
The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating
Exploring the Challenges, Assumptions, and Land Mines of Dating in the Twenty-First Century
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Andy Stanley
About this listen
For anyone who is dating or thinking about marriage, pastor and bestselling author Andy Stanley shares practical, uncensored wisdom on avoiding mistakes in the present to help you avoid regrets in the future.
Single? Looking for the "right person"? Convinced that if you met the "right person" everything would turn out "right?" Think again.
In The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating, Andy Stanley explores the challenges, assumptions, and pitfalls associated with dating in the twenty-first century. This guide takes a fresh approach to dating and love in the modern era by turning the search for "the one" back onto the searcher, challenging you to ask yourself tough questions like:
- Am I the person that the person I'm looking for is looking for?
- Are the Bible's teachings about women relevant today?
- If sex is only physical, why is the pain of sexual sin so deep?
As you dig deep into Stanley's answers, you'll be equipped and empowered to step up and set a new standard for this generation by uncovering the things that create trouble in dating relationships and creating better habits now that will pay off later as you dive into married life.
Praise for The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating:
"No one speaks more powerfully and practically into the issues of dating and marriage in the twenty-first century than Andy Stanley. The New Rules for Love, Sex, and Dating is an exceptional resource for anyone seeking to navigate challenging relationship waters and survive in a culture that's confused and complex. Straightforward. Graceful. Truthful. Needed." --Louie Giglio, Passion City Church, Passion Conferences
"Andy's new rules for love, sex, and dating are so wise, so compelling, so clear that I want every single friend I have to read this book, and I want to save a couple copies for my boys, so they can read it in a decade or so." --Shauna Niequist, author of I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet
"Having experienced more than my fair share of destructive, harmful dating relationships, I can authoritatively say that Andy's views on the matter are clear and convicting. Andy so beautifully conveys the message of the unfathomable grace of God, leaving you free to turn a leaf and begin a new dating chapter, making better decisions and living with fewer regrets." —Maggie Bridges, Miss Georgia 2014
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- J. Witt
- 02-02-16
Dating after divorce. ..
Almost 5 years after my divorce, I find myself at a place where where I feel ready to begin a new relationship that would lead to a lifetime commitment. There is so much wisdom and insight in this book and highly recommended to all the singles out there and even married people. I will have my high schooler listen to it and my younger son when he's older too.
Thanks pastor Andey! Like you say, I will continue to become the person, the person I'm looking for is looking for!!!
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- Aaroline
- 10-14-16
Renewing Your Mind of Dating
This completely changed my view of dating. While we are all searching for the one, we must ask ourselves if we are the one the one we're looking for is looking for.
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- The Agent
- 12-02-16
Great information however
This book definitely puts things right into perspective and brings up things you would never think of. Highly worth it
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- Amazon Customer
- 09-18-17
Good read for singles and singles again.
Engaging and relatable. The chapters flowed nicely and the content was informative. Much relection during and after this read!
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- Amazon Customer
- 08-11-18
BRAVO!!!
I'm a 54 year old male
divorced 7 years
and have a 13 year old son
This is full of great council and encouragement
This was an answer to prayer
needed something to listen to with my son regarding healthy human sexuality, and discuss it if he would like.Im planning on hitting play once we are out of sight of land
I m fairly confident he won't attempt to swim for shore
But seriously
Andy hits this topic from all angles
and with some very dry wit.
I really respect the love courage and grace it must have taken to put this on paper.,
clearly birthed out of his heathy anger at what he sees his fellow man suffering through, just my opinion
Another helpful tool in my tool box as i seek to turn from my sin so I can hopefully be a father my son can at least respect
and have a more fruitful life,unlike his fathers
though I'm hoping in GODS kindness He will restore and transform much of my past
I will be reading/listening to more of this
mans work.
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- Adam Black
- 04-14-15
Time for a change
Listening to this book explained to me why I've felt so numb for so long.
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- Starr Chapman
- 04-04-19
this is the second book I have read
Makes you think. are you the person who you are looking for is looking for.
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- Anonymous User
- 02-21-21
Great Book!
New Mantra:
“Become the person who you looking for is looking for.”
Thank you Andy Stanley
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- JoAnn
- 11-16-21
An amazing journey
I was gifted this audiobook by a friend I just recently met through online dating. This book has inspired me to take a deeper look into what I know is not working for me. It is clear and concise. A direction if you will that is so simple yet comprehensive. I loved this book. November 15, 2021. I can’t wait to be a different me one year from now. :)
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- Jessica H
- 02-04-16
Food for thought
love it. Easy to understand. content on point. this should be taught to pre-teens and up age groups. life lessons early, so you won't feel regrets later..
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