
Real Boys
Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood
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William Pollack
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William Pollack
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"While it may seem as if we live in a man's world," reports William Pollack, "we do not live in a boy's world." Many boys today are struggling either silently, with low self-esteem and feelings of loneliness and isolation, or publicly, by acting out feelings of emotional and social disconnection through anger and acts of violence against themselves or their friends and families. While academic performance and self-esteem are low, the rates of suicide and depression are on the rise. As the recent tragedies in Jonesboro, Arkansas, and Edinboro, Pennsylvania, demonstrated, boys today are in crisis - on a national scale. Real Boys explains why.
Much has been written about the plight of girls in adolescence - their decreased self-esteem, increased emphasis on appearance, gender bias in the classroom, and the confusion about what it means to be feminine. Boys, Pollack discovered, suffer a similar gender identity crisis even before adolescence. Reasearch shows that male infants are more emotionally expressive than female infants. However, as a boy ages, his emotional expressiveness decreases. Why? Because The Boy Code - society's definition of what it means to be a boy - demands that boys suppress or cover up their emotions. As a result, boys develop a "mask of masculinity" to hide their shame, vulnerability, and the other feelings they cannot express publicly. The inability to show true emotions hardens a boy until, ultimately, he loses touch with them. Today's boys, Pollack writes, are "only allowed to lead half their emotional lives."
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- Debra
- 09-23-13
Amazing Book!
If you could sum up Real Boys in three words, what would they be?
Helpful. Nurturing, Surprising
What was the most compelling aspect of this narrative?
All of it. From cover to the last page was amazing!
Which scene was your favorite?
The part that the writer talked about how mom's should not be separated from their sons until they're ready. I've always felt that way. It's my husband that pushes the other end-"he's gonna grow up to be a sissy". He's 9 now. He's no sissy. He is a mama's boy. But he's respectful to people and he has a gentle heart. I go with my gut feeling and the actions of my son. He'll let me know when he's ready to separate.
What insight do you think you’ll apply from Real Boys?
The part about getting boys to talk- you need to take them somewhere and do an activity with them, and then they'll open up. When they do open up. listen to them. Mostly, this book has encouraged my beliefs, which are the same as the writer. I just need to get my husband to read this and get him on board. (lol)
Any additional comments?
I cannot begin to express in words how much I enjoyed this book!!!! I know I'll want to listen to it again, so I don't forget any important information-there was a lot. I am so thankful!
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- Ann
- 03-26-12
Excellent
Would you consider the audio edition of Real Boys to be better than the print version?
The abridged version includes necessary points without losing anything in the larger book. Audio is more compelling. The bullet points on how to help boys is particularly poignant.
What was the most compelling aspect of this narrative?
The way Pollack describes the boy code, myth of boys and mend and how parents can help.
What does William Pollack bring to the story that you wouldn’t experience if you just read the book?
The audio brings out the seriousness of the subject and need for our culture to crack the boy code.
Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?
No
Any additional comments?
Every parent, teacher or grandparent of boy must listen to REAL BOYS. Its simply fascinated and effectively describes the boy experience and the solutions for our culture.
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- Mike
- 08-20-12
A must read for all parents and adults in general.
Would you listen to Real Boys again? Why?
This book points out many of the ways society has taught us to assume that boys are tough and don't need the same affection that we give our girls.
Which character – as performed by William Pollack – was your favorite?
William Pollack was a great narrator.
What did you learn from Real Boys that you would use in your daily life?
My son will be a much more emotionally stable man as a result of what I learned in this book.
Any additional comments?
I loved this book. My opinion of boys of all ages has changed.
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- Prince
- 08-10-15
PJGS
Very Powerful book. Allows us to discover some largely ignored attributes about boys. I love this book. It sets the new foundation to gender equality
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