
Toughest People to Love
How to Understand, Lead, and Love the Difficult People in Your Life - Including Yourself
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Scott R. Pollak
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Chuck DeGroat
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People - frustrating, confusing, disappointing, complicated - are the most difficult part of leadership, and they challenge leaders everywhere, from leaders of many to managers of a few. In this book Chuck DeGroat addresses the flawed nature of people and offers wisdom for leaders of all types in dealing with just about anyone who is difficult to lead and to love.
Toughest People to Love explores the basics of how people "tick", encouraging leaders to examine and take care of themselves so that they can better understand and care for others. Based on DeGroat's wealth of experience as a pastor, professor, and therapist, this book - both wise and practical - is one that countless leaders will go back to time and again for valuable insights and renewed vision.
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- HLG
- 11-19-22
Wow! Yes yes yes!
Wow! Great! Could not put it down…
Found myself nodding in agreement to SO much of this book. I could relate to so many of the stories and it confirmed much of what God has been teaching me over the last 6-8 years. This book strengthens and gives confidence to the reader through scripture and hard earned wisdom by the writer.
I found the book to be full of Gods truth.
I especially appreciate the way that Mr. DeGroat communicated the truth of scripture with the findings of science and logic, while not neglecting the human heart and God’s law of compassion.
This book will remove the coat of fear and judgement and put on the garment of Gods love. Great book for anyone who is in leadership or just looking to grow deeper roots in the light of Gods’ holy word.
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- Anonymous User
- 05-14-23
Good insights
A healing and sobering read. I recommend this to anyone wanting more stability in their lives.
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- Daniel J Stiller
- 12-22-18
good book for personal reflection
I really liked this book but maybe not for how to love others but to better lead myself and for self discovery. also helps in loving others but being a narcissist this was very helpful.
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