectives. Listening to Black women is crucial for understanding cultural narratives.The concept of the 'every woman' can broaden perspectives on literature and experiences.Mentorship plays a significant role in personal growth and understanding.Cultural dynamics shape individual identities and experiences.Peeling back layers of identity can reveal authentic selves.Narcissism is a necessary part of self-discovery and expression.Performance can be a powerful tool for identity exploration.Community engagement fosters connection and understanding.Navigating cultural sensitivities requires awareness and humility.The burden of perfectionism can hinder personal growth and authenticity. Chapters 00:00 Cultural Perspectives on Law Enforcement and Trust 02:50 Privilege, Justice, and Systemic Inequities 05:47 The Complexity of Cultural Appropriation 08:45 Navigating Identity and Language in Diverse Cultures 11:37 The Impact of Conditional Love on Relationships 14:31 Redefining Home and Community Spaces 17:34 Fairy Tales and Societal Expectations 24:17 The Charm of Storytelling 25:07 Reimagining Classic Tales 26:29 The Quest for Authentic Representation 28:06 Cultural Appropriation vs. Appreciation 30:06 Navigating Whiteness and Black Voices 31:56 The Role of White Women in Amplifying Black Voices 34:08 The Importance of Listening to Black Women 35:56 Breaking Down Barriers in Storytelling 37:58 The Journey of Self-Discovery 40:41 Embracing Authenticity and Vulnerability 44:53 The Power of Community and Connection 51:13 Navigating Cultural Sensitivity 53:46 Understanding Community Dynamics 58:04 The Complexity of White Womanhood 01:01:24 The Burden of Perfectionism 01:08:03 The Power of Community and Spirituality Produced by Haley Phillips
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    1 hr and 15 mins
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