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Dr. Ruth's Rules for Real Relationships
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Dr. Ruth K. Westheimer
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Committing to a long-term relationship is a big deal - especially if you have doubts. With a focus on common sense over emotion, world-renowned sex and relationship therapist Dr. Ruth Westheimer offers straight-up advice on whether you should stick it out or cut your losses and move on.
In Stay or Go, Dr. Ruth divides troubled couplings into three "flavors": Dark Toxic (run!), Rocky Road (rough patch ahead), and Merely Troubled (it's worth the effort). She knows relationships are rarely black and white - there's always the bad with the good - so here she helps you determine where the scales in your relationship are tipping.
Delving into everything from communicating to financial stresses, parenting pressures to long-distance relationships, she helps you to understand your romantic expectations - reasonable and unreasonable - what you can do to save a relationship, and how and when you should say goodbye. And it all comes with the wit and wisdom that has made Dr. Ruth the one to turn to for putting your life together once and for all.
©2017 Brilliance Publishing, Inc., all rights reserved. (P)2017 Dr. Ruth K. Westheimer and Pierre A. LehuListeners also enjoyed...
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- Amazon Customer
- 07-30-24
Thank you, Dr Ruth
Hearing Dr Ruth’s voice give timeless advice was so comforting in a difficult time. Thank you.
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- Mapuleng
- 03-23-24
Absolutely brilliant!
If you are sitting on the fence and having trouble deciding whether to stay in a relationship or to go, this is a must read for you. It will do a lot in helping you make that decision.
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- Saltlab
- 09-07-19
Not a book, just bullet points
I had hoped for a book that would give me things to consider in a more structured manner. This is just bullet points and snippets, like a chicken soup book. Not what I was looking for and if you seriously need help in this area, probably not what you are looking for either.
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