
The Stories We Tell Ourselves
Stop Jumping to Conclusions. Free Yourself from Anxiety. Transform Your Relationships.
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R. Scott Gornto
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R. Scott Gornto
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Change the story. Change your life. From imagined catastrophes to play-by-play interpretations of others' behavior, we are expert storytellers, quick to fill in the blanks. Unfortunately, all too often our behavior is determined by baseless suspicions, which trigger needless pain. Real life passes us by as we fall for powerful fantasies of our own creation.
It doesn't have to be this way. In The Stories We Tell Ourselves, author and therapist Scott Gornto shows us how to break the cycle of false assumptions that lead to unnecessary anxiety. By taking control of our reactions to the people around us, we can learn how to be truly present in our lives as we nurture the relationships that matter most.
Based on more than 20 years of research and experience, Gornto demonstrates how family narratives, media, and past experiences shape compelling storylines that blind us to reality and wreak havoc on our relationships. Through persuasive examples, he models fresh, life-enhancing approaches to engaging with friends, business associates, and loved ones alike. Don't waste your life making up stories. The Stories We Tell Ourselves is a wake-up call and a compassionate, accessible guide to transforming your relationships - and your life.
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- stacey
- 02-21-16
Great book!
Very insightful with direction. I've done many years of therapy and wish I would've had this book sooner. Will most likely listen again. Worth every minute!
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- rowell
- 02-08-19
life changing advice!
oh man! the teachings in this book have changed my life for the better! this is a book I will read over and over again!
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- Kindle Customer
- 08-17-18
Beyond great
This book was incredible. It provided insight to many of the things that I struggle with and why I create false stories to fill in the vast moments in life that we don’t the actual reality of what they hold. This book was so good that I will listen to it two, maybe even three more times simply to pick up things that I missed. And this is someone that doesn’t like to listen/read to a book in the first place. First review I’ve ever given and this book deserves it!
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- Anonymous User
- 12-10-22
eye opening
I thought it was good. I decided to read this because I felt I needed improvement in this area. Even knowing that fact about myself going in. He still helped me recognize so other things I didn't even realize I was doing.
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- JB
- 04-10-19
Content good, but poorly delivered
The writing needs more editing. “Some people do X better than others, but others don’t” kinds of ugly grammatical constructs. But the real problem here is that the narration and audio editing is literally the worst I’ve heard so far. Inconsistent energy and tone in delivery; a couple audio editing errors where phrases are repeated. Very distracting.
Buy the book and read it instead.
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- Oliver Nielsen
- 12-25-15
Good content, poor writing
I had big trouble paying attention while listening to this one. I only made it an hour or two into the book, at 2x speed.
The content seems good and relevant, but there's something about the way it's written, that made it feel like a haphazard blizzard of thoughts and separate sentences.
At first, I couldn't put my finger on it, but then realized it's due to the author's writing style: it feels as if each sentence is a tweet, and the book is made up of chapters, each one featuring tweets read in succession, organized by hash-tags.
So it feels like going to Twitter, putting in f.e. #relationships and reading aloud, down the list of related, yet disconnected tweets. On-topic, off-putting after a minute or two.
In other words: the book lacks structure, and a proper flow. Too many periods/dots/full stops, too few commas.
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