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Deborah Tannen
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That's Not What I Meant
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You know the feeling: You thought you said exactly what you wanted to, but somehow a different message comes across. You end up feeling misunderstood...and the relationship that you're building -- at home, on the job, on a date, or in an interview -- slips a little further out of your control.
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Miscommunicated Title
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It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language, but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own.
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A little more clarity -
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This discussion between best-selling authors Deborah Tannen (You Just Don't Understand) and Robert Bly (Iron John) is presented as a sort of continuing education program. It is utterly delightful. The authors are both funny and serious. They care a great deal about the topic of women and men's conversational styles. The production is so well done that even questions from the audience are picked up by the microphones.
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The following series of lectures draws on linguistics, or the scientific study of language, to show the many ways in which language has a profound effect upon human relationships. These lectures address the various aspects and implications of what Professor Tannen calls "conversational style". It also looks at the dynamics of specific situations such as the workplace and classroom where the role of conversational style is of particular importance.
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Awful
- By Maroy on 11-08-08
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Diluted Tannen at best
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That's Not What I Meant
- By: Deborah Tannen
- Narrated by: Deborah Tannen
- Length: 1 hr and 23 mins
- Abridged
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You know the feeling: You thought you said exactly what you wanted to, but somehow a different message comes across. You end up feeling misunderstood...and the relationship that you're building -- at home, on the job, on a date, or in an interview -- slips a little further out of your control.
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Miscommunicated Title
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By: Deborah Tannen
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You're Wearing That?
- Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation
- By: Deborah Tannen
- Narrated by: Cassandra Campbell
- Length: 9 hrs and 29 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall
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It was Tannen who first showed us that men and women speak different languages. Mothers and daughters speak the same language, but still often misunderstand each other, as they struggle to find the right balance between closeness and independence. Both mothers and daughters want to be seen for who they are, but tend to see the other as falling short of who she should be. Each overestimates the other's power and underestimates her own.
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A little more clarity -
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By: Deborah Tannen
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Men and Women
- Talking Together
- By: Robert Bly, Deborah Tannen
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- Length: 1 hr and 52 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall
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This discussion between best-selling authors Deborah Tannen (You Just Don't Understand) and Robert Bly (Iron John) is presented as a sort of continuing education program. It is utterly delightful. The authors are both funny and serious. They care a great deal about the topic of women and men's conversational styles. The production is so well done that even questions from the audience are picked up by the microphones.
By: Robert Bly, and others
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That's Not What I Meant
- The Sociolinguistics of Everyday Conversation - The Modern Scholar
- By: Professor Deborah Tannen
- Narrated by: Deborah Tannen
- Length: 7 hrs and 22 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall
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The following series of lectures draws on linguistics, or the scientific study of language, to show the many ways in which language has a profound effect upon human relationships. These lectures address the various aspects and implications of what Professor Tannen calls "conversational style". It also looks at the dynamics of specific situations such as the workplace and classroom where the role of conversational style is of particular importance.
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Awful
- By Maroy on 11-08-08
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You're the Only One I Can Tell
- Inside the Language of Women's Friendships
- By: Deborah Tannen
- Narrated by: Deborah Tannen
- Length: 10 hrs and 59 mins
- Unabridged
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Overall
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Performance
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Story
Best friend, old friend, good friend, BFF, college roommate, neighbor, workplace confidante: women's friendships are lifelines in times of trouble and support systems for daily life. A friend can be like a sister, daughter, mother, mentor, therapist, or confessor - or she can be all of these at once. She's seen you at your worst and celebrates you at your best. Figuring out what it means to be friends is, in the end, no less than figuring out how we connect to other people.
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By: Deborah Tannen
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I Only Say This Because I Love You
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- By: Deborah Tannen
- Narrated by: Patricia Mulholland
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- Unabridged
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Technical version of his other book
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- Colleen
- 12-12-12
Avoid misunderstandings that become catastriphic
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Examples were helpful and explanation was succinct
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Great for anyone who interacts with people on a deep interpersonal,
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- 01-26-05
You Just Don't Understand
This books represents an inciteful view of the linguistic differences between men and women. It takes a non-biased approach on dissecting the differences between the two sexes and how they interpret different meanings, from the same words, in identical context. Not your typical "Venus v. Mars" book.....
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- Benjamin Drawbaugh
- 01-23-05
Insightful
I was assigned this book in a class a few semesters ago, and couldn't understand why. That was untill I read it. It is insightful, and gives explainations, to terrible relationships I have had in the past. Now when I get frustrated with someone I think back to this book, and try to understand whether we disagree or are just misunderstanding each others.
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- BoroAviator
- 12-09-19
Interesting, but not helpful
Ok, so now I know that men and women think, speak, and understand things differently... Wait, doesn’t everyone already know that? Of course we do. So what! How is this content supposed to help Me use that Information to better my communication with my wife. It wasn’t helpful at all.
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- derek
- 02-21-19
I was expecting this to read like the actual book.
This audiobook is way off the rails from how the actual book is read. I’m in college and was just trying to find the full audiobook to listen as I read and this audiobook has pieces of the actual book but it seems to be just thrown together poorly and not in order of the real book. Waste of money.
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- Rebecca
- 01-11-11
Terrible
I have listened to multiple self help books, this was a waste of money, very short little vignettes in monotone voice.
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- David Justice
- 11-29-04
men and women are different -- DUH!
All I got from this "book" is that men and women are different. Duh! For those under 35 or 40 this might be a revelation, but not for those of us above. I gave this "book" a 1 because it was not possible to give it a 0. In nearly fifty years on this earth I have found that the example people used are more the exception than the rule. people, both men and women, fall everywhere within the spectrum including the stereotypical man and stereotypical woman. While the "average man" and "average woman" groups might not be coincidental, they are both further from there stereotype extremes than one might infer from listening to this "book". Do yourself two favors: remember that men and women are different; and give your 8 dollars and 90 minutes to your favorite charity.
As a small defense of this book, I've yet to find an abridged version of anything worth the money spent. Though I doubt it, it is possible that an unabridged version of this book might be worth a look.
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- Jennifer
- 11-22-13
Terrible narration. Like sitting in a classroom
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It just wasn't written to listen to. It was a terrible delivery; almost monotone. Just awful.
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- Joanna
- 09-18-04
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I was looking forward to something new, insightful and different. Not.
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