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Abi Morgan
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What happens when your partner of twenty years suddenly believes you’re nothing but a stranger?
What do you do when your history together is gone?
How do you prove you’re not an imposter in your own life?
When the partner of Emmy Award–winning screenwriter Abi Morgan abruptly collapsed from a mysterious illness, doctors were concerned that he would not survive. Then, six months later, Jacob woke from his coma, to the delight and relief of his family and friends—except this proved to be anything but a Hollywood ending. Because to Jacob, the woman standing at his bedside, who had cared for him all these months, was not his partner. Not his children’s mother. Not the woman he loved. Sure, she looked like his Abi, but this was an imposter, living someone else’s life.
Finding herself dropped into a real-life night-mare seemingly ripped from the pages of a thriller, Abi must find a way to hang on to not only their past but also their future together, before it slips away from them both. With grace, an irresistible sense of humor and refreshingly raw honesty, This Is Not a Pity Memoir grapples with a journey through fear and redemption few should have to face.
What do you do when you are losing your love?
You don’t write a pity memoir.
You write a love story.
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- catherine
- 07-28-23
Fantastic!
Abi is a brilliant writer! She handles such heavy topics with brutal honesty bordering on humor. One of those few books I could not put down! I'm now looking forward to watching her TV series, The Split.
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- Amazon Customer
- 02-10-24
Good book
Well written. More upbeat than one would think highly recommended. Among the most interesting memoirs The reader is also excellent .
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- Lynn
- 07-21-22
Fantastic
At times sad, but not because the author is being depressing. Overall the constant hope mixed with accepting current reality all while looking towards the next step is amazingly beautiful. Abi shares some of her experiences to help others and open eyes of the fortunate.
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- Sarah Jane Walton
- 07-06-22
Brilliant
What a brilliant, heart wrenching, life affirming, stunningly written book.
I loved every beautifully sculpted word
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- Kathlyn Perez-Stable
- 11-26-22
Heavy
Delightfully written, the topic is heavy and human. The narration is beautiful. The ending was not quite what I’d expected.
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- Janet U.
- 06-19-22
Excellent
Thought provoking memorable insights into love and a family’s capacity for strength and growth. Truly exceeded my expectations.
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- Terry farruggia
- 04-04-23
You just never know what is in store for you in life .
Abi has written and read this staggering book, with such passion but with no hysteria. Every word so beautifully chosen . I listened to Abi on Woman’s Hour and bought her book on audible immediately. This is her story, Jacob’s and their children’s story , no one else could have read this audiobook. Thank you 🙏
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