
Nine Essential Conversations Before You Say I Do
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Gary Thomas
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In his popular book, 9 Essential Conversations before You Say I Do, author and pastor Gary Thomas, marriage and family therapist Dr. Steve Wilke and Rebecca Wilke, EdD help couples explore:
- What marriage means to each individual and whether this is a wise match
- How to engage in essential relational pursuits such as healthy conflict, sexual intimacy, and spiritual intimacy
- How to discuss in advance crucial aspects of marriage such as childrearing, finances, and marital roles
- Why asking hard questions now is better than asking them five years from now
With thoughtful questions that encourage couples to examine themselves and their relationships, 9 Essential Conversations before You Say I Do will help couples thrive not only in the early months of their marriage but also in the years to come.
Includes Guides and Questions.
©2013, 2021 Gary Thomas, Steve Wilke, and Rebecca Wilke (P)2025 David C CookCritic reviews
"Gary Thomas debunks the mythical search for a soul mate to help you choose a 'sole-mate'—someone who will lay down their life in faithful love. This biblically based book is for anyone who wants to be wise in their pursuit of a spouse." (Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott)
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