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Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them
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"Dr. Garbarino is a brilliant pioneer in charting a humane and intelligent course in preventing youth violence." (Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence)
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- Inez
- 10-25-16
Very informative and easy to read
I would recommend this book for anyone in the child development field working with boys or parents seeking resources and information. The book really touched on the fundamental theories in child development and why boys turn violent.
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- MBF
- 08-23-18
Wel written work on a tough topic
I highly recommend this work to anyone interested in the topic. Clear, easy to read, thorough!
Some of the audible file did not match my edition of the book, which I thought was the same. Minor issue
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- Jeffrey R
- 10-22-08
Worth it.
Very informative. Easy to listen to. This author does not drag it out. You get the info and then it's over.
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- Anonymous User
- 02-03-20
Light on a Dark Problem
If the solution to our nation's epidemic of youth violence lies in understanding, James Garbarino gives us the keys in his powerful book. I listened to it twice because it is so rich in perspective about a problem the causes for which -- as well as the solutions -- we ignore every day.
The worst of our boys all are products of their families, their schools, and the communities around them. They start out bad and receive worse. Dr. Garbarino uses his expert first- person insights to show us how these boys emerge from abusive, often life-threatening childhoods ready to give the world nothing but the same.
Can these boys be saved -- or can we keep more of them off the paths toward lethal violence to begin with? Dr. Garbarino believes so and he constructs a many-sided solution to shows us how.
Cotter Smith's tight narration lends gravity to a critical subject without ever making it sound heavy. I found "Lost Boys" an eye-opener well worth the 4-hour listen.
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- Jeremy Foster
- 04-13-18
One of my faviorite reads
Thank you Dr. Garbarino for you hard work and insight. Your message is by far the best when it comes to youth violence and has inspired me as a teacher.
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