
Healing Honestly
The Messy and Magnificent Path to Overcoming Self-Blame and Self-Shame
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Narrated by:
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Rebecca Gibel
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By:
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Alisa Zipursky
About this listen
The least retraumatizing book on childhood sexual abuse.
For survivors, by a survivor.
Healing Honestly is a candid, poignant, and often funny survivor-to-survivor guide to navigating the salty waters of untrue stories and victim-blaming narratives that survivors of child sex abuse hear every day.
Survivors of child sex abuse (CSA) are inundated with untrue stories of their abuse, the aftermath, and what their healing journey should look like. The truth is those stories are a bunch of hot garbage.
Healing Honestly is a guide for survivors, written by a survivor, helping to break through the negative self-talk and debunk the myths that impact victims of CSA, such as:
- There is a “real” survivor out there, and we are not it.
- It happened so long ago that we should be over it by now.
- We are having too much sex because of our trauma, and also, we are having too little sex because of our trauma.
With an approachable style that makes heavy topics not so damn scary, this book shows how trauma survivors can learn to identify these untrue stories that often come up in dating, in friendships, in families, at work, and more. Listeners will discover strategies for turning down the volume on the bullshit so that they can hear their own wisdom and inner truth more clearly.
Full of wit and humor, Healing Honestly offers practical strategies for survivors of sex abuse to support themselves in living full and vibrant lives.
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- Deann Wood
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If you struggle....READ THIS BOOK
I am a 40+ year complex PTSD and CSA survivor. I have read multiple books and have finally found a book that not only is helpful and you can re-read and glean things from it over and over. There is some salty language Used (which I don't mind at all), just goes to show me that the author of this book is human. I loved the chapter topics which aren't usually topics covered. Read the book and than let me know if I was correct in my review.
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