In this conversation, Kyle Fields delves into the often unspoken aspects of grief and depression, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging the quiet, heavy feelings that accompany loss. He discusses the isolation that can come with depression, the practical steps to cope with these feelings, and the subtle moments of healing that can occur. Ultimately, he reassures listeners that simply surviving is a significant achievement and that acceptance is a crucial part of the healing journey.

Takeaways

• Grief can manifest in ways that are often overlooked.
• Depression is a quiet struggle that many face alone.
• Isolation can feel like self-care but often leads to deeper sadness.
• Small, seemingly insignificant actions can help in moments of depression.
• Healing is not a linear process; it comes in small steps.
• Acknowledging your feelings is a vital part of the healing process.
• You are not broken for feeling depressed; it's a part of integration.
• Even in the depths of depression, there is a part of you that wants to be.
• Surviving each day is an accomplishment in itself.

• Acceptance of grief is a journey, not a destination.

In this conversation, Kyle Fields explores the complex emotional landscape of grief, particularly focusing on the bargaining stage. He discusses how individuals often negotiate with their grief, seeking to regain control and make sense of their loss through various coping mechanisms. The conversation delves into the futility of bargaining, the emotional exhaustion it can cause, and the eventual need to confront the reality of loss. Fields emphasizes the importance of acceptance and the journey towards finding peace amidst grief.

Takeaways

• Bargaining is a desperate attempt to regain control over grief.
• The inner voice during bargaining often leads to unrealistic expectations.
• Bargaining can manifest in various behaviors like over-apologizing and people-pleasing.
• The illusion of control can be comforting but ultimately unhelpful.
• Bargaining is not a real strategy for dealing with grief.
• Acceptance is a crucial step that follows the collapse of bargaining.
• Grief can feel like a negotiation with the universe or fate.
• The process of bargaining can exhaust emotional resources.
• Some losses do not have a clear reason or lesson attached to them.
• Finding peace in grief often means accepting the reality of loss.

In this episode of Brutally Human, Kyle Fields explores the often overlooked anger stage of grief. He discusses the validity of anger as a natural response to loss, societal expectations surrounding grief, and healthy ways to express and channel that anger. The conversation culminates in the realization that after the storm of anger, there can be a profound sense of peace and healing.

Takeaways

• Anger is a valid response to grief.
• Society often expects grief to be quiet and manageable.
• Suppressing anger can be toxic during the grieving process.
• Healthy outlets for anger include physical activity and creative expression.
• Naming your anger can help in processing grief.
• Grief can manifest as rage, not just sadness.
• It's okay to feel angry at the person who left.
• People often minimize grief when they feel uncomfortable.
• Healing can begin when you stop pretending to be okay.
• After anger, there can be a peaceful acceptance of loss.