
It Wasn't Your Fault
Freeing Yourself From the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion
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Kate Rudd
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By:
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Beverly Engel
About this listen
Shame is one of the most destructive of human emotions. If you suffered childhood physical or sexual abuse, you may experience such intense feelings of shame that it almost seems to define you as a person. In order to begin healing, it's important for you to know that it wasn't your fault.
In this gentle guide, therapist and childhood abuse expert Beverly Engel presents a mindfulness and compassion-based therapeutic approach to help you overcome the debilitating shame that keeps you tied to the past. By following the step-by-step exercises in this audiobook, you'll gain a greater understanding of the root cause of your shame. And by cultivating compassion toward yourself, you will begin to heal and move past your painful experiences.
Recent studies show that trauma survivors, particularly those with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) resulting from abuse, can greatly benefit from incorporating elements of self-compassion into their treatment. Furthermore, the practice of self-compassion has been shown to decrease PTSD symptoms, including, self-criticism, thought suppression, and rumination.
This audiobook is based on the author's powerful and effective Compassion Cure program. With this audiobook, you will develop the skills needed to finally put a stop to the crippling self-blame that keeps you from moving on and being happy. You'll learn to focus on your strengths, your courage, and your extraordinary ability to survive. Most of all, you'll learn to replace shame with its counter emotion - pride.
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Sexual abuse knows no religious or social boundaries. The Wounded Heart is an intensely personal and specific look at this form of abuse. Dr. Allender explores the secret lament of the soul damaged by sexual abuse and lays hold of the hope buried there by the one whose unstained image we all bear. Includes information about false memory issues.
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- By Kelly Cea on 05-09-17
By: Dan B. Allender
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How to Win Every Argument (2nd Edition)
- The Use and Abuse of Logic
- By: Dr Madsen Pirie
- Narrated by: Chris Courtenay
- Length: 7 hrs and 52 mins
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In the second edition of this witty and infectious book, Madsen Pirie builds upon his guide to using - and indeed abusing - logic in order to win arguments. By including new chapters on how to win arguments in writing, in the pub, with a friend, on Facebook and in 140 characters (on Twitter), Pirie provides the complete guide to triumphing in altercations ranging from the everyday to the downright serious.
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- By Kindle Customer on 04-16-24
By: Dr Madsen Pirie
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Write It Down, Make It Happen
- Knowing What You Want and Getting It!
- By: Henriette Anne Klauser
- Narrated by: Mike Chamberlain
- Length: 5 hrs and 36 mins
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In Write It Down, Make It Happen, Henriette Anne Klauser, PhD, explains how simply writing down your goals in life is the first step toward achieving them. Writing can even help you understand what you want. In this book, you will hear stories about ordinary people who witnessed miracles large and small unfold in their lives after they performed the basic act of putting their dreams on paper. Klauser's down-to-earth tips and easy exercises are sure to get your creative juices flowing. Before you know it, you'll be writing your own ticket to success.
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Great Content
- By A. Baker on 03-16-18
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The Nice Girl Syndrome
- Stop Being Manipulated and Abused - and Start Standing Up for Yourself
- By: Beverly Engel
- Narrated by: Emily Durante
- Length: 8 hrs and 35 mins
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Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members manipulate you? Do coworkers take advantage of you? If this sounds familiar, listen to The Nice Girl Syndrome. In this breakthrough guide, renowned author and therapist Beverly Engel, who has helped thousands of women recognize and leave emotionally abusive relationships, can show you how to take control of your life and take care of yourself.
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The examples
- By Nina M on 02-26-25
By: Beverly Engel
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The Emotionally Abusive Relationship
- How to Stop Being Abused and How to Stop Abusing
- By: Beverly Engel
- Narrated by: Deanna Hurst
- Length: 10 hrs and 2 mins
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The number of people who become involved with partners who abuse them emotionally and/or who are emotionally abusive themselves is phenomenal, and yet emotional abuse is the least understood form of abuse. In this breakthrough book, Beverly Engel, one of the world's leading experts on the subject, shows us what emotional abuse is and what to do about it.
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Amazing SELF GROWTH
- By Tina Payne on 12-10-20
By: Beverly Engel
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Escaping Emotional Abuse
- Healing from the Shame You Don’t Deserve
- By: Beverly Engel
- Narrated by: Stephanie Richardson
- Length: 11 hrs and 13 mins
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In The Emotionally Abused Woman, therapist Beverly Engel introduced the concept of emotional abuse, one of the most subtle yet devastating forms of abuse within a relationship. Now Engel exposes the most destructive technique the abuser uses to break our spirit and gain control - and guides listeners on how to free themselves from the shame that can keep them from the life (and the love) they deserve.
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Excellent Audiobook - Suitable for Anyone
- By Anonymous for Privacy on 10-26-24
By: Beverly Engel
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Loving Him without Losing You
- How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself
- By: Beverly Engel
- Narrated by: Lessa Lamb
- Length: 12 hrs and 45 mins
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Do you frequently find yourself putting your lover's needs ahead of your own? Do you tend to lose yourself in your romantic relationships? Have you ever neglected your career, your friends, or even your health while in the midst of a love affair? Now, in this landmark book, Beverly Engel examines the intricate reasons why so many women submerge themselves in their relationships with men - and offers a straightforward, empowering program that you can use to free yourself from the powerful grip of this all-too-common problem and rediscover yourself as a Woman of Substance.
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Highly recommend
- By Hidalgo on 04-02-25
By: Beverly Engel
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How to Listen with Intention: The Foundation of True Connection, Communication, and Relationships
- How to be More Likable and Charismatic, Book 7
- By: Patrick King
- Narrated by: Russell Newton
- Length: 3 hrs and 13 mins
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Learn to connect, create rapport, develop trust, and build deep relationships. How to go from stranger to cherished friend in record time. How to Listen with Intention is ultimately an audiobook about relationships. Increase your emotional intelligence and people analyzing skills. Understand people two levels beneath their actual words. If you want to improve the quality of your relationships, understand conflict resolution, hear people’s deepest desires, and jump into people’s inner circles, this is the audiobook for you.
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Skipping parts of the book
- By Amazon Customer on 04-29-21
By: Patrick King
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The No Complaining Rule
- Positive Ways to Deal with Negativity at Work
- By: Jon Gordon
- Narrated by: Jon Gordon
- Length: 2 hrs and 1 min
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In the spirit of his international best seller, The Energy Bus, Jon Gordon once again shares an inspiring and enlightening story that reveals a powerful way to tackle the biggest problem in business and life - the negativity that costs organizations billions of dollars and impacts the morale, productivity, and health of individuals and teams.
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A Great Message!
- By morton on 12-17-08
By: Jon Gordon
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Focus on What Matters
- A Collection of Stoic Letters on Living Well
- By: Darius Foroux
- Narrated by: Darius Foroux
- Length: 5 hrs and 3 mins
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Why is it so hard to live well amidst the chaos and noise? While you might think this is a problem of the modern world, it's a timeless issue.
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Really Enjoyed the book
- By Anonymous User on 07-22-24
By: Darius Foroux
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No One to Save Me
- My true story of child sexual abuse, abandonment, neglect and a mother’s betrayal. This is how I survive
- By: Melissa Jordan
- Narrated by: Eleanor Shannon
- Length: 3 hrs and 3 mins
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Imagine being an innocent seven-year-old girl with a broke, single mum. Now imagine your mum meets a man who can give her a nice house and a better life in exchange for you. That’s what happened to me. For years, I suffered neglect and psychological and sexual abuse from him, with my mum being a silent witness. When I was finally able to get rid of him and escape, I didn’t know that my life was only going to get worse.
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Amazing
- By Christopher K on 04-23-21
By: Melissa Jordan
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Co-Parenting After Divorcing a Narcissist
- By: Isabella Francis
- Narrated by: Sera Chance
- Length: 5 hrs and 51 mins
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Now that you’ve broken free, there’s something that will shock you—they still have a hold over you! They’re still involved in your life in a big way because you have a child together. Now you have to co-parent in two different households and find a way to move forwards for the benefit of your child.
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Unqualified Bad Advice
- By Amaya on 06-26-24
By: Isabella Francis
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- Amazon Customer
- 05-27-22
VERY HELPFUL
Every word of this book resonated with me…..Listened to it twice back to back…
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- Neverhome
- 04-03-25
Fantactic
The narrators constant reminding the reader that the trauma of various abuses are not the victim's fault.
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- Ma'am Ma'am
- 07-18-15
Good information
If you lived through parental abuse or rejection or know someone who has, this book has allot of answers to the perplexing problems this type of situation can cause. It is also a good resource if you have had the backlash of someone who has lived through it and it now effects you.
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- Jane Villa
- 05-30-17
Great book!
The sample hooked me and I'm so glad I brought this book. It helped me break a bad abusive 3 year relationship.
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- shanghaishaman
- 04-20-21
One of the best for childhood ptsd
Along with the books by Pete Walker this has been a godsend in helping to heal my cptsd.
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- J. Badessa
- 06-21-18
Thank you for helping us
You're doing such good work and have already helped my wife and me immensely. We can't thank you enough.
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- kipkip
- 09-17-15
Will relisten to this one regularly
If you could sum up It Wasn't Your Fault in three words, what would they be?
Hopeful, compassionate, understanding
What was one of the most memorable moments of It Wasn't Your Fault?
Just, whenever you can relate to it, the way she just almost seems to be like this is you isnt it, you do this, dont you? But you know, its okay, here is why and here's what we do next. Look at from this angle and this point of view.
What about Kate Rudd’s performance did you like?
Perfect, she was gentle and sweet. Made the books compassion come out. It was great
What’s an idea from the book that you will remember?
All of it, I have to go through it again though, it's a lot to take in even though I listened to it for more than a week. I found myself having to take breaks and listen to other things. Because she hits so close to home and is so soft and gentle about it, I found myself emotionally raw a few times. Just had to take this one slow. I will listen many times to this one. For the help its given and her words, she herself being a survivor, really hit deep.
Any additional comments?
If you have any abuse in your life, this is a great book to read to find a deeper understanding and more love for yourself.
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- Desiree Thompson
- 12-13-18
thank you wish this was available 30 years ago.
I really wish this had been available 30 yrs ago instead of having to struggle to find my path do similar to this
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- Tina Payne
- 04-28-21
Completely Enlightening
For 30 years, I’ve neglected figuring out why I have been the way I have. This book has open my eyes, mind, heart, and soul. Thank you, Beverly, for your wisdom, knowledge and compassion.
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- Rick I.
- 04-16-16
Excellent book!
I found this book be very insightful and useful. I highly recommend it to everyone who suffered from or is suffering from abuse.
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