
It's Either Her or Me
A Guide to Help a Mom and Her Daughter-in-Law Get Along
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There's nothing to worry about - you're not losing a son and you don't have to be gaining a rivlal.
For a mother who’s accustomed to having been number one in her son’s life, the arrival of a girlfriend, fiancé, or wife can be a complicated, confusing, and emotionally challenging event. Likewise, coexisting harmoniously with the mother of her partner can be an overwhelming challenge for any woman. Sons, often caught in the middle, are sometimes understandably reluctant to take sides.
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Editorial reviews
Narrator Rosanne Rubio has a wise, mature voice which lends a sense of gentle authority to this audiobook on the complex dynamics of the relationships between wives and their mothers-in-law. Relationship expert Ellie Slott Fisher examines the insecurities and jealousy that can occur on both sides, and she offers clear, practical solutions to help women cope by establishing boundaries and setting appropriate behavior. Rubio's reassuring and conversational tone will soothe anxious listeners and overcome any defensiveness, helping them make sense of this sensitive situation.
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- Cindy A Javan
- 05-17-18
If you’re a mother in law this book is blessing
This book has helped me in the most amazing way. I felt as though the author new me personally. I can’t say enough about it everything I have been struggling with was addressed.......just amazing!!! Thank you Mary for saving my relationship with my son and daughter in law.
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- Windee
- 12-11-17
found the advice to be right on.
This is a fun, practical book that is perfect for any MIL (mother-in-law), someone about to become a MIL or really any mom with adult children. This book addresses many serious and potentially problematic issues in a lighthearted way.
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