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Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

Beyond Broken Vows | Christian Marriage, Adultery, Pornography Addiction, Sexual Betrayal, Intimacy

By: Emily & Johnny Spigelmire | Christian Marriage Recovery Coaches
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 ***Top 1.5% Global Podcast*** Dear Betrayed, Are you in shock? Confused, devastated, hurt, angry and feeling like you are not enough? Do you feel like it must be your fault, like you should have somehow seen the signs? Are you grieving the death of the marriage you thought you had? Dear Betrayer, Have you been believing the lie that if people knew what was really in your heart and mind, they would turn their back on you? Have you been convinced that your wife and family would leave you and you would lose everything if/when you came clean? Beloved, do you both feel like your marriage is over? Well, you’re right. That marriage full of secrets and lies IS over. But now there is hope for an honest and transparent marriage - one full of trust, safety, connection, forgiveness, acceptance, and intimacy that you’ve never known before. Bold statement, right? You may be thinking, “No way!” That’s okay. We understand… Hi, we are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and we have been where you are... As a result of adultery fueled by pornography, the marriage vows we had exchanged as starry-eyed newlyweds and had worked so hard to keep were eventually shattered. We’ve been through hell and back. But we are here, together, to let you know that this devastation we experienced was actually a gift. Of course, we didn’t see it that way at first and you probably don’t either. But, through a commitment to recovery, our faith in God, and our hope for redemption, we set out on a journey of healing, and we can’t wait to share what we’ve learned with you. We now have a marriage that continually blows our minds, and we give God all the glory! So, if you’re ready to move from heartbreak and pain to hope and healing, grab your favorite beverage, get comfy, and join us on a journey of faith as we talk through difficult questions like; Is there hope for our marriage? Can I fix all the damage I’ve done? Can I ever trust again? Is true intimacy even possible? We will also do deep dives into the topics of: * Isolation * Guilt and Shame * Anger * Rejection * Addiction * Trauma * Body Image * Triggers * Communication * And more… Our story, like yours, is a messy one. But, with God’s help, it is possible to recover what was lost, stolen, or given away. We know this because God has turned the ashes of our lives into something beautiful and we believe he can do that for you too. You can connect with us at: support@beyondbrokenvows.com https://insider.beyondbrokenvows.com/ https://coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com/ We would love to be part of your journey to healing and wholeness!Copyright 2024 All rights reserved. Christianity Hygiene & Healthy Living Ministry & Evangelism Psychology Psychology & Mental Health Relationships Social Sciences Spirituality
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  • 113 | No Stone Unturned in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity

    113 | No Stone Unturned in Recovery from Porn-Fueled Infidelity
    Jul 7 2025

    Sexual sin—especially porn-fueled infidelity—doesn’t just wound a marriage; it buries it under shame, secrecy, and shattered trust. But just as Jesus called Lazarus out of the grave, He can resurrect even the most broken relationships.

    Your marriage may feel like a tomb right now, but Christ specializes in resurrecting dead things.

    Today in this hope-filled, and sometimes emotional conversation, we’ll talk about why sexual betrayal feels like a “death” in a marriage—and how Christ offers resurrection from the tomb of our sin. How God uses others to help us move from where we are to where he wants us to be.

    Also, Johnny tells the amazing story of the vision God gave him 6 years prior that has been fulfilled his new, StoneRollers Men’s Recovery Group. Brotherhood is God’s lifeline for struggling men. You don’t have to face recovery alone!

    If this episode hits home, you don’t have to go it alone. Join this brotherhood of men committed to rolling away the stones in their lives and stepping into life and victory. Write us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com to get your signup links!

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe

    RESOURCES:

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 25. Persistent Sexual Integrity Issues in Marriage. Do Recovery Programs Really Work?

    Episode 43. Our 12-Step Series Wrap Up: Which Sex Addiction Recovery Program Is the Best?

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    31 mins
  • 112 | Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 2)

    112 | Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 2)
    Jun 30 2025

    The disclosure is done. The secrets are out. Now what?

    If you’ve been through Full Therapeutic Disclosure—or if you’re still mustering the courage to start—you know this isn’t the end. It’s the real beginning. Because truth doesn’t just expose the brokenness… it reveals the path forward.

    This is the second half of our FTD episode—where we walk you through the final 3 steps of the disclosure process.

    • The Impact Letter: Her Voice Finally Heard
    • The Restitution Letter: His Roadmap to Integrity
    • The Slip & Relapse Plan: Trust Isn’t Blind

    FTD doesn’t guarantee your marriage will survive. But it does guarantee this: No more living in the dark.

    For the betrayed, it means the power to choose your next step with clarity.

    For the betrayer, it means the chance to finally live in truth—even if it costs you everything.

    Truth isn’t just where healing starts—it’s where you start living again.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe

    RESOURCES:

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 44. Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your Marriage Steps

    Episode 111. Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)

    NEXT STEPS:

    ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!

    ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast.

    ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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    30 mins
  • 111 | Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)

    111 | Need a Full Therapeutic Disclosure After Infidelity? (Part 1)
    Jun 23 2025

    Marriage isn’t just a contract—it’s a covenant, a sacred vow before God and man.

    But sexual betrayal doesn’t just break trust… it shatters the covenant itself. The foundation is cracked. The vows feel like a lie. And now, both of you are standing in the wreckage—one drowning in grief, the other paralyzed by guilt.

    But here’s the truth: You can’t rebuild on broken ground. Before forgiveness, before reconciliation—before even deciding if this marriage can survive—there’s one thing that has to happen. The full, unedited truth. No more shadows. No more secrets. Because a covenant can only be restored where there’s nothing left to hide.

    If you’re the betrayed partner, you’re drowning in questions—What else don’t I know? Can I ever trust again?

    And if you’re the betrayer, you’re trapped in a prison of your own lies—How do I fix this? Will the truth destroy us?

    Here’s the hard reality: without Full Therapeutic Disclosure, neither of you gets to move forward. The betrayed stays stuck in suspicion, and the betrayer stays stuck in shame. But there’s a way out—and it starts with one terrifying, necessary conversation.

    We pray this blesses you,

    Johnny and Emily

    💜Work with us! coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Hang out with us and support our ministry on Patreon, beyondbrokenvows.com/partner

    💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com

    💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe

    RESOURCES:

    Download our e-book, “9 Steps to Healing After Sexual Betrayal: For Couples Who Have Chosen to Stay Married”

    Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only)

    (Paid affiliate links may be included. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)

    RELATED EPISODES:

    Episode 44. Fearing the Worst? How to Plan for Sex Addiction Slips & Relapses in Your Marriage Steps

    Episode 51. Full Therapeutic Disclosure: 3 Steps to Healing and Freedom After Sexual Betrayal

    NEXT STEPS:

    ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!

    ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast.

    ✔️ You can connect with us at support@beyondbrokenvows.com.
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    34 mins
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Thank you for this! Much needed and helpful information. They give the details of both sides of the affair and addiction which helps to understand it as a whole. This has come at the perfect time too, I really appreciate this podcast.

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