
Race, Monogamy, and Other Lies They Told You
Busting Myths About Human Nature
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Agustín Fuentes
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A compelling takedown of prevailing myths about human behavior, updated and expanded to meet the current moment.
There are three major myths of human nature: humans are divided into biological races; humans are naturally aggressive; and men and women are wholly different in behavior, desires, and wiring. Race, Monogamy, and Other Lies They Told You counters these pervasive and pernicious myths about human behavior. Agustín Fuentes tackles misconceptions about what race, aggression, and sex really mean for humans, and incorporates an accessible understanding of culture, genetics, and evolution that requires us to dispose of notions of "nature or nurture".
Presenting scientific evidence from diverse fields, including anthropology, biology, and psychology, Fuentes devises a myth-busting toolkit to dismantle persistent fallacies about the validity of biological races, the innateness of aggression and violence, and the nature of monogamy, sex, and gender. This revised and expanded edition provides up-to-date references, data, and analyses, and addresses new topics, including the popularity of home DNA testing kits and the lies behind ‘"incel" culture; the resurgence of racist, nativist thinking and the internet's influence in promoting bad science; and a broader understanding of the diversity of sex and gender.
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- Cindy Noel
- 01-26-25
And monogamy it is
Realist shit I’ve ever heard in my life. What an amazing piece of literature, just liberating and revolutionary, revolutionizing. I feel like a whole brand new person. This is what i go through to grow through. Applied immediately witht the right intention(s)
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- Parent of teen
- 01-30-23
Wanted to like this book
Intelligent sweet talking hypothesis that tries too hard to appear totally confident in its conclusions. There is little research supporting many conclusions and not enough balance in owning up to the stacking of arguments. Sad I was hoping for deeper research. I have to ask the professor to disclose all nonprofit funding for himself and the cited studies for philanthropic agenda of social conditioning is painfully presented as fact and any prior research discarded without a thought for re-examining the data sets. The new group think is still group think. Please do a better job on the revised edition and don’t rush to publish for the viral cashing in on the new trend. Your readers deserve your best work. Stand up them please.
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- Anonymous User
- 07-31-23
A very informative, but easy to follow book.
It was as previously stated very informative, if not a bit uncomfortable to realize how susceptible we all are to mythological thinking and how easily we can be fooled. A very good must read or listen in this case 5 outta 5
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- Nika
- 06-02-24
talks about monogamy
I finally got my answer about why I couldn't accept men being emotional. This book helped me with that and now im going to work on creating a safe space for My partner in my next relationship to be open with me. thanks a lot !
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