Tired of being told to "just breathe" by people who’ve never had their group chat melt down at 2 a.m.? How to Get the Stick Out of Your Ass is the antidote to toxic positivity, Pinterest perfection, and emotional labor disguised as empowerment. Written in a voice that’s equal parts sharp therapist and fed-up best friend, this book is a survival guide for high-functioning women who are chronically over-committed, emotionally constipated, and sick of pretending they’re fine.

This isn’t a mindfulness manifesto or another pep talk about work-life balance. It’s a call to unclench. To stop managing everyone else’s feelings like you’re the HR department of the universe. To let go of the invisible rulebook that says you have to be nice, polished, productive, and poised—or else. From the cult of likability to the myth of “doing it all,” this book dismantles the social scripts that keep you exhausted and resentful, then hands you practical tools (and zero affirmations) to start living on your own terms.

If you’re burnt out from people-pleasing, allergic to woo-woo wellness advice, and ready to swap the spreadsheet for actual sanity, this is your book. With deadpan humor, Buddhist pragmatism, and cognitive-behavioral clarity, you’ll learn to set boundaries without apology, speak plainly without guilt, and forgive like it’s a strategic exit—not a moral duty.

Let this be the year you drop the act, the pressure, and the damn stick. You’re not broken. You’re just tired of pretending to be easy.