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Julie McKay
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Jessica Valenti
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Double standards are nothing new. Women deal with them every day. Take the common truism that women who sleep around are sluts while men are studs. Why is it that men grow distinguished and sexily gray as they age while women just get saggy and haggard? Have you ever wondered how a young woman is supposed to be both virginal and provocatively enticing at the same time? Isn’t it unfair that working moms are labeled "bad” for focusing on their careers while we shake our heads in disbelief when we hear about the occasional stay-at-home dad?
Jessica Valenti, author of Full Frontal Feminism, calls out the double standards that affect every woman. Whether Jessica is pointing out the wage earning discrepancies between men and women or revealing all of the places that women still aren’t equal to their male counterpartsbe it in the workplace, courtroom, bedroom, or homeshe maintains her signature wittily sarcastic tone. With sass, humor, and in-your-face facts, this book informs and equips women with the tools they need to combat sexist comments, topple ridiculous stereotypes (girls aren’t good at math?), and end the promotion of lame double standards.
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- Amazon Customer
- 02-28-24
A well acted intro to feminist consciousness
A good primer on the double standards in our society. A strong entry level book for new feminists.
If you're a regular consumer of feminist literature, it's likely you've heard all of this before and I'd skip.
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- Katherine
- 01-29-15
Very interesting
This book is a really interesting commentary on sexism in everyday life, a lot of which I hadn't thought about before. It's written with a combination of humour, experience and information that make it easy to listen to and easy to think about.
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