
The Reflective Parent
How to Do Less and Relate More with Your Kids
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Lisa Stathoplos
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Regina Pally
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An innovative parenting approach empowering parents to trust their instincts and embrace uncertainty.
Figuring out how to raise happy, healthy, and successful kids can be overwhelming. Parents find themselves wading through tons of conflicting advice. Books that outline a "right way" of doing things can leave even the most dedicated caregiver feeling discouraged and inadequate when real life doesn't measure up.
An experienced psychiatrist and founder of the Center for Reflective Communities, Regina Pally serves up something totally different in her book. She argues that the key to successful parenting is learning to slow down, reflect, and recognize that there is no one key to doing it right.
The Reflective Parent synthesizes the latest in neuroscience research to show that our brain's natural tendencies to empathize, analyze, and connect with others are all we need to be good parents. Each chapter weaves together discussions of specific reflective parenting principles like "Tolerate Uncertainty" and "Repair Ruptures" with engaging explanations of the science that backs them up. Brief "Take Home Lessons" at the end of each chapter and vivid examples of parents and children putting the principles into action make this a highly listenable, practical guide for anyone looking to build loving, lasting relationships with their kids.
Download the accompanying reference guide.©2017 Regina Pally (P)2017 Audible, Inc.Listeners also enjoyed...
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Where is the PDF
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In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling Mindsight, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson offer a revolutionary approach to child rearing with twelve key strategies that foster healthy brain development, leading to calmer, happier children. The authors explain—and make accessible—the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures.
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Several comments on the brain were incorrect.
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Obvious parenting tips unrelated to Danes
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In Beyond Behaviors, internationally known pediatric psychologist Dr. Mona Delahooke describes behaviors as the tip of the iceberg, important signals that we should address by seeking to understand a child's individual differences in the context of relational safety. This accessible book offers professionals, educators, and parents tools and techniques to reduce behavioral challenges and promote psychological resilience and satisfying, secure relationships.
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A must read for anyone who works with children.
- By Kay on 08-16-19
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- RAC
- 02-14-23
Very good
Very useful and easy to follow. A must have book about parenting and the understanding of the kid’s brain development.
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- Jorge Kawas
- 10-30-23
Hard to listen
Hard to listen with author reading the sources. Those should be included in an appendix.
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