
You Are Not Stuck
How Soul-Guided Choices Transform Fear into Freedom
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Becky Vollmer
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Becky Vollmer
About this listen
This program is read by the author.
Becky Vollmer's You Are Not Stuck is a blend of straight talk, humor, and clear steps for action to help change-seekers reset their priorities, drown out the naysaying voices in their heads, and make bold choices.
We all feel stuck sometimes: in our jobs, our relationships, our habits, or when the life we’re living simply doesn’t add up to the one we want. We feel stuck when it seems like we don’t have options, or when we don’t trust or allow ourselves to make the changes we so deeply long to make.
Speaker and yoga teacher Becky Vollmer believes that, when we feel paralyzed by our fears, the answer isn’t just courage—it’s choice. Because we all have choices, we just have to be brave enough to make them.
You Are Not Stuck is the key to breaking the cycle of fear and making bold choices for real change. Sometimes this transformation looks like an audacious Thelma and Louise-style leap; more often, though, it is a series of small, deliberate actions based on personal values that yield more clarity, alignment, and, ultimately, long-term contentment than driving off a cliff.
If what you seek is a tried-and-true process of empowerment that unlocks the true north already inside you, look no further. This book is a unique blend of permission and spirituality that will help you excavate your divine inner badass, close the gap between intention and action, and develop a strategic path forward that’s as unique as your thumbprint.
Through warm and straightforward wisdom, a modern and approachable take on ancient yoga philosophy, a series of practical and insightful grounding exercises, and a healthy dose of laugh-out-loud humor, you’ll learn how to make soul-guided choices in support of the life you’ve desired all along.
A Macmillan Audio production from St. Martin’s Press Essentials.
©2023 Becky Vollmer (P)2023 Macmillan AudioListeners also enjoyed...
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Critic reviews
"Each of us has the capacity to choose how we show up in the world, but we need the initial spark of permission to make meaningful and lasting changes. With a wise, practical path for revealing your own courage and grace, this book is perfectly poised to help you make choices—and believe in yourself—with confidence and clarity.”—Elena Brower, bestselling author of Practice You
"Feeling stuck and scared is a totally gross but totally normal part of real motherf*cking life, and there’s no shame in needing help. We all do from time to time. In You Are Not Stuck, Becky Vollmer holds out a hand—an insightful, grace-filled, relentlessly human hand—to pull you out of the suckery and turn your fear into fuel for bold choices. I love the energy of this book."—Jennifer Pastiloff, author of On Being Human
"With openness, compassion and earned optimism, Becky Vollmer guides us out of paralysis into action, reminding us that stuck is a state of mind, and that choice is where our real power lives. For anyone needing to make a change in their lives but not sure how to begin, get this energizing and important book immediately and let Becky hold your hand as you discover just how ready and powerful you are."—Scott Stabile, author of Big Love
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- susan d davis
- 02-22-23
Just the thing to get you to think about the thing…
Genuine, thoughtful and thought provoking, Becky is a solid guide through a process of self exploration to life fulfillment. Thank you for your questions that get me looking inside for my answers.
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- Deborah C
- 01-29-23
Remarkable book
Oh this book! Vollmer’s writes in an eloquent vernacular, leaving this reader feeling inspired, seen and understood. A must read for all who feel stuck.
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- Angela
- 01-18-25
You are not stuck
I love it !!! From beginning to end !!!
It left me with a wonderful ,warm ,great feeling !!
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- Nikki S. Brewer
- 01-10-23
Just read
Just read this book. Where ever you are in your life, just read. It’s for all of us who didn’t get the handbook on life.
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- Amanda Zahner
- 03-06-23
Love Love Love -You need this!
You Are Not Stuck was an awesome listen. I actually purchased the physical book to in order to take notes and really dig into the prescribed exercises. If you are facing a change or want to make a change in your life, this is a great place to start - you’ll find loving, guiding support and incredibly actionable take aways!
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- Karli
- 03-16-23
Finding ones Self
This beautifully written book is inspirational and in the ranks with Eat Pray Love, Untamed, and the Alchemist. Thank you for the inspiration, for insight to the Spirit within ones Self, for the grace, no filter, and for helping us all see the beauty in life. Can’t wait to read more of your work ♥️
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- M. DeArce
- 06-11-23
Not great, not bad
Will see how this suits other readers starting a self discovery or self care journey. For me it was a bit snoozy.
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- Laura Lou
- 02-02-23
Self = God. No.
Idk. This book is all you over everything else. Not applying concept to God….sorry.
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