
Please Don't Say You Need Me
Biblical Answers for Codependency
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Deborah Seidel
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Jan Silvious
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Please Don’t Say You Need Me . . . is a common plea voiced by people trapped in unhealthy, codependent relationships. Confused by their conflicting emotions, they feel trapped between wanting to love and care for someone else and yet, at the same time, needing to escape from that person’s intense and suffocating demands for self-esteem. Jan Silvious offers practical, biblical answers for those dealing with codependency—actually, people-dependency—that can exist between mates, siblings, parents and children, and friends.
This book will answer questions such as:
- Who is the codependent person?
- What is a codependent relationship?
- What role does guilt play in a codependent relationship?
- Can Christians be codependent?
Jan Silvious answers these questions and shows you how to identify and break the cycle of a codependent relationship in a loving, scriptural manner. Here is insight, hope, and encouragement for replacing unhealthy ways of relating with a new approach that can bring balance and wholeness.
The appendixes are included in the audiobook companion PDF download.
PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.
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