You keep falling for the ones who need fixing. But who’s saving you?
You give and give—your love, your time, your emotional labor—hoping he’ll see it, appreciate it, rise to meet you. But he never does. You tell yourself he just needs more time. More patience. More of you. Until there's nothing left. You’re not crazy. You’re not broken. You’re just exhausted from calling pain “passion” and chaos “connection.”

This book is your wake-up call—and your soft landing.
In I Wanted a Partner, Not a Project, author Eira Solen gently walks with you through the quiet ache of loving men who couldn't love you back. Through raw storytelling and emotional wisdom, she helps you uncover the patterns that keep pulling you into fixer roles, and offers the healing clarity you need to choose yourself without guilt, without apology. It’s not about blame—it’s about reclaiming your voice, your energy, and your peace.

If you've ever felt like you were doing all the emotional work in your relationships—this book will feel like coming home.
You’ll learn to stop romanticizing potential, set boundaries that protect your heart, and finally feel what it’s like to be loved without conditions. It’s time to stop proving you’re lovable—and start believing you already are. If you're ready to break the cycle and return to yourself, this book is your beginning.